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Q: How to start a relationship with foreign guys in China

Please share yours experience and advise.

47 weeks 5 days ago in  Relationships - China

 
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have you transitioned ?
(just asking, no judgement here)

https://answers.echinacities.com/question/how-get-initimate-chinese-girl
 

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try saying "Hello"

there you go - relationship started.

limyaumee:

Please elaborate more>>>

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sorrel:

saying 'hello' is the first step in any relationship.
 

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icnif77:

I think, 2nd step is "What is yer phone no.?" 

 

When I was at Miami's S. Beach, I used "Che belle gambe signorina " as my second pitch, what stands for 'What a beautiful legs, ma'am ...".

They are all in minis on S. Beach ....

 

Through my i-Tunes's ... blasting ...

 

"...ohh, baby it's you, you take my breath away ..."

 

'Paxahau' by LTJ Bukem, Live in Detroit ... Drum 'nd Base shtick ...

 

" ... ohh, baby it's you-uuu, you take my breath away ..." 

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@ "White cat" 

another good start is to say:

"my name is ________, What is yours?"
this is how the majority of my relationships started.

how is it people have forgotten this? crying


 

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icnif77:

I ain't good with memorizing of the names, so I ask that only when I have pen and paper handy ... 

 

Good morning! 

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have you transitioned ?
(just asking, no judgement here)

https://answers.echinacities.com/question/how-get-initimate-chinese-girl
 

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You could start in Guang-ding-dong. There are plenty of foreigners there from Africa, I've heard ... 

 

You would also show to the world around you that you aren't racist by having a colored, different race boyfriend-o ...

MsEnglish:

You wouldn't be from Africa by any chance, would you?... crying

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icnif77:

No. Everybody here have learned already, I come from my mom ... broken heart

 

Everybody does ..., I've read.

 

English language is so difficult to understand ... sumtimz. 

 

You should see (my) thread "Is There A Lack of Native English Teachers in China?" for more tips considering my origins ...

https://answers.echinacities.com/question/there-lack-native-english-teachers-china

Make sure, you'll always click comments ...

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MsEnglish:

That's true, we all originated from Africa a long, long time ago...and even before that we originated from SPACE ... the BIG BANG. 

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icnif77:

You don't understand English right, either!

 

I didn't want to disturb C. Darwin and his Evolution thingy. broken heart

"Where are you from?" or "Where do you come from?" are the English Beginner level Qs, and ...

... everybody and everything comes from somewhere ... and I come from my mom.

Now, English become even trickiest when you politely add return Q:

"And you?" 

The reply will often be "Me, too!", butT ..

... then I always wonder why did you ask me in the first place ..., and poor Charles ...

 

I hope, you can clearly recognize Africa is out of the loop here ...

 

Big bang? Have a peek at US astrophysicist Michio Kaku and his expose on String theory ...

https://www.masterclass.com/articles/string-theory-explained

 

Who built the pyramids in Egypt and similar ancient structures around the world?

Puma Punku, Stonehenge, Easter Island, Gobekli Tepe and more ..

Pay utmost attention at your research on precise geometry, stone cutting technique, and irrational numbers (as Pi and Golden ratio ...) used and encoded into Giza pyramid structures ...

We were apparently hunter gatherers at that time, 10k or so years B.C.

Have a look at u-Tube search for ...

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2fS9ixfQ_no&t=244s

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCkQqNI6EyQ

 

On the second thought, I also want some online students ..., but only ones from the outer space, other galaxies ... broken heart

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I have once been asked, on the former chats, back in the 2000 "are you male or female?"

I have answered: "I'm not male nor female, I am an e-mail"

What about you?

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No matter we male, female or email; its good to share our knowledge, experience and thought at this social platform.

sorrel:

can you please share YOUR experience of starting a relationship? 

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She's busy in Guang-ding-dong ... the OP ...   broken heart

You (@Sorrel) should be patient until she's back ... 

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I guess the answer may differ depending on the cultural background. For Americans, a simply "hi" would suffice. While Chinese and American 'dating' cultures do differ, American guys may be less inclined to approach a girl because of the langauge or cultural differences. We are also told that Americans are not a Chinese girls first choice (perhaps more of a necessity, especially if a Chinese girl has been divorced), so if you made the first move, we may be more inclined to reciprocate. From a personal experience, if a Chinese girl had not said hi to me, we would never have been friends. And we have been really good friends for nearly a year.

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I think it's simple, you can approach the person in question. Well, I know Chinese culture doesn't favor people dating on first meeting. They may feel easy when it comes to ladies and shy when it comes to males. Language can equally be a barrier for the bold ones. Conclusion, a simple hi, and exchanging Wechats may do the trick for a start. 

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show him your ... That should do it

MsEnglish:

Is that what you do to meet men? Show them your ...? 

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Once, I had to explain meaning of the sentence "I have to go pee .." to the grown-up English Beginner level students in Istanbul, so I had to quickly develop a 'lesson' on clear explanation of the meaning of that sentence.

It's an unique ''show&tell'' lesson with the absence of any profanities, mind you.

Students were returning to the classroom with the smirk on their faces for the whole month ... all male and female students ...

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Here are some step you ca follow

1. Learn chiness language

2. Meet people with chiness social media

3. start conversation 

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Best start would be by having some English lessons with me, renowned broken heart non-native English sneaker ... 

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Just show them interest. Men are so easy to get.

Stiggs:

The 30 minutes before the bar closes are probably the best time to show them interest, anyone still there obviously hasn't scored and if they're still hoping to that's when the desperate people tend to find each other.

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