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Q: how to chase a girl
well you guys may laugh at this stupid question..but I have been thinking about this for several days and really want to know some different opinions from you guys.Also as you can tell from my name,Im a Chinese man whois very very confused about why so many Chinese girls are with male foreigners and so few Chinese boys get female foreigners.Besides those bullshXt about size,are there any other reasons leading to that?
I recently make friend with an English girl and she is so cute that I come up with an idea why not try to date her?but i havent been abroad and dont know much things about that except in some films.there is another detail which annoys me badly,when we went out everyone stared at us.come on!what the hell is wrong with us?or maybe i should say what the hell is wrong with you.
anyway as I think this is about more than just relationship.so I found this part of forum to get some help.any advise and thoughts are appreciated.
plus im not a Wumao..so dont worry about that and I discoverd this place last week you guys are so funny..even you always mock about china but its ok.we Chinese do that quite often too.
Just take it easy and try to know what she likes and dislikes.
It's not a question. "How to chase a girl" would be an implication you are about to demonstrate your method.
I often find that chasing a girl with a blood soaked machete seems to do the trick what what what
Okay, serious answer, no jokes.
The first thing is to spend time with her, in a neutral environment where she will feel comfortable. Something like a coffee shop or tea shop. It is a good way to spend some time alone with the person and chat, without her feeling like you will try to pressure her into bed (unlike bars or disco's where that could be what she infers).
If that goes well, you can suggest some sight seeing in your city. I am sure that there are some interesting cultural and historical places that you can show her (make sure to read a bit about them so you can answer some of her questions!).
You can also combine that with a "lunch date" (just do NOT call it that!). It is a step up from the coffee but not quite dinner (which may or not have romantic implications). The important thing here is to get to know each other, and to get each other to feel comfortable and relaxed in your company.
You can also help her out with errands and things. Here you need to be careful! If you do this too much, you will be seen as just a "helper" instead of a friend. What you can do, is combine errands with some sight seeing or something.
Playing sports together is also a good way to spend time with each other. Just take your time and be first her friend. From friendship, other things can develop.
You say that she is from the West, from England. This could be a good thing too, as many western women are not too shy to invite the boy out too. If she feels comfortable with you and if she likes you, she may also ask "if you have time this weekend" or some other date.
Whatever you do, do NOT say that you want to "practice your English with her". At best, she will adopt a tutor/student relationship. At worse, she wont want to go out with you.
Talk about yourself, your family, your goals in life. Also, listen to her. Ask her about her goals in life, her family, etc. Do NOT talk about money. Many westerners do not like to discuss money not even with our friends.
Finally, relax, and be yourself. Try to have fun. If you have fun, then she will probably have fun too.
Good luck to you!!!
TedDBayer:
and don't do too much for her. don't smother her with attention
