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Q: I am about to date a chinese interesting Girl BUT.......
She is beautiful and kind but the most interesting thing is that she is polite................the issue is she is a policeman or woman.......no idea how to deal with that............most of you guys know that some girls really seek vengeance after breaking up and she got the uniform....i am not saying that i just want to sleep with her...i am saying that i really really do like her and i even want to marry her but god i am afraid to gamble cause no one knows what the future might hold......relationships has happy and sad endings and i am not sure which ending am getting............Any advice or suggestions here?
First forget marriage being a member of the PLA, PSB, or Gov is a no no for foreign marriage.
Createach:
She said she will quit if the destiny and fate asks for that
debbie.luo:
Well, I guess she is trolling you cuz destiny and fate can't talk... (unless both of you know people who are named Destiny or Fate)
If you really like her,just go for that!Who knows what you will get if you don't try.At least you will have half the chance to get her if you take the first step,or else,the chance is zero.
In my opinion you are skating on thin ice with lead lined boots!
It's exhilarating until you go under.
It's up to you, do you want to live a little dangerously? At least wait until you find out if you're both 'physically compatible'. Unless, of course you are illegal in any way, in which case....RUN!!!!!
Hugh.G.Rection:
Illegal visa is the most common, i.e. you are on a tourist or business visa but you are working, or you have a work visa but it is for a different company, i.e. your company isn't authorised to employ foreigners and so 'borrows' another companies paperwork. Or you are in breach of your visa conditions, most common is doing part time work 'on the side'.
As my dear old pappy used to say, never trust a copper, especially one you are screwing. (Well perhaps he didn't actually say the second bit).
Createach:
all my documents are totally legal....i got a working visa and a foreign expert certificate..from that point of view am totally not afraid
First you want to find out if she or he is policeman or women,what your into is your business,then decide if your Chinese or English,if your English make sure she his moist,plus interesting like you said
Go for it, she has her own handcuffs, gotta love that.
GuilinRaf:
Actually, having dated police women in the past, they usually want to be treated as ladies and do not want anything to do with handcuffs when off duty.
Now, kindergarten teachers on the other hand....wow....
GuilinRaf:
2 in Puerto Rico. I worked very closely with police back home so most of the single women I knew at the time were police.
Createach:
You think chinese policewomen are the same like ones you dated?!!!!!..........and how did you end the relationship with them and what was the result and the consequences?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.................too many questions.bear with me
TedDBayer:
Only one ever shot at GuilinRaf, now he lives in China, think about it.
GuilinRaf:
Well, the biggest difference is that if a police officer quits the force in the US he or she may rejoin the force later on. In China however, that option would be closed. She would be out of the force and out of a relationship for which she left the force in the first place, so she is not going to take the breakup or divorce lightly or even at all.
As to why I am in China, the police women had nothing to do with that. It was the female JUDGE I dated who made me defect....
The "MOIST" interesting thing is that.........did u all miss this?
Createach:
am going to edit my mistake now...so you will look stupid later when people see that............such an $%&
run BRADDAH run........................
Createach:
Run?!!!!!..............to where?!!!!!.......the police station?!!!!!
Well you have to be serious about her, buddy. Because she's willing to hang up her career for you.
If you screw her over she may not have her job, but she still has all her police guanxi.
GuilinRaf:
Police guanxi who are going to be VERY sympathetic! They wont feel "obligated" to help, they will be DEMANDING to help!
I'm the last person to take advice from on relationships as my life has been a disaster area where they are concerned. All I can tell you is it's better to regret something you did, than something you didn't do. So throw caution to the wind, follow your heart, dare to dream a little, dare to love a lot and if the stars are bright and the mood is right, my advice my son, is to slip her one. Gotta test the water before you dive in mate.
I would rather say do it without thinking much...past is a ghost and future is a dream which can never catch. Live for today......... 
I don't know where you are located, but if you are in Dalian and can go out with a lady cop, do so! Those women are gorgeous. They actually have beauty pageants to see which girls will be chosen.
The best looking ones are chosen either for traffic duty outside the city hall or for the female only horse patrols.
Createach:
My girl works in the PSB..and trust me when i say she is hot as a volcano
GuilinRaf:
When "volcanoes" blow their tops, they can be a terrible thing to behold....
You want to marry here and you haven't dated? Are you a virgin?
Createach:
Virgin?!!!!!...............is that a disease or some chinese word you just said?!!!!!
Createach:
I hate to be the bringer of bad news, but Police Officers and Military personnel are not allowed to marry foreigners and even depending on which part of china they are at, police officers cannot even date foreigners. Here in Beijing, a lot of my friends are police officers and the only one I knew who dated a foreigner did so in secret.
If you were to marry she would have to leave the force, and if the marriage did not work out, you will be in a load of pain as she will never be readmitted into the police force. So, tread carefully.
If she starts asking you to give her money , run away and don't look back . if you are both ok with marriage , then do it but you may have trouble taking her to usa , gov officials are not allowed to live in usa that's what one police officer told me , and he wants to go to usa bad .
are You serious about Her (to establish relationship and then marriage...), or just want to play/date?
if serious - go for it
if want a play - run away as fast as You can, before she drops the uniform for You
