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Q: Partnership with a Chinese Citizen. Worth the effort?

This is a follow on question from a poster today who asked about  issues regarding marrying a Chinese citizen.

 

It got me thinking, because I am married to a Chinese citizen. But for me, it was no hardship. I wanted to be with my wife and she wanted to be with me. Of course it was difficult. But not impossible. It just took time. And.. I have to admit. luck.. both good and bad.

 

What hardship did you have to endure to be with your Chinese partner?

 

My answer of course is the hardship of staying in China to exercise my UN mandated human right to a family life. That's a struggle we all have.

 

Any specific tales of hardship and love beyond borders?

9 years 1 week ago in  Family & Kids - China

 
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Marrying a Chinese = Good choice if you find the right person, there are truly good men and women out here, they are very family oriented and will defend their other half with fists if needed, but they are few and far between among the mass of worthless folks.

 

Business partnership with a Chinese = No no no! You have 99% chances that they will screw you over, or expect to earn 50% while doing 10% of the work. Then again there are exceptions, but they are rare like diamonds.

hi2u:

Diamonds are actually very plentiful in nature, just the sale of diamonds is strictly controlled to mark up the prices a hundred fold. 

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a story I heard...  in all the world, the whole of every diamond ever mined, would not fill an Olympic swimming pool.    

and my wife wants a new one that is the size of a pool.... what am I to do?

actually she does have a little one, that I got her for a reason that was related to me, certainly not her...  she did not know why she was getting a diamond .

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Will you be inviting us to the wedding Eorthisio? I am fairly local to you :-)

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I always wonder why people ask these kinds of questions. Are you waiting for someone to say "no it's not worth the effort and you made a horrible mistake marrying your Chinese wife"? 

ScotsAlan:

I really asked it for the benefit of people such as the American poster who was having trouble over marrying his gf. Lots of guests read these pages so it`s all good info for people who are maybe reluctant to go online and ask. Bing any question about China and EChina is at the top. Ha ha, if I had not been so daft a few years back and actually researched China I could have saved myself from a lot of self inflicted problems :)

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Oy fair enough

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dear sir:

my move to China to be with my beloved, cost me an initial amount of about $35000 that an immigration lawyer got.... after losing that, I quit my job ($90-100000/yr) and settled for a measly pension of +/-$36000. 

My life and my lifestyle have improved far beyond the loss of income.

I totally enjoy the family. ( you know, there are some what the fucks)

In response to the question, and in hindsight, there were no hardships .. definitely some learning experiences. 

I kind of like my life now....  was pretty much in disarray back home.

 

 

 

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Marrying a Chinese = Good choice if you find the right person, there are truly good men and women out here, they are very family oriented and will defend their other half with fists if needed, but they are few and far between among the mass of worthless folks.

 

Business partnership with a Chinese = No no no! You have 99% chances that they will screw you over, or expect to earn 50% while doing 10% of the work. Then again there are exceptions, but they are rare like diamonds.

hi2u:

Diamonds are actually very plentiful in nature, just the sale of diamonds is strictly controlled to mark up the prices a hundred fold. 

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a story I heard...  in all the world, the whole of every diamond ever mined, would not fill an Olympic swimming pool.    

and my wife wants a new one that is the size of a pool.... what am I to do?

actually she does have a little one, that I got her for a reason that was related to me, certainly not her...  she did not know why she was getting a diamond .

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Will you be inviting us to the wedding Eorthisio? I am fairly local to you :-)

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I don't understand why people differentiate marriage to a Chinese citizen to marriage in general. I've been married to my Chinese husband for close to seven years, and I never attribute our marital hardships to his nationality.

ScotsAlan:

It was more a question about what you had to go through to be together. You know, visa, job hunting, immigration officials etc. Just the usual problems people have when marrying someone from another country. I was not really meaning hardships caused by the person you are married to :)

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Seeing how Chinese are obsessed with money, and won't tolerate a foreign man keeping his savings private, it probably helped that I started out poor. If I had money, I'd be protective of it, justifiably mistrustful, and it would have ended in breakup and/or losing it all.

Instead, I came with nothing, wasn't defensive due to having nothing to lose, and that's probably what make it work in the end. What we have, we built up together. Cheating me would not be worth the loss of a father now.

Money isn't everything. Sometimes it's less than nothing. I'm reminded of a Kennedy speech, but you need to replace GNP with money:

""Gross National Product counts air pollution and cigarette advertising ... ambulances to clear our highways of carnage ... locks for our doors and the jails for the people who break them ... destruction of the Redwood and the loss of our natural wonder in chaotic sprawl.

It counts napalm, nuclear warheads and armoured cars for the police to fight the riots in our cities. Yet the gross national product does not allow for the health of our children, the quality of their education or the joy of their play ... beauty of our poetry or the strength of our marriages ... It measures neither our wit nor our courage, neither our wisdom nor our learning, neither our compassion nor our devotion to our country, it measures everything in short, except that which makes life worthwhile.”"

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