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Q: Have you witnessed female public shaming of males here?

So I had to wait for my wife to get some train tickets tonight and this bitch excuse for a female was screaming and hollering at the short stature peasant, dark farm tan in a cheap black suit not tailored very well with the long wrap around belt trying to look professional. He appeared to be 25 to 35, the lady maybe 40, could be his mother or girlfriend,  In the 20 minutes I was there she kicked him 3 times, spit on his face 4 times, and of course right in the front door of the ticket purchase and pick up area.

 

I try to avoid social contact anymore but despite my hermit ways this has happen to me about 5 times in the last 8 years.

A female shaming publicly a male and the male taking it, I would rather sucker punch a cop and live in a jail than have to depend on a woman who humiliates me in public. I would shoot my own mother if she did this behavior and Chinese men don't even raise their voice.

 

So the grandparents lived with coal under the bed, open the windows, so everybody opens windows even with central air and heat.

 

Most Chinese will avoid confrontation and these guys will not even raise their voice, just stoically take this shit, and most men stoic or violent reactionary are not going to change their decision or action from the ravings of a female, so were did this female behavior come from?

 

So many kids wear glasses not because Asian have bad eyes, too many people, not enough trees, not enough paper, smaller fonts to read to save paper and pages in the books, have to wear glasses.

 

So were did this public shaming by women come from in  a male dominated sexists society, this has me perplexed,

some public shaming by everybody with a herd mentality during the red guard days, but were in the hell did this behavior come from. In the west you shame a man in public, he may never speak to you again, change address, and think of you as a dead entity. Also women hitting boyfriends, husbands and male classmates in public, playful or otherwise.

 

Any body got an idea where this bizarre behavior originates from?

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You can characterize China's culture as dominated by males, but many women are the dominant party in many relationships. 

 

Although public shaming is not limited to Asia, it is a common feature of most Asian cultures.  Public shaming is a sign of dominance and retribution, especially in light of some real or perceived wrong. Sometimes men and governments do the shaming, and sometimes women are the shamers in public.

 

What motivated that woman to publicly attack and berate that man today? Perhaps it was the loss of face, which could be for many different reasons. In all likelihood, those female shamers you saw in the last 8 years played a dominant role in their relationships to those men, not just on the day you witnessed the shaming, but in general. And they loss face in some manner. So I'm going to go with a loss of face and an existing dominant position to explain how and why the women were able to publicly shame those men.

If people in western societies were more prone to air their dirty laundry in public, we'd probably see public shaming of men by women as well, at least in those relationships where the women are much more dominant than more submissive men.

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Masochist hangin' w/ a Sadist?

 

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they (males) are so used to physical assault here it just seems normal to them?  I see moms jerk kids (practically toddlers) around by the arm and scream in their face nearly everytime I go to the RT mart.  Would bet $5 they slap 'em or hit 'em back at home behind closed doors.

Where it comes from?  Have no idea.

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You can characterize China's culture as dominated by males, but many women are the dominant party in many relationships. 

 

Although public shaming is not limited to Asia, it is a common feature of most Asian cultures.  Public shaming is a sign of dominance and retribution, especially in light of some real or perceived wrong. Sometimes men and governments do the shaming, and sometimes women are the shamers in public.

 

What motivated that woman to publicly attack and berate that man today? Perhaps it was the loss of face, which could be for many different reasons. In all likelihood, those female shamers you saw in the last 8 years played a dominant role in their relationships to those men, not just on the day you witnessed the shaming, but in general. And they loss face in some manner. So I'm going to go with a loss of face and an existing dominant position to explain how and why the women were able to publicly shame those men.

If people in western societies were more prone to air their dirty laundry in public, we'd probably see public shaming of men by women as well, at least in those relationships where the women are much more dominant than more submissive men.

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It depends on who's family is the richest? Is she an ideal beauty? And whether or not the guy is a complete loser. 

 

In general men have the upper hand otherwise, they have their mistresses, women are stuck caring for the children

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I wonder if it's a geographical thing.  I don't know where you are based but up here in Dongbei I've witnessed scenarios that start similar to this many times but I'd say 80% of the time the man puts an end to it one way or another.  Most of the time this is done by shouting back but I've also seen men just walk away only to be chased down by the woman and have shoes thrown at them! Then there are the more unsavory conclusions...

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Both sexes in China abuse each other,  the difference is women  apparently  enjoy public attention more while men opt for more privacy.  Only winning matters.  No unacceptable means.

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Well it seems shaming comes from Confucious himself, I guess I should have surmised this, but I really wanted to believe it was a modern behavior, not a repeating cultural nonsense idea.

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