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Q: My flatmate's girl wear my slippers.

I put my slippers in front of the door before I went out. They were gone when I went back to home. Instead I saw girl's shoes at home. Apparently my polish flatmate takes a girl back and she is wearing my slippers. What kind of people they are? How can they touch my slippers without asking me? I sent him messages and told him that I don't like people wear my slippers and I told him to give my slipper back but he didn't reply.I guess they are watching movie or making love in the bedroom. Wtf...I feel so angry.

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In 100 years time who will care?

Life is too short...

They are effing slippers!

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She also took a crap on your toilet, wiped her ass with your towel and pissed in your bed.

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I am pissed off now.Ah..This .Polish guy and his Chinese girl. Low level people.

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Poor folks' problems.

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omg! That's so terrible. Call the police.

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Its too much to call the policemen. But I am so angry!!! Damn.Terrible manners.

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Overall this guy is annoying. Last night,he couldn't find his cooking thing and he got angry with me and insisted that I must put his thing somewhere because I am his only flatmate.I said I did not touch it but he still said it must be me. Eventually it turned out that it was him put it on one big plate. He even did not say sorry after finding it was his own mistake. Fuck this polish guy. He has some good sides. But overall,he has more annoying unpleasant sides.

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Did I understand correctly? You have a male flat-mate, and he is not Chinese?  I think that that is a bad idea. Too much potential for conflict.  I think that you should find a Chinese female near your own age to room with.

Well, that is my belief.

 

*Yes, u r correct, people should respect other people's privacy/property. even if regarding seemingly insignificant matters.  eg.  I do not like people picking up / trying on my hat.  petty? yes.  but that is how I feel.

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I feel the same with you. I don't like people to touch my things. I even would refuse even people ask. Let alone they took my slipper without my approval. My flatmate is a male,a polish. Some people like touching other people's things,it doesn't matter if they are female at my age. I am so pissed off.wtf. This guy never said sorry in my memory. It reminds me of some low level Chinese people who never say sorry.

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If the guy can wear your slippers I then pity his girlfriend Smile

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Not the guy wears mine. Its his girl wears mt slippers. Apprently he agrees her to wear my slippers.

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So move out.

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I just live here for temporary. I will start looking for flat tomorrow. This place isn't fun either.

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Yeah, I am a very private person and I hate people coming in to my space and moving stuff around. It makes me so infuriated.

 

If I had a female flat mate and she brought a guy over and he started wearing my slippers... I would get annoyed and tell him to use the extras and that would be that...

 

But honestly, I hate living with other people. It always sounds fun and cool when you start but then people can REALLY get on your nerves. Live alone if you can or with someone with VERY good manners.

Strawberry66:

This guy even did not say sorry after I sent him messages. The girl left and they put slipper back to the living room last night. I will talk with him face to face today. I really hope the woman he took home won't use my stuffs next time. I really do not like people try my things on,it makes me very uncomfortable.

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most ladies wear a size 36, he can spend 12 rmb for some extra house slippers, but make sure his girlfriend does not put her name on the bottom, hard to explain to other gf's.

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What is that supposed to be mean"but make sure his girlfriend does not put her name on the bottom, hard to explain to other gf's."?

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Perhaps next time you should choose a better flat mate. I get the feeling you saw a white guy and hoped you could date him. Next time choose someone based on their personality. Ask them a few questions to get a feel about them.

Strawberry66:

Well,I share it with him because he looks good on face and tall guy,I was thinking may be I could develop something with him by sharing apartment with him. But soon I realise this guy is speachless,boring(in my perspective). And also I think he is too old for me(7 years older). I am more into guys at my similar age. I lost interest.

But still I was thinking may be I can meet his foreign friends if he brought some back to home,but unfortunately he did not take any foreign male friends back to home until he took a Chinese girl back and the girl wore my slippers.

Another reason is he can enable me to pay him 40rmb day by day before I find my own flat.

Based on all of the consideration and I rent his spare room for temporary.

This place is like 1 hour from my company and my company is based in Zhongshan park(Downtown area) while this place is based in a rural area(Far).

I will take some time to start looking for a flat in the downtown and then find a foreign flatmate I guess.

I am not working for foreign company right now,I have less chances to speak to foreign guys so I come up with "sharing flat with foreigners" idea.

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How desperate are you Strawberry? You sound like the plain looking teenage schoolgirl whose prettier friends all have boyfriends and you are terrified of being left behind. I am new on the site but the way you have answered this made me curious so I looked at some of your previous questions and answers and to be honest I cannot believe someone in their late twenties as you profess to be can be so childish. Boohoo, someone wore my slippers, I don't have any friends to come to me birthday party so I will ask some strangers on a website, I don't like what some people said so I will call them names and use bad language. You sound just like some young teenage girls back home who invent an on-line fantasy life for themselves and then throw a hissy fit when they are called out on it.

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That is the stupidest thing I have ever read. Vicky, you are insane. Choosing a flat and finding a date are seperate things.

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oldscholar:I do not want to argue with you. It's a forum, people talk whatever they want,if you do not like,walk away. Some people like write them in a diary,some people like going on line to talk with people.

 

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Lord_hanson,date is more important but flatmate can be always changed. Just diffrent ways of viewing things.

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If you think a date is more important then living arrangements then you are an idiot. How many white guys have you seen dating homeless Chinese women?

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Nah...I will never to be homeless as long as I have money in my bank. You can always change to another apartment.

I am pretty much living like a tourist in Shanghai,I have got the lighest stuffs I could get for my daily usage and I am sure you will be amazed when you see them. I go back to home once in three monthes so I am not taking all clothes with me either. Oh yeah.It's really easy when comes to change to another flat. Actually a scotish friend's friend offered me a spare room to rent but it is kind of far. I somehow decide to turn it down.

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you're missing the point Vicky. Let's be honest Vicky, you turned down the Scottish guys apartment because the guy is not single not because of the location.

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Strawberry I am not arguing, I just call it as I see it. To use your own words if you do not like it go away or ignore it.  As far as I am aware this part of the site is for asking questions and receiving answers, not a personal diary as you appear to use it at times. Other people on here have said that it seems pretty stupid to try and pick flat mate on the basis that they are a particular skin colour and that you may be able to get more of a relationship with them. That sort of "logic" seems to highlight the point I made about being childish. 

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Not that Lord-handson. I did scariface to commute a long time to share the flat with this polish guy and it is so tiring to spend 1 hour to go to work and 1 hour to go back to home. I have zero energy to even make a healthy meal myself now,instead I start eatting crap food in local resturants.

I decide to live back to the downtown. First of all,I like living in the downtown plus my company is in the downtown. 

The scotish guy's English friend seem friendly judging by the chats with him on wechat and I guess he is single but not my type though,seem a bit too old for me. But it doesn't really matters,I think an outgoing English guy might have lots of white friends^^ But the point is it would be so tiring to live too far away from my company,this is the main reason I decide to not rent his spare room.

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You say this Vicky but next month you will post another "question" complaining about the same thing.

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This story reminds me of the type of conflicts that Freshmen in college go through.  It's the type of irritation that you only go through once and learn how to avoid the next time around. In China I find that with flat mates you always have to make a lot of exceptions otherwise you'll go crazy. It seems everybody has been brought up in a different way and has different habits. Most don't wash dishes, clean the gunk out of the drain, nor do they clean up the kitchen or bathroom.  Even if you separate monthly duties you'll find people making exceptions in what passes for "clean."  There are others that like hoarding a bunch of useless items.  You literally have no clue if it is theirs or the previous tenant's or the tenant's before that tenant.    It's hard to enjoy your apartment much unless you have it to yourself. I do not miss living in apartments one bit. 

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easy to resolve -- just move out!

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Next time say: 'spier-da-laj'It's Polish.....

Strawberry66:

Hahahaha...I will say it when I am moving out.

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hahahaha I heard the same story before from a Chinese girl in Shanghai  but hey just admit you are just jealous because he has no interest in you lol

Strawberry66:

I am not jelous. In fact,I think he doesn't look good enough to be with me. He has no hair and 7 years older. Man,I do not really think I would go for him after a throughout consideration.

He used to ask me to have sex with him but I refused and we remain as flatmate. And latter he took a Chinese girl back to home,I am not sure if she is a girlfriend or fucking buddy. I don't care about his personal life and I have zero interest on him. I just do not like they touch my private things.

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Hello Vicki, I am a tall, handsome foreigner. I invite you to stay in my apartment.. I have no legs and I am bound to a wheelchair. I dont have a girlfriend or shoes, I believe our co-existence may be beneficial. Msg me if you are interested.

 

 

Strawberry66:

 When will you stop making your jokes? Buddy.

 

I am seriously looking for a foreign flatmate but you do not take it seriously and keep messing around with me.

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Vicky, I know a guy with no arms who is also looking for a flatmate.

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@ Vicki that is my first joke, and so long as you're around expect many more to come.

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My apologies to any folk who are genuinely affected by disability.

Strawberry66:

 If you truly my flatmate who has no arms or legs, I will help taking care of you. I am not a cold blood person.

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Vicky is off work now,gonna run. See you in a while,fellas.

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I just talked with my flatmate about not let his girl wear my slippers again. He simply said that was a mistake without saying sorry. Its obviously not a mistake and my slippers are girl style sized with 36. Obviously not his.
The apartment costes like 4000rmb,he has the double bigger better room with a private bathroom inside his room. I live in a small room with my bigger private bathroom besides my room. He uses my bathroom to shower as he likes my shower thing more( I agreed with that after he asked).I pay 1200rmb monthly and I clean the whole apartment myself once per week and he doesn't clean,it's our agreement. He put dirty shoes in the livimg room after I cleaned. I told him to put it outside. He then said: You know why you clean right? If you do not want to clean.I can pay an Ayi(maid) to clean(He means then I pay him more than 1200rmb and he won't let me clean).
Is he an asshole? I think he is. I told him that I have never met an European likes him and told him to never talk with me ever.
I will try to move out as soon as possible.

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It looks like you're getting a good deal so don't complain. You could just pay half . The last Chinese  person that tried to get me to pay most of the rent while she paid nothing I laughed at and walked out. You are not a child. Pay your share. It sounds like you liked him and you're angry he doesn't like you. Maybe if you didn't complain so much he would. I find Chinese women complain for no reason. 

Strawberry66:

Garbo,first of all,let's be honest,I found this guy has good looking face and tall at the beginning,but soon I feel I do not like his bald head with no hair.When I got closer to look at his face sometimes,I found he looks a bit old. I then start losing interest. But the most important is I found he is very rude,petty,mean and arrogant,which is very ugly in my eyes and I definetely feel zero interest on this guy.And latter I found he is 7 years older than me,I do not really like dating much older guy.I know I can get better man by how I look and my better manners. Second,I didn't complain for nothing. He took woman home and told the woman to wear my slippers without my approval and even did not apologize after I told him to not give my slippers to the woman to wear.He told me in a bad tone that was iust a mistake,obviously it was not a mistake,they doesn't even look like his slippers.And he doesn't respect me for cleaning the flat. I do not like people step in with dirty shoes after I cleaned,no manners!!!Seriously?I do not care find a flat back to downtown. I am Chinese,I can find cheap flat in the downtown easier than him.If I live besides my company,I can even save lots of subway fees,and my company area has lots of white men who works in Shanghai living here and it is just 6 minutes subway away to Jing An temple and 30 minutes subway away to the airport and trainstation. Very good location. Or I can just live in Jing An temple or West Nanjing road. Those three areas have many white men living there which is good for me to live. Plus I do like those areas as well,those places are fun to live and everything is convient.

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In 100 years time who will care?

Life is too short...

They are effing slippers!

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I once was angry that I had lost my slippers until one day I met a person with no feet.

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that will only be lost on 99.9% of the readers here~

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Isn't his name Patrick the jew?

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What made you say so?

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Vicky why do you have so much issues and drama with every human being you walk across. Just let things go and you'll be so much happier. Whether or not it's your fault you seem to get into situations like this constantly at your office, home or whatever. Rooming with s foreign guy who has a gf? Come on now...

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