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Q: Passive aggressive replys.

You know the things that you are subjected to .
The things that you are asked and told.
So how do we deal with it?
For me im over the politeness reply and smile.
How many times a day do ypu get "Ahh your Chinese is so good."
My reply is thank you. ..so is yours.
Or how about "you are so tall and handsome "
Thank you...can you introduce me to a pretty girl.?
To the noobs here welcome to Planet China where being a Narcissist is a National past time.

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Yeah I was never able to get comfortable with the fake compliments.

 

When I was a manager I'd get them all the time from the staff and others you already know aren't trustworthy and you suspect are trying to fuck you over behind your back, if they aren't already.

 

There's a scene from the movie Snatch that always went through my head... never said it but I often thought it to myself because it just sums it up perfectly I think.

 

 

Brick Top:
Pull your tongue out of my arsehole, Gary. Dogs do that. You're not a dog, are ya, Gary?

Gary:
No, no, I'm not.

Brick Top:
However, you have all the characteristics of a dog, Gary; all except loyalty.

 

 

 

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=snatch+scene+you%27re+not+a...

 

 

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Yeah I was never able to get comfortable with the fake compliments.

 

When I was a manager I'd get them all the time from the staff and others you already know aren't trustworthy and you suspect are trying to fuck you over behind your back, if they aren't already.

 

There's a scene from the movie Snatch that always went through my head... never said it but I often thought it to myself because it just sums it up perfectly I think.

 

 

Brick Top:
Pull your tongue out of my arsehole, Gary. Dogs do that. You're not a dog, are ya, Gary?

Gary:
No, no, I'm not.

Brick Top:
However, you have all the characteristics of a dog, Gary; all except loyalty.

 

 

 

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=snatch+scene+you%27re+not+a...

 

 

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I could be asked that a million times, ill never be a smug asshole. What's so hard about nodding your head and smiling and saying thank you? It takes way more energy to respond with a snide remark. I'm not saying you are these things...I know what you mean, its gets old being told the same old shit all the time..that's just how she goes in China. At least they are not saying "you so black" or ugly or something negative.I know peoples compliments are fake anyway. I don't mind fake..mocking is another thing though. I'm all about leaving a good impression so the next foreigner might be looked at with a bit more respect and treated better.

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To be sarcastic is my #1 reply crime, but the funny thing is I've gotten more and more out of using it in Asia.  They just don't get it.  Most of the folks I'm around year in / year out have a heck of a time w/ simple sentences.  So I listen to them speak in English a while, make the simplest reply I can, and that's about it with most of 'em.  I can tell, as everyone else here has experienced a million times too,,, all u have to do is start discussing something, there is that blank look on their face and most I've known look everywhere but at me, and I can tell they can't understand 15% of what I'm saying, so most of the time that's when I drop it and keep the conversation superficial.   Man, I really miss good smart-ass, smart-aleck, sarcastic replies.  I used one on gf today, she asked what I considered to be a dumb question, so I looked at her and said 'I'll give you 3 guesses.' with a really smart-ass tone, then she's standing there explaining to me she doesn't know what I mean by 3 guesses. no  

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I do try and make a joke out of compliments, handsome, I reply "you know, my wife, mistress and 3 girlfriends, say the same thing".

 

your chinese is so good  "yes, I hope so my new mistress refuses to speak any English with me and I can't talk her into learning French".

If they invite you to dinner, "I have to check with the boss my wife and of course my small wife to make sure they have no plans for me".

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Tom Wilson, who played Biff in "Back to the Future", wrote a song that perfectly encapsulates what it's like to be a Westerner in China. 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwY5o2fsG7Y

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I don't respond, I literally act as if they didn't say anything and carry on with the conversation or with whatever I am doing. Say I'm eating noodles and out of nowhere comes a "wow you can use chopsticks very good", I don't even look at them or react in any way, I just keep eating. Ignoring such narcissistic people frustrates them because they are just attention whoring with their fake compliments and stupid remarks.

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