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Q: How to handle Chinese girlfriend who can't admit her wrong?

I'm afraid my Chinese girlfriend might develop resistance to alcohol. When we had her first argument (she said you can't just go to random people and do the spin-o-rama high five, how silly of her!) it took only a glass of wine for her to admit her mistake. But now to calm my Chinese girlfriend after a argument it takes 3/4 of the bottle, while the other fourth is "because of taste good".

I know a day I will have to find a plan b. I will never hit her without her asking, and I have no idea how it can be handled, so I'm looking four opinion. Halp?

12 years 35 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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So you are asking what you should do once you have made this gf an alcoholic?

Simply trade her in on another model.

It is sort of like do not get too attached to your dog because someday you may need to eat it.

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No no no! I really love her and have no intention of trading her! She's really fun, we do lot of jokes together, and we often dance together in the living room She even try to learn choregraphy of Wild Wild West because she knows I really like the movie! We really share bond, and I don't want her to become alcoholic, this is why I'm looking for plan b, because I will not buy her two bottles of wine a day!

We really share a bond together, and I don't want to break it by her becoming alcoholic! that would be wrong of her! Do you have any ideas Martin?

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Getting halp from moar and moar people is like spin-o-rama high-fiving new friends on answers.echinacities.com with a tip of the hat finishing move.

 
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I gave you plan B.

There are 1.3 billion Chinese. 20% more women than men.

The pool is deep.

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Do you have plan C, that would involve her in the picture? Because one day, I would really like her to come to 'Merica, so she can meet all my friends in Montana, 'Merica. Maybe she would be able to share her knowledge with Sandy, because Sandy LOVES to learn new stuff, while she could learn how to smoke spareribs and brine meat. She could meet Larry and Patsy too. She could learn how to fix a car, because Patsy has a garage, and she can pretty much do everything, even add those huge spoilers on a car's trunk!

I doubt I can find another woman like my Chinese girlfriend, so a plan C with her in the big picture would totally be even better than a drumstick!

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oops,when u started to date,did she drink?if she did,then you should accpet who she is and talk to her,sometimes talk indeed work out.gook luck.

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I tried this one a few weeks back.

Completely ignore. Sure the place will be like a freezer but it is summer and you will get some peace and quiet.
You get to show who has hand. Just don't mess it up like George did in Seinfeld

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I would suggest - and this is only my opinion remember - that you hide/destroy all the wine bottles in your house, and replace them with something stronger, vodka or rum, or preferably Chinese 'baijiu' because this shows respect to her and her motherland.

Because these types of alcohol are much stronger, she will only need a tiny amount, and if she is not used to it she will get very drunk very fast and admit her mistakes as fast as Ussein Bolt covered in custard falling vertically through a tube towards the earth!

Also, baijiu is very cheap - the cheapest is only 5 or 6 RMB a bottle if you buy a yucky brand called 'ErGuoTou' - so you can save money at the same time. But maybe you should use that money to invest in some empty cardboard boxes and newspaper, because it's likely she will vomit everywhere after consumption.

Good luck Milord!

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Girlpower, when we started to date, she never even tried red wine once in her life. She was wondering what it was, so of course I would make her taste! We try to talk a lot, but she gets angry very fast, so i have to uncork a bottle to appease her wrath. It's to the point where I keep red wine bottles scattered around the place so I'm always sure I have one at arm's length! I know it's not ideal conditions to store wine, but considering a bottle a day, it doesn't have time to turn bad.

Ludovico, I tried really hard to make her taste other alcohol, but she doesn't like baiju, because she says it's not sophisticated enough. And the alcohol takes moar time to kick in, so I have to listen to moar of her rambling. As for hard alcohol, I never tried. Maybe I should introduce vodka to her. A few shots might just be the thing to do!

Thanks for great advice again, Ludovico!

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Plan C

Rethink your "bonding."

Think about what is happening - she drinks to tolerate you? She can't get along with you without impairing her thinking. Without the alcohol your relationship would already be over. Cut her off completely and watch her disappear.

Plan C is - if Plan B does not at first work, try Plan B again.

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