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anonymous
Q: How to politely decline an invitation for dinner from a student?
I'm running out of excuses, One of my male students keeps asking me out for dinner and I don't know how to decline anymore. His english is bad and my chinese is not great, so I don't think I can have the 'I get the sense you like me more than a teacher, and I'm sorry but that just isn't going to work' conversation. My brash Chinese will probably just make him feel bad. Any advice?
i had a similar problem with a guy last year: (thankfully not a student). He kept asking me and asking me. No matter how many times i said no, he kept on and on. I could at least avoid him, but you might not be able to avoid the student. Bottom line: keep refusing using the same words. If you are his teacher, it is incredibly inappropriate for him to ask anyway.
Scandinavian:
but TIC. "Incredibly inappropriate" means "how we do it"
i always tell my students at the university that the foreigners aren't allowed to see the students outside of class. works for me every week.
If he's asked you out again after you've already declined then he's an insensitive idiot.
Tell him to piss off. Politely.
Tell him that thank you but no, that your Chinese husband is waiting is for you.
Or you could tell him that you prefer women and don't like go out with guys.
Tell him that you think Chinese food is filth and whenever you consume any you are immediately stuck with the urge to defecate or spew.
But really just say you don't like rice or noodles and must eat bread- this works for me.
Keep lying to him. You have no choice. Truthfully, he probably expects that you will say no anyway so no harm done. His attempt at actually asking you is his English practice for the day. You are helping him but taking the time to respond. It can't go on forever....can it? 
i had a similar problem with a guy last year: (thankfully not a student). He kept asking me and asking me. No matter how many times i said no, he kept on and on. I could at least avoid him, but you might not be able to avoid the student. Bottom line: keep refusing using the same words. If you are his teacher, it is incredibly inappropriate for him to ask anyway.
Scandinavian:
but TIC. "Incredibly inappropriate" means "how we do it"
Basically you politely but always refuse him. Don't get agitated or he will tell the school and since he's a chinese guy his words and family have more weight. You will get in trouble. I also feel that you should distance as much as possible. Don't ever even go to his place once it can be dangerous what if his families crazy. Or his family does have connections both can fk you over. And black mail forever. You ought to be able to say that as a teacher it isn't appropriate. Maybe this is wrong but if it's constant and you feel it's out of control bring it up to the school higher ups or something and let them know that's its a constant problem. But only if it continues because it is his word against yours. But for the time being refuse forever
