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Q: How can I make new foreign friends? I'm a Chinese

I found this site occasionally, but many sites were blocked. You know, how difficult it is for a person to climb over a wall. It's hard for me to get to know foreign friends. I'm a Chinese girl living in a city near Guangzhou.

4 weeks 1 day ago in  General  - China

 
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1) you will find foreigners at English Corners. These people will be more open to meeting locals if you meet them for a few times in a neutral setting.

2) don't force yourself on groups of foreigners who are out enjoying themselves - they may not want to interact with local people.

3) don't assume that when a foreigner speaks to you that they are your freind. Friendship can take time to develop.

4) don't make demands such as their phone number, picture etc.

5) be natural - foreigners can tell if someone is looking for 'bragging rights' and not a genuine friendship.

6) be patient.

7) don't ask question after question - people don't like being interrogagted by strangers.

8) don't say "will you be my friend?" - this is what a child will say, not an adult.

9) post on this site, respond to any comment you get on this post. This will show you are a genuine person.

 

10) LISTEN. Listen to what the foreigner says, and answer them if they ask a question. Very often i have found that Chinese people fail to read though everything in English and focus only on a small part. The same happens when foreigners talk, i have found that Chinese people don't listen when i ask questions or ignore what i might want.

 

good luck.

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1) you will find foreigners at English Corners. These people will be more open to meeting locals if you meet them for a few times in a neutral setting.

2) don't force yourself on groups of foreigners who are out enjoying themselves - they may not want to interact with local people.

3) don't assume that when a foreigner speaks to you that they are your freind. Friendship can take time to develop.

4) don't make demands such as their phone number, picture etc.

5) be natural - foreigners can tell if someone is looking for 'bragging rights' and not a genuine friendship.

6) be patient.

7) don't ask question after question - people don't like being interrogagted by strangers.

8) don't say "will you be my friend?" - this is what a child will say, not an adult.

9) post on this site, respond to any comment you get on this post. This will show you are a genuine person.

 

10) LISTEN. Listen to what the foreigner says, and answer them if they ask a question. Very often i have found that Chinese people fail to read though everything in English and focus only on a small part. The same happens when foreigners talk, i have found that Chinese people don't listen when i ask questions or ignore what i might want.

 

good luck.

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i'm foreign

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It is hilarous. Buy a ticket and fly out of China

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