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Q: Is it just my problem or many women's psychology?
My Belgium ex left me for another woman and married her after about 4 monthes of dating. He used to tell that she is more beautiful than me. I havn't really seen her picture well until today he post her photoes on wechat. And the funny thing is I dont think she is more beautiful than me and she seem a bit ugly and fat though by a lot of people's tastes.
I felt sad,jelous and angry about her at the moment when I saw their wedding pictures and the happiness on my ex's face. So is it just my problem or it's many women's psychology? I actually heard many girls talking something similar to what I felt today. I know it's unhealthy and a bit catty. But I think it's normal for women still,right?
I talked to a guy on my wechat about my feeling. He called me weirdo and hater. And told the other women don't think likes me do and he told I insulted that girl's look.
You have been posting on here about your love life or lack of it for a long time now. A lot of people have given you good advice which you either ignore and/or resort to name calling which you are still doing in this question. It has nothing to do with you whatever his wife looks like and by calling her ugly and fat you just make yourself look like a jealous little bitch. By telling us you consider yourself to be more beautiful you again show us your own insecurities. The fact is he left you because he did not like you enough to stay. Get over it.
I don't think normal and you are in the same universe.
I think, wechat deserves an evaluation. My cat complained earlier, too.
Do we still get points here for profoundness of our replies?
You have been posting on here about your love life or lack of it for a long time now. A lot of people have given you good advice which you either ignore and/or resort to name calling which you are still doing in this question. It has nothing to do with you whatever his wife looks like and by calling her ugly and fat you just make yourself look like a jealous little bitch. By telling us you consider yourself to be more beautiful you again show us your own insecurities. The fact is he left you because he did not like you enough to stay. Get over it.
Yet another friendly advice... you must find peace with yourself before you can think about others. You should join a mountain monastery and meditate for 50 years. Choose a place with no internet access, please.
Haven't you already posted this in one of your previous diary entries?
But yes, it clearly your fault. Don't blame it on your gender.
Also, "And told the other women don't think likes me do a[...]." I didn't know you had become Jar Jar Binks.
Your Belgian ex probably tried to explain why he broke up with you but you didn't listen, and just figured he had found a prettier doll.
Your Belgian ex probably explained why he loves his wife more, but you chose to hear "she is more externally beautiful".
And now you are pointing, ridiculing and laughing at a person's looks. Women are objectified, but they are not statues; men know this. If you sit hunched in front of weixin and QQ all day spouting jealous vitriol, stupid thoughts and infantile mockery, it affects how people view your beauty. Even your outward beauty is harmed by your behaviour.
Taking responsibility for your actions and future repercussions is neither taught nor demonstrated in China, so I don't expect you to understand what I'm saying.
Viki87:
You should not judge me before you know the truth.
i was dating him on June,he was just a tourist here and will be going back to Beligum in a week. I was sad and emotional and I broke up with him. He begged me to not. Leave him but I still did.
But the second day I kind of regretting what I said to him and I went back to him. He then pushed me away and told me he just met a girl in a dinner and he wanted her.
i asked him why?
He told I have too much engry for wanting to go to bar and he told I joked too much and He doesn't like it. And he told He just gave up me as the beginning is do hard as I said break up to him.
He then went on dating with her and then she went to Belgium for him after probally 2 monthes of online dating. Then after like 2 monthes they married.
I was really sad that he could just find someone new to love the second day.
Viki87:
You should not judge me before you know the truth.
i was dating him on June,he was just a tourist here and will be going back to Beligum in a week. I was sad and emotional and I broke up with him. He begged me to not. Leave him but I still did.
But the second day I kind of regretting what I said to him and I went back to him. He then pushed me away and told me he just met a girl in a dinner and he wanted her.
i asked him why?
He told I have too much engry for wanting to go to bar and he told I joked too much and He doesn't like it. And he told He just gave up me as the beginning is do hard as I said break up to him.
He then went on dating with her and then she went to Belgium for him after probally 2 monthes of online dating. Then after like 2 monthes they married.
I was really sad that he could just find someone new to love the second day.
Viki87:
You should not judge me before you know the truth.
i was dating him on June,he was just a tourist here and will be going back to Beligum in a week. I was sad and emotional and I broke up with him. He begged me to not. Leave him but I still did.
But the second day I kind of regretting what I said to him and I went back to him. He then pushed me away and told me he just met a girl in a dinner and he wanted her.
i asked him why?
He told I have too much engry for wanting to go to bar and he told I joked too much and He doesn't like it. And he told He just gave up me as the beginning is do hard as I said break up to him.
He then went on dating with her and then she went to Belgium for him after probally 2 monthes of online dating. Then after like 2 monthes they married.
I was really sad that he could just find someone new to love the second day.
coineineagh:
So you threw a tantrum to get attention, he correctly took it as a warning of things to come, and he married someone who doesn't moan. You should be happy for them, and do some self-improvement. One day you might meet someone who doesn't run for the hills. But you need to answer China's biggest conundrum: "How can perfection (me) possibly be improved upon?"
What motivates this behavior? Is it just somebody needs attention so badly that this is better than nothing? Is it just that China needs professional mental health facilities? Is it the one child policy? Is it elaborate trolling? Is it something in the food?
BHGAL:
I find it amazing that a nice young girl like this can be so LOST. I am confident that she is a real person, was on another social network chit chat thing with other people I know, until doing the same kind of silliness, I would like to get to know Viki, over the internet or personally, just to try to help her with her personal issues. doubt that is gonna happen, cause I have blasted her in the past..... but it is odd/funny how she keeps popping up here. ECC certainly does better with her participation. maybe we can find you a guy in the near future.
kasuka91:
@BHGAL
I don't know, something tells me that that would be counter-productive. I recently tried, put forward some harsh, but honest advice and she totally flipped out on me.
Who knows, maybe your approach will be able to yield better results.
Viki87:
Kadusa, I don't understand why you lied about what you said to me. You sent me messages and told that I flirt with every while male user on ecc after I refused you. You kind makes me sick. Plus I did not flirt with every male user here. Even if I did,it's none of your business
kasuka91:
@Vicki87
What have I lied about? Specifically show me where, give me the quote.
And I wouldn't go as far as to say that you refused me, I gave it a try and sent you a couple messages, but didn't exactly propose my love to you.
And you did flip out, swearing at me. Like I said, my advice was harsh and brutal but it was honest. This is how the real world works, and nobody wants a thirsty chick. You come across as too desperate, and as I said in my messages, it gives out the wrong message.
"I talked to a guy on my wechat about my feeling. He called me weirdo and hater. " ROFL ! Classic ! I sense a disturbance in the force called a ring of truth.
