It gets pretty tiresum because the translator doesn't work or say what you think. Even when I write in Google translator I think its wrong because I get no response to things I would expect so. Then she is Chinese and prob won't answer. It gets annoying if I talk into the translator over and over or get it in and it won't tranlate- busy?

 I have a Hunan girl like this.

I tried it once about four years ago. I was depending so much on the translator that I was beginning to develop an electronic pocket dictionary fetish...

I think that if you use it sometimes it is ok, especially if you are slowly learning to say more Chinese. If it was just a physical relationship, I guess it wouldn't matter? However, if you're looking for a deep, meaningful relationship, it's not going to happen that way. I have friends like that though.

I did, and, well, so far it's working great! (3 years)

But since I'm studying Chinese, it got even easier. If you're not planning to learn, at least for her, then I advise you to end it quickly...

Anything is possible. It just depends on how willing you are to work at it. Every relationship is work, anything worth having is work. And each one has different... jobs.  If your heart and the head on your shoulders is really with this other chick, then it isn't fair to your current GF. 

To be honest, sometimes it seems you are only keeping her around for the sure thing, not because you love her. And you might love her, but if you know she isn't THE one, and she wants to find THE one, you need to set her free so she can move on. It'll hurt less now than it will when there is more investment.

Been here done that however the language thing wasn't that we didn't both speak English

it was that we didn't't understand each other.

The what I got used to and the security thing played a big part when it should not have.

Out of 16 years only 5 were good and normal.

the break up is hard and we get frightened of what comes next.

I'm 6ft and know how to look after myself and  have never been afraid of much in my life

until that day she told me to go.

I have never known what fear was till that night.

But having the small attention span I have 

4 months later I met the lady I wish I had met a long time ago and now

have a life better than I've ever known.

Take a deep breath and take some time out

Best regards

Tarzan and Jane were able to pull off the relationship without language thing.... So if the two of you are really willing to put in the extra work, there is a chance it could work.  And mostly a chance is all any relationship gets.

try to learn it every day ,and soon you will learn it if u want to learn it u can learn some common chinese words which chinese people use in normal life u can learn them in one month i think and then u can get along wqith your gf try this it will work

Let her go. That's my only advice. Communication is everything, and to be honest, even if she could speak English, I've only met a few Chinese girls who could look or communicate anything other than money.

thedude let me tell u something, there is a new product call: ENGLISH-CHINESE LIVE TRANSLATOR. it's a form of powder u pour in ur chaofan niuro. beleive me, ur spoken chinese will be so nice. your listening,aiyaaaaa hen hao. the only problem is  it lasts the time of digestion so u have to be fast and conclude everything..lol 

Good topic.

I hope she is intending to improve her English too.

I've done the no English thing and it is tiring.

There is the type of girl who is unwilling to speak and learn English, yet they are attracted to foreigners.

Of course it is possible, and you can't help who you fall in love with. But think about the future (you know she is) - how to communicate with her family, parents and the big uncle?