So my girlfriend is Korean and doesn't speak English, and I don't speak Korean, so basically all of our communication is in Chinese. Several of my friends and family have pointed out that this is weird. I agree, though I also feel it has some advantages over dating a native speaker, specifically I have found that using a mutual second language to communicate is more egalitarian than dating a Chinese person and only speaking either Chinese or English, since in that case one person is always the "language authority" and that authority tends to spill over into a false feeling of superiority or inferiority depending on which end of the language you're on. Luckily my Chinese sucks as much as my girlfriend's. Just wondering if anyone else out there has had this experience and would like to weigh in on its advantages or downsides.