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Q: How to stop Chinese girl for crying ?

I live in China and happily married with Chinese woman. Prior to marriage, I dated another woman named "R" but she didn't show her interest towards marriage, but dumped me. so I stepped forward. After two years, "R" sent e mail, and told she is married with foreigner and waiting for visa. Few days later, asked me for meeting, started crying for about  hour and lead to medical emergency. "R" told that her husband is not positive to proceed and broke. "R" is crying continuously on phone, says "I am only hope".  I have no sympathy but how to stop her crying ?  How chinese women deal with jealousy ? Any clue ??

12 years 12 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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Change your phone number

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Ignore her.
dont be a sucker

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Tell her to piss off and change your phone number. Don't ever talk to her again. Trust me, if your wife finds out your ex-girlfriend wants to meet you like this and you didn't flatout refuse you'll be in a world of hurt. 

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This is your ex who dumped you? Wax your moustache and tell her, frankly, that you don't give a damn.

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It sounds like she is upset at the opportunity lost and not the love lost.  Run...run very fast away.

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Above suggestions are approved here....cheeky

GuilinRaf:

Wow, Localla seems to have her own troll "fan" club! Three thumbs down for an innocuous remark...

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I like a snowy Happy new year, rather than a no sky one...Beijing's time to ban the cars---the only solution for the time being...

 
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She is looking for one last fling with you so call her back and get a hotel room for one night and give her the onions, then in the morning leave her there to think about what she did the last night as you walk out the door throw your SIM card away and get a new one.
Let her reek in her own misery and leave you alone.

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Come on thumbs down everything I say. rnrnPlease I like it thumbs down some more.

 
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Whatever  you do , do NOT meet with her! A little known scam, is that she will meet with you , then blackmail  you. If you dont pay, she will tell your wife that she had an affair with you even though it is not true!
Cjange your phone PROTO and NEVER meet or talk with her again!

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I think she may be so depressed she is reaching out to whoever she can. Tell her to suck it up, find a new boy friend, Then give her an Ipad and tell her to dry her tears with it, It works for me.

GuilinRaf:

An I pad???!! No no no! That is a mating ritual in modern day China!!!!! just like when the Male Peacock spreads its' tail feathers! ;-P

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Teddypoo.. I'm sad. Can I have an iPad?

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TedDBayer:

sorry Panda, all out of Ipads, I have a ThinkPad tho.

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Tell your wife that this girl has contacted you, and wants to meet up for some reason. Let her decide how much she is willing to accept as far as contact with her... but, if you do go to meet this ex-, let her know in no uncertain terms nothing is going to happen between you, cos you are happily married!

This is, of course, if you give a damn about this ex-. If not, don't worry too much about it.

TedDBayer:

no, ex GF is ex, stay away, or you will have ex-wife, I'd just hope my wife never found out she phoned, because if you tell her, you loose and if you don't and she finds out, you still loose

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fricken thinkpad finger mouse

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There,there.And sing softkittywink

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Big Bang rocks!

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its sad that I know the words to soft kitty

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Personally, I prefer to use a modified anti-barking collar.  When you see her, get close like you are going to whisper something in her ear.

Then quickly slip the collar around her neck and use permabond to lock it in place.  If she tries to struggle, scream or act badly in any way, simply press the button on the remote control and it will give her a painful, but physically harmless shock.

When she starts to act like a reasonable person again, be sure to reinforce this behaviour by giving her a small piece of chocolate or fruit.

The modified version of the collar & remote come with 3G sims so that you can send her corrective shocks from any distance should she do something like call you at a bad time, send you an SMS that is negative or any other behaviour you wish to see modified.

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Order yours today and you will receive a free set of ginsu steak knives!

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HugAPanda:

And be prepared to be kicked in the nads, grabbed and twisted when she gets free :P

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I like the one with the Cameo center piece but also the back leather spiked one, hard to pick a fav

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The short answer to your question is: You don't stop Chinese girls crying. Especially when they are drunk.wink

The second answer about how do Chinese girls deal with jealousy is: They just let it all hang out. It's perfectly acceptable in Chinese culture.

I have to say I concur with what others have said. Avoid her. She's thinking you are her 'plan B'. She'll only ruin what you do have. 

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Fling a cigarette to your mouth, put on your black shades, and say you're "Too cool to care".

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Some Chinese girls are like chinese products.somehow trying to get your attraction,cry is just to sympathize you.Just love the one who love you,just keep distance from her.

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crazy idea but may still work "buy her an iPad..."

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crazy idea but may still work "buy her an iPad...". In your case if you have moved on, just ignore her phone calls, block her email address. There are many ways to deal with it, Just man-up and stop feeling sorry for the B***h who left you for seemingly better option. And stop going behind your wife's back and meeting your ex.

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Folks, thanks all . I'm pleased to know your feed back. Even though, I knew that ex is ex. and " no way to look back" as how she reacted and ignored all package of dream life in north America against better choice of money and temporary excitements ?. As being educated and civilized , I wanted to find out humanterian solution of her disaster. On your feed back, I truely agree with all of you more or less. But it was her choice, so I have no regrets.
Cheers.

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You have no responsibility towards this woman. Tell your wife everything and tell her that's why you're chaning your phone number. 

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very simple crying is a tool of manipulation, girls here use it better than anyone else. cut her off. she is looking for money and got "dicted" instead good for the guy

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