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Q: Lack of Sexual Satisfaction in china
One of my Chinese female friend in her 50s told me she divorced her Chinese husband because of his lack of Sexual Satisfaction. she said its very common in china? and many women in china divorce because of this reason.
she said that many Chinese women are not satisfied with their sex lives,and many Chinese women have never reached orgasm before......have you guys ever heard of this kind of situation from your Chinese friends?
Question : would you divorce your husband or wife because of lack of sexual satisfaction???
Question : lack of Sexual Satisfaction a good reason for a divorce?
11 years 46 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Yes, it's a valid reason to divorce. Half of marriages end in divorce, the other half last the rest of your life. If you don't, you're resigning yourself to a lifetime of never being happy with sex. That will manifest into resentment for your partner and will bleed into other things. It's not fair to you, and that resentment isn't fair to your partner.
chinese men, all foreign men in china owe you . if not for you we wouldnot be so popular.
damn straight its a valid reason to divorce. young girls take note. you think you can be happy spending his money with no sex life just wait until you hit 30. which is exactly why chinese men make chinese women think women are too old at 30.
this is why chinese men try to hide porn from women. they don't want women to know how pleasurable sex should be.
this is why chinese men hate to see a girl with a foreigner. (she is gone for good)
Hakupatasa:
well said Crimo...
actually i have posted few questions earlier hinting on that (lack of sexual sensation). In my view it is the fault of both man and woman. Man not considering to satisfy woman, on the other hand woman not trying to enjoy it and taking it as an essential ingredients for healthy relationship. One of the cause for my break up was sex as she took it merely as nothing to do in a relationship....Somehow after about a month she seems to learn something about it and now back with new vigor...this doesn't mean i only care about sex but in every relationship (except in rare cases such as one has disability acquired during the relationship) it is a must ingredient.
Women are more focused on controlling men and when they are treated as a princes (spend money, do all stuff, etc.) they feel proud in early days of their relationship. The dark side is that man doesn't care about her orgasm as soon as he gets his own. Deep inside, he thinks he is doing everything for her and if something happens he can just go for another one as there are many young girls just like his wife in early days waiting for him.....
crimochina:
haku: the women here have no point of reference number one. secondly if they even hint at wanting to be satisfied sexually they are branded as a whore and become outcasts. they are mentally imprisoned.
thank you chinese men.
Tapwater:
Pornography isn't how sex "should be". That stuff is fake and the women fake the orgasms.
crimochina:
tap and pog you're missing the point. when a woman who is very inexperienced or a man watches porn there are some things that can be learned. from watching what the man is doing she realizes that the guy is supposed to last more than 3 minutes. and remember guys 99% of porn is acting.
crimochina:
and dont forget, she sees what a full sized johnson is supposed to look like
I see a lot of braggers here.
"The cow which roars the most gives the least amount of milk"
As former expat in China, Philippines, Indonesia, Saudi Arabia, Egypt, Brazil
I can say to you, that it is all rubbish talk. (yeah spam me, go for it)
Why marry in the first place?
Initial attraction? Business contract or combination of both?
Yes it varies between different cultures. The fact is that most women start enjoying sex as they get older..Men on the other hand either stays the same or goes "kaput"
I'm single but would never never, ever leave my wife (I'm single widower) maybe I would cheat don't know never got to that point.
But I agree that most women goes ballistic with age.
Do divorces happens because of lack of sex? Sure they do..Not only in China but al over the world. So don't point fingers at Chinese men.
With the exception in Islamic culture. But I won't go into this discussion.
I would say No to Question 1 & 2 coz sexual satisfaction is not the major reason I marry (or leave) someone. I love this guy, not only his dick.
They're not satisfied sexually cos their husband are off getting a massage or have a permanent bit on the side.
(and their *ahem*s are too small to satisfy anyone)
If your husband doesn't please you, talk to him about it, not the internet. And if your marriage is so crappy that he doesn't care, well that's a different problem.
When I date a girl, before we have sex I always ask about her history a bit. This is for my own protection and it tells me a lot about the girl and what she might like in bed. When a girl tells me she has never masturbated before, I know there will be problems. You expect me to please you but you've never pleased yourself?
If two people make love, and one of them can't climax, is it always the other person's fault? We've all watched too much pornography. Sex isn't supposed to be a certain way. It is about accepting someone. Too many people try too hard during sex. The harder a woman tries to have an orgasm, the less able she is to have one. The more a man worries about finishing too soon, the more likely it is that it will happen.
What's the big deal about giving someone else an orgasm? Why is it so important?
the_horror:
So, you casually ask "Do you masturbate?". It seems I am really out of touch with flirting in 2012.
Tapwater:
I don't know... I usually stop flirting somewhere before lovemaking begins. I guess it probably depends on the girl whether this is a turn off.
I've gone through some different romantic philosophies in my life. I used to try to impress, now I try to be myself. I can't say one works better than the other - the sample size is too small :)
why are these threads so popular? Any ideas?
tomcatflyer:
I think because sex is a curiosity to everyone. Even in the west where we are supposedly more open about sex people still worry about am I doing it right, am I too big/small, how long should I last before climax etc. We are all curious about sex.
I agree with Pogger34:The same thing happens with my Chinese GF, she scream's so loudly, squirms, and makes me nervous while 'comming' multiple times, usually I forget my own orgasms, and I am happy to satisfy her.
Before her, I had quite a few ONS's with other Chinese Girls, and I found most of them crazy for sex, and difficult to satiate.
Chinese girls surely are hungry for sex, albeit from Foreigners, not with Native Chinese men.
( My Chinese Male friends, please forgive me)
From my point of view, most of your 50s lady friends cannot arouse their man's attention.And their guy prefer to spending most of the time finding young mistress to enjoy their sexual satisfaction. Also, it does not make sense you would choose divorce only because a lack of sexual satisfaction if you really love someone,
