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Q: How to find a foreign guy to be my boyfriend ?

It's always difficult in Qingdao. Foreign guys here are so Shy .. O.M.G   They won't say anything to u even if  they like u . How could i do ??

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Everyone's being so nice here - let me balance it a little.

 

Your starting idea is that 'foreign' guys you meet like you and want to talk to you but don't. Why do you think that? Perhaps they're simply not as interested as you think. Just because a man checks you out doesn't mean he wants to have your babies.

 

I don't think I met a single shy guy in China. I met some who liked their own company and didn't need to be around people all the time, but that's not the same as shy.

 

Regardless, the adult thing to do is to talk to people you find interesting and see where that takes you.

GuilinRaf:

Sorry Miss A, your balance failed. Your advice was also "nice". And, good point of suggesting she find someone SHE likes rather than the other way around.

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Thanks GR. Pogger, you'd be a busy lad, there's half a billion of them!

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Learn english first hehe

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hehe that is exactly what i am doing now .

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First step is you should probably start shaving.  Most foreigners dont like to date a girl that looks like a hairy monkey.  Second step is difficult because assuming you are Chinese, you probably dont look so hot, so maybe your just SOL!  Shock

mArtiAn:

  Haha, I get it, you've tried it on with a load of Chinese girls and got shot down. Landed hard, didn't ye? Hurt your pride, didnit? Poor baby. It's okayyy, it's okayyy, shhhh, shhhhh, mama still loves her baby.

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martian is right. this dude don't like girls

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Actually nope, I haven't, again as I've previously stated, I came from living in Korea and for 3 years and the ugliest girls there are STILL prettier than the models they have walking around here.  Plus my friends have told me about the horror stories of how childish MOST of these girls are and how materialistic MOST of these girls are, so I'll pass.  Have fun with buying her a house here in Shanghai/Beijing and momma-in-law moving in bro!

 

(note the caps meaning not all girls and for those of you with an average IQ and not offended, skip this part)

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TedDBayer:

I'll have to see Korea, but the only Korean girl I met was chunky. I'm not bothered by what little body hair Chinese have. Some don't have any, any where. Look at more of them. I'm not shaving my chest.

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there was no need for that, im sure you can give advice without being rude, maybe  its true that you had some bad experiences with girls or dont have much luck with girls, even in china where you will find lots of girls willing to date a foreigner

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Again, it probably needs to be said tho.  The quality of these girls and the ratio of the good ones to the airhead, shopping/money skanks, your better off finding Waldo. 

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haha why do you guys bother?? look at his name... hes just bored and trolling, just give him a thumbs down and be on your way....

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Noooo, feed me Mike I'm hungry!!!

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you should give him a sign that you like him. like a wink of an eye or a smile. if he sees u like him he will think its ok to say hi.

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Does that work for you?

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when you say foreign  ...what is that ??  east indian?  iranian? congolese? japanese ....  or you just want to know a white guy from australia (flash him a Foster's) or a Canadian (flash him a hockey puck) or an American (flash him a stars and stripes)

Victoria1987:

Very funny .it is so easy to find a foreign man.But very hard to find some one is truly good.

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stan118:

what you mean is its easy to find a  man, but hard to find a  good man, what you just said makes most of us look bad compared to chinese guys, 

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Victoria1987:

It is also hard to find a good sheep among chinese men.

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MissA:

At the risk of being pedantic, nobody drinks Fosters. If she walks around carrying a cold, spare Coopers pale ale, she can't go wrong wink

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Fosters is Australian for 'shit' :)

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She is a 14 years old girl.........Don't be serious..

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KristenSwan:

i MEAN a american or european boy 

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chenhan:

Hey,guys,NOT ALL CHINESE GIRLS ARE LIKE THIS!

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Yes,guys sometimes are very shy,I agree.So does gals.It takes a lot of guts to tell someone you really like him.For me,I am afraid I might be not beautiful enough or maybe I am not that young.Guys also might think you are too amazing,afraid you might refuse them or maybe they see you are in rush,they dont want to bother you. A lot of reasons there also.Go,girl,take a big step to speak to the shy guy you like first.

PS:Your English is good:)

crimochina:

from that photo your always beautiful enough unless he likes sheep

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Victoria1987:

Thanks,but I am 25,I am feel there has many younger girls.

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Sidicas:

Doesn't matter you're 25.  Foreigners don't care as much about your age as Chinese guys do.  So don't worry :)

 

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LAR:

Right Sidicas!

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Victoria1987:

I just had a emotion attack.Seriously I don't think 25 is old.cas my little sister who always tells me your close to 30,but you are still single,sometimes she makes me sensitive,but just for a short time,she can never makes me really feel old,teachnically I am not old.Sometimes I hate her,she is so unbelievelable traditional.She has no idear of the outside world,seriously most chinese get married so early than most westerners.My entire family are like that,sometimes it is very good to have a job in a big city to be independent to get away from these voices:why you still don't have a boyfriend?You need to get married?That guy is from a good family,you need to consider him(Then my voice in my heart wispering:Come on,I like white or little brown guy,don't these local men)

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Alot of foreigners think (and maybe right) that everyone that speaks to us for no reason wants something. Try a smile and a just say ''hello''. Not all foreigners speak English. There are French, Russian etc. No English speaking French guy will say hello if you don't say 'bonjour''

 Men are more inclined to speak to women than men casually. I found it rare that a woman would smile and say hello without me talking first.
If a foreign guy has a girl friend, he wouldn't say Hi.

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well if you meet someone that you like just go upto them and and start a conversation you only live once, and dont be scared to tell someone you like them, dont think thats its the guys responsibility  to make the first move, and if you tell him you like him and he is not interested its not the end of the world im sure you can find another guy ow and dont mention the fact that you are looking for a foreigner 

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Just DONT say you want to practice your English....

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I wrote the book on attracting foreign men. I just never read it, if you know what I mean.

I would be happy to invite you , vicky and any   other beautiful young lady to my free seminar on how to attract a foreign guy (to be held in my apartment). the 2nd part, how to keep a foreign guy, is priced at 2000rmb. but if you choose to sign up for the how to please a foreign guy (private lessons only and you must sign a blank waiver), you can take the 2nd part for free.

Classes start next week , Hurry up and PM me!

 

my seminars have received rave reviews. one student said "first class was on how not to meet pervs from the internet. the irony is clearly lost on this creep."

 

a student from my last class gushed, "in the lesson about how not to let a guy touch your 'tits' , in his role plays, he never let me succeed. and these were his tips and they failed all 30 times"

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You can attract foreign guys by seducing them ……very easy.. they are always looking for sex.......

LAR:

"they..............sex." WRONG!!!!!! :(  You asshole. Why do you write such UNTRUE garbage?!

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Victoria1987:

wooohooo

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Mr LAR perfect, put your hand in your asshole hehehehehehe:)

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try facebook / skype /msn / yahoo messenger.. search the onces at your city... start friendship... shy ones are normally very open over internet.. once you get to chat for a week.... then he will for sure ask you out if he is interested... or else.. look for another.. Laughing out loud  

Victoria1987:

No,it takes too much time,start conversation with expats in the real world you meet.Least first you kown he is your taste,then comes to the personality.

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I agree with this.  As a shy foreigner I did this and just traveled to the city my girlfriend lives in Guangdong, all the way from USA. You're less likely to find somebody who is just a "player" (ie: a guy who sleeps around with a lot of women). I got my first girlfriend in my life at 28 years old and I met her on the Internet and traveled all the way to China to be with her. I'm very busy everyday so I don't ever go out and actively try to meet girls whether I'm single or not. I'm pretty independent in that I don't ever rely on others to survive, unlike some people. Strong college education and I was making $80,000 a year back in the USA when I quit my job. I'm just in China to be with my girlfriend and relax.

 

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Here's my best advice, girl-to-girl.

If you want to meet foreign guys, find out where they usually hang out in their free time. Maybe it's a bar, or a cafe, or a coffee shop. Usually bars, sad to say--so maybe that's not the best place to go, because you don't often find love in bars. If it's a cafe or coffee shop, see if you can get a part time job there. This would help you practice your English, too. Or just spend time there whenever you can.

Or try some online dating websites. Or join Couchsurfing.com, and attend meetings in your city.

But, quite frankly, foreign men are no better and no worse than Chinese men. A lot of the foreign men that come to China are looking for just one thing (girls), and they won't stick to just one. They drink too much. They do drugs. They're running away from old problems back at home. They're not worth your time. But there are some good ones, and if you try to get past their shyness (and yours), maybe you can find what your looking for.

Good luck!

thedude:

Are you personally jaded from past experience or do you buy the typical stereotypes your countrymen feed you?

I have done my best not to stereotype Chinese people so I am not sure how your insinuation is any better?

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I'd say you're wrong about foreign men, at least with me however, I don't lie, cheat, steal or beat women like the Chinese.

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tauney:

Uh...what made you think I'm Chinese?

And I am speaking from experience. I'm the only white female in my city, so I spend a lot of time with the "foreign guys". Most of them are manwhores. And I said "no better and no worse". I have a Chinese boyfriend. He's better than the foreign guys I know here, and actually better than every man I've met in my life. But some of the foreign guys are better than some of the Chinese guys I know, too. I'm just saying that every culture has its fair share of "bad" men. I've seen lots of white guys back home beating up on their girlfriends, too.

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MissA:

Dude, did you seriously think that was the writing of a Chinese girl? She's clearly a native speaker! And it's very good advice, although I had a much better experience of meeting decent foreign guys than she seems to have. Going to bars and throwing herself at the nearest foreign looking guy would be a disastrous approach if she's looking for a boyfriend rather than just a f*ck buddy for the evening.

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its simple, just find me hehehe. actually girls are girls and girls are different from one to another so also men, I personally like joking with girls whether I know her or not specially Chinese girls, and i impress them this way, men in general like active girls who can approach to them and tell them "hey guy I really like you" that will definitively wake him up and consequently make him act with great joy and happiness, some girls like boys and never confess, that's a very big mistake because maybe you might have a sister or friend then that boy may like her and ask her out, then you will be the loser for being too reserved and then develop hatred towards your friend or sister while she actually did not know anything about your interest towards the man. remember this, what soever you desire say it, believe it, behave it and you will have it done,don't only  take care take also charge and see you at the top because that's where you belong to, good luck.

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I will give you the best pickup line for an "ice breaker", just walk up to any guy and say " Is that an iPhone in your pocket or are you glad to see me?"

KristenSwan:

hehe i bet it will be a nice try !

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i don't know...

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I am really sick of questions like this.Yeah,foreigners are soooooo shy,they are not as open as you.Could you still be more open?

KristenSwan:

i am not judging or conplaning .  i dont get your point .

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I said clearly enough,i am sick of questions like this.Focus on improving yourself rather than finding "foreign" boyfriends in all ways,that's what you really need to do.People should find a partner in terms of personality,thought,attitude towards life,and the others rather than nationalities.But you put nationality on priority,that's the problem.

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version A

- all foreigners are to shy to talk to me!

version B

- all foreigners are here only to pick up a girl!

 

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is there something between? maybe it is reality. 

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other part that is interesting...

- why do You want FOREIGN guy to make Him Your boyfriend?  

 

 

LAR:

Spot on White! Ha..YES..is there some reality? I think that this gal that is sooooooo hot to meet a foreign boyfriend needs a REALITY CHECK! In fact, I would say the same for some other Chinese gals looking to meet a foreign guy. You wouldn't believe some of the personals ads that I've seen..and how friggin PICKY/CHOOSEY some/lot of these gals are!! ;0 Seriously!! "even if they like you." Hmm, how does she know FOR A FACT that they like her? * Good call..MissA!! :) Props to you!

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Everyone's being so nice here - let me balance it a little.

 

Your starting idea is that 'foreign' guys you meet like you and want to talk to you but don't. Why do you think that? Perhaps they're simply not as interested as you think. Just because a man checks you out doesn't mean he wants to have your babies.

 

I don't think I met a single shy guy in China. I met some who liked their own company and didn't need to be around people all the time, but that's not the same as shy.

 

Regardless, the adult thing to do is to talk to people you find interesting and see where that takes you.

GuilinRaf:

Sorry Miss A, your balance failed. Your advice was also "nice". And, good point of suggesting she find someone SHE likes rather than the other way around.

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Thanks GR. Pogger, you'd be a busy lad, there's half a billion of them!

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For me the major obstacle is the language barrier. I may smile at a female and even have some level of attraction, but if I do not know they speak English it is unlikely I will approach them as I could not communicate effectively.

 

There are also the girls who have different motives. I had 1 ask me for an I-Pad after the first date and another who asked for 30,000 RMB so her grandmother  could have an operation (asked on the first date).

 

I simply do not find it appealing when a woman's only interest is my package, (compensation package that is).

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How about not asking this question here?!!!!!......

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How hard is it to understand that this website isn't a love advice board?

Not only is this not the right place, but "How to find a foreigner" makes you look superficial as hell.

Mr_spoon:

Please let this thread sink to the last page. I know the name is eye-catching, but try to resist posting.

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  Easy; you take the number 14 bus to changjinglu, get off at Pizza Hut, 3rd floor above the restaurant, number 8, mine is the blue bell, ring three times and i'll come to the door in a basque and matching codpiece. Good times baby!

GuilinRaf:

Oh Lord. I just HAD to read that while eating....cool

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  What you eating, fish? Fancy a piece of cod?

  Yeh, sorry, that was wrong. Just.........wrong.

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...whimper....

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Ha ha, you live above Pizza Slut?

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Only in my gym-baggy-nation

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Seriously,I don't understand why you want to find a foreign guy to be your bf? you want to  try something new ?or just found foreign guys are so attractive or something else.?

 

My point is,Don't stick with just foreign guys but other guys like Chinese,there is a Chinese saying,the more you expect,the more disappointed you will be. all you need to do is,take it easy and see how it goes.,Be friends first ,then move forward if both are ready,no point to hurry .that's what I did with my husband. I am a Chinese and My husband is an Australian . we met online  and He was in Australia at that time,after talking to each other for  around 6 months ,He came to China and we met .2 and half months later ,He moved to China for me and i went to Australia for a holiday to met  his family and friends.We got married after living together for 1 year.and my husband is Poor but I married him because of true love.its what I want. and we are so happy together.

 

Hope it helps.

Good Luck.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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my ex bf broke up with me ., AFter that i could not fall in anisn boys anymore

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Sorry to hear that and Hope you can find a foreign bf soon.

Good luck.

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i guess im old fashioned but what happen to dropping a book and or your phone in front of guy to see if he stops and picks it up for you, ive had this pulled on me many times on the bus here in china. the wink is much better though , it says come over and ask for my phone number, never failed me yet.

minor irritation now that im married, but my wife is not traditional , she wont let me have a small wife , mistress , etc. forgot to put that in the prenup, damn lol

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Ok, I'll be your boy friend, just remind me that I promised you that when you see me.

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You could act a little slutty, I don't know some people like that. Show some leg they might come to you. Isn't there a saying that goes: "Any woman can seduce a man" There you go you have to seduce him first!!

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