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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: I'm so useless
Tonight I went to a bar, a good looking young white guy said to me: Hi, How are you? You look good.
I just replied: I'm good thanks. I did not smile nor stop to keep saying more to him.I bet I look not interested.
He did not come to me nor speak more to me after. He is with his friends sitting behind my table.
Actually I found him attractive too, but my personality has a big issue, I'm too shy when meet someone I find attractive. I tried to overcome the shyness but I just can't. I feel I'm so useless, I'll die alone. I feel so sad:(((
Eventually this guy left the bar with his friends:(
Round and round we go, where she stops, nobody knows!
a decent hard working man should be the goall not white or black or yellow 2-3 years later.. still think your "soul mate" is on your block.
Round and round we go, where she stops, nobody knows!
Serious question. Are you an alcoholic? Attracted to alcoholic and alcoholism?
It might be me but if memory serves correct, you like to go to bars alone and usually end up doing something you regret. If i saw a girl alone in a bar, I'd be wary of her. She's a drunk. Has some serious emotional baggage. A prostitute. A honey pot trap. Mentality ill. Again, it might be me but meeting your significant other in an expat bar in china should the punchline for a joke
Viki87:
Judgemental freaks. For your judgmental shits, I don't drink for health problem, the bar I went is more like pup for people to come to play sports and chill out and talk. Stop labeling on people so fast, it made you foolish
iWolf:
A pub to play sports? lol.....Ok, we've established you aren't an alcoholic. Why do you feel attracted to them? Is getting mauled by a random drunk in the alley behind the bar considered sport? Or chilling out?
You know Vicky, just try and live in the moment and try not to put too much pressure on yourself to find "the one". People are naturally attracted to happy and fun people so I hope you realize there are qualities about you that make you unique and maybe even beautiful. Love yourself first then people will notice you for all the right reasons. Beating yourself up is not the answer, try and be your own best friend.
Viki87:
I'm old now,going to be 32 years old after the Chinese Spring festival. Right, what you said is right. But I'm a woman, my body won't be waitting for me for many years to find one. If I can't get pregnant sooner, it will be too late to get pregnant and may even face high life risk to give birth.Sadly thats the unspoken truth. It is easy for man to say such thing, don't push too hard and try to be happy. Men are not the one gives birth, how many women date 5 years-10 years younger men? Not a lot, but many men do date much younger women. If I'm a man, I can sing the happy song and not worry much. 32 years old man is a catch. Sorry mate, thanks for your advice but it won't apply to women. Look I have got so much time wasted on wrong men. I have dated many and now I'm getting old. I do think I'm attractive and even look much younger than my age. My biological body system just doesn't give me a lot of time more for me to find my man. If I don't find one fast, I know I may hard to get pregnant, or even died when giving birth. Men should try to put themselves in women's shoes, then you would understand us.
Blondie_:
@littlepandk
you are right of course.
people can sense if someone is not comfortable and happy in their own skin.
people smell desperation in others, like a lingering odor that becomes visible in all they say and do, and can spot a faker very quickly.
people can also distinguish between confidence and arrogance, and someone who not genuine.
the most confident (and happiest) person i know is not the most physically attractive, but is well liked, popular, respected and admired due to his warm and genuine personality. he may not be the most financially successful person, but his lack of self-absorbtion is visible to all.
he accepts with good humour and posivity all that life has thrown at him, and rarely will get abusive or annoyed at others, and knowing such a person makes this world a better place.
definitely not a saint or a martyr, this guy is just so genuine and takes responsibility where he should.
Viki
if all you are concerned about is your biological clock and having a baby, there are probably thousands of guys more than willing to help you.
if you are also looking for a genuine committed relationship, there could be a few things about your personality that need a change - it is up to you alone.
this will take a lot of time (years of commitment)
You have been given hints and suggestions on areas of your personality that could probably deeply reflect on.
as with all your 'problems' - YOU are the cause and solution.
not anyone else.