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Q: looking for language exchange

Hello there,

 

i would like to know if anyone is interested in language exchange.

 

I am located in Wuhan and kind of local, happy to help you sort out anything.

2 years 18 weeks ago in  General  - Wuhan

 
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my experience of 'language exchange'

 

me: "i have just spent 1 hour helping you with your english, can we work on my Chinese?"

chinese person: "i am too busy now. i have to go"

me: ?????

 

happened twice so i have have refused to engage with any chinese person who asks for a 'language exchange' again, despite many saying 'you can trust me'

no, experience has told me that a chinese person saying 'you can trust me' has not any basis in reality because they have done nothing to prove they are trustworthy.

 

i suggest you advertise locally in a place in Wuhan, maybe a coffee shop where English speakers hang out for some sort of lessons.

'language exchange' is rarely that, as the Chinese person usually ends up giving nothing in return and it is all one-way

 

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my experience of 'language exchange'

 

me: "i have just spent 1 hour helping you with your english, can we work on my Chinese?"

chinese person: "i am too busy now. i have to go"

me: ?????

 

happened twice so i have have refused to engage with any chinese person who asks for a 'language exchange' again, despite many saying 'you can trust me'

no, experience has told me that a chinese person saying 'you can trust me' has not any basis in reality because they have done nothing to prove they are trustworthy.

 

i suggest you advertise locally in a place in Wuhan, maybe a coffee shop where English speakers hang out for some sort of lessons.

'language exchange' is rarely that, as the Chinese person usually ends up giving nothing in return and it is all one-way

 

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Stop being cheap and pay 150 hourly or find a couple of Chinese friends who also want to learn English and split the cost

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I have had both good an bad experiences with language exchange. Most of the good ones were with people with whom I was already friends I will say that. Often times I would experience something similar to what Blondi_ said.

 

However, through persistence and refusal to let people use me as a language teacher, I found people who were great language partners and we mutually benefited. 

 

I am nowhere close to Wuhan, or I'd help you out. But I'd say your best bet would be to go to a university there and try to A) NATURALLY make friends with some foreigners or B) put an add up saying you're searching for a language partner (in English and Chinese).

 

If you want a language partner, make sure its a partnership and not a one way street that's all I have to say.

 

good luck with the search!

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Gogojuice, good luck with your search, I hope you find someone to help you with your English.

 

The thing is though, language exchanges are never very popular with foreigners - they just don't seem to work.

 

But, have a look through this website here... there are a few posts about language exchanges.

 

wuhanexpat.com

 

You might find something useful, or better, social activities where you can meet foreign friends and practice English

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I hereby officially volunteer for Language Exchange duty.*
*provided you are living and of the female persuasion

Today's topic: The Pros and Cons of Threesome when she is gf's bff

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Gogojuice exchange

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A few guys are asking this question on this site. Go to a school. If you want sex, there are lots of "Amoi" places for only a 100 rmb.

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I am with Blondie on this.

 

In my limited experience, when a woman asks for language exchange, it pretty much means her parents have invested in her, they want payback, and they tell her to get out there and get a foreign husband.

 

Blondie is 100% correct.

 

 

 

 

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to the OP, 

you say you were a student abroad.

when you were abroad and you just wanted to relax with your friends, speaking Chinese, maybe after a long day studying/working, how would you have felt if some stranger was trying to join your activity for their benefit, regardless of what you wanted to do.

once or twice might be fine, on occasion, but when it is every time you are out for the evening and locals don't leave you alone, you can understand why it becomes irritating.

so people get tired of having to do what local want them to do all the time 

 

Rhetorical question - is the free time of foreigners of so little value that it is ok for Chinese people to insist they stop what they are doing for your benefit and wants?

 

Foreigners for the most part are not unfriendly, but we also need our free time to relax and unwind, without being expected to perform and jump through hoops at the whim of a random passing local.

 

if you really want to practice your english, find a sport that both you and foreigners can take part in.

where i am there are foreigner/Chinese amateur football leagues (and other sports leagues) where people can socialize and exercise together without feeling like the main purpose is for the Chinese to learn/practice their english.

bottom line - people don't like being used, especially in their free time.

 

i am sure you will find what you are looking for, but remember that you are asking people for a favour, and they may not always be happy to abandon what they are doing (it could be something more important to them) just because you want them to.

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