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Q: Patriotic Chinese social phenomenon

Some Chinese patriot still criticize Chinese girls go crazy about western men. You can't even talk that you think white guys are handsome in front of them. Chinese men will quickly criticize you. Recently I watched a vedio online with a Chinese man calls we are brain washed by western culture to think white are good looking. It's really weird. What's wrong to feel white are better looking? It's just some personal preference. Do some Chinese have to go serious with this? I never really try to criticize Chinese, but most Chinese disappointed me. Almost everytime when I share house with Chinese, they don't even flush their toilet. It's not easy to try to not talk bad about China even though I am from China too. When I am out in the street, I keep coughing because of pollution. I keep feeling throwing up because of people spit in the street. There are more Chinese do it than westerners here. When I was walking in the steet, everyday,  a lot of Chinese men would stare at me a lot and made me feel so uncomfortable and I even feel scared to stay alone with Chinese man. But the western men usually don't keep staring at me. They may look at me but usually try to not stare much. So those Chinese patriots, before you start criticizing. Could you please try to educate people here to be more civilized to win respect first? The best way a nation to win respect is try to understand and accept diffrence and try to be more civilized.     

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I'm sure it's just you.

 

Both me and my Chinese boyfriend are OK for me to fuck foreigners.

 

Why is that a big deal?

 

Life is too short to care about what the others say, and it won't change the fact that you still don't have a white husband, even if all Chinese don't want you.

 

Hahahahahaha.

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Western women kind of feel that way about western men thinking chinese girls are attractive...but no one really talks about that.

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Just finished reading the rest, wow! Well thought out. Accurate. You should delete it now before you end up in jail. 

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Most "patriots" I have met (from many countries) are usually losers. They know that they cannot be considered to be a successful person based on their own merits and so work to be associated closely with their country. Compare one of your patriots to a successful Chinese man with money, a wife and family. You will see that the "patriot" lacks the skills needed to be like the other. The patriot will mostly likely be hostile to the other man too. He will use the excuse that the other man is a blight to his country. The truth is he is working hard to improve his social standing and believes that doing it in the guise of helping his country will give him the support of his countrymen.

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Perhaps I am the only one of the few Chinese will stand out to say the most banal truth.

 

I am sure the society wouldn't like it.

 

People in our nation tend to think in a stereotype way. I am just so tired of it. 

 

 

 

 

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They just have no confidence. They feel attacked and inferior. 
I feel like almost every Chinese boy I have ever met has zero confidence. Just some fake level of it and often they confuse arrogance for confidence. 

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One night I walked into a luxury mall for finding toilet. Damn, I felt I was the best looking woman there even I wore cheaper stuffs. Because I walked with my back straight up and felt comfortable. The rest of Chinese girls were in high heels but always walked with the back bent . Ugly, why do that?

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Such 'patriotism' is idiocy! And it doesn't matter where it comes from. Many people in the world say stupid things like "you should only date/marry/be friends with people from our own group".

 

The vast majority of the negativity you're noticing is purely from an inferiority complex - from men! (and women who aren't able to get a white/foreign guy).  The main clue to this is the idea that there is only Chinese and foreign. The same as people think 中国 & 外国. We don't think like that! It's a false dichotomy. We think of countries, nationalities, and difference and individualities.

 

And for attractiveness, we think of people - not ethnicities!

 

Of course, there's also a HUGE element of perceived value. Women are much more inclined to date/marry up and out of their social standing (not surprising in a world where the man is seen as the 'bread-winner' - it almost forces women to seek a richer, more powerful man*. And, therefore, men are usually inclined to date/marry those of a slightly lower social standing). White guys are seen as wealthier, and thus of a higher social standing (and able to GTFO of here)... so, it shouldn't be too surprising.

 

And, as said elsewhere... 'western men' treat women different (better) to Chinese men (boys... children).

 

 

(* obviously, I'm referring to heterosexual relationships. There will be similar ideas in homosexual, but I haven't seen the research figures on this)

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Patriotism is based on borders which has to be the most evil invention by man. 

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The Chinese are only patriotic when they don't have enough money to move to another country.

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Vicky, you're out here looking like a Chinese Uncle Tom smh...stop it! Lol

 

Also, you do know that you're NOT the only person who holds a particular racial preference with regards to dating and relationships? Myself and many others out there, whether consciously or subconsciously express a certain type of preference.

 

I have my type just as you have your type. The only difference is, I and many others don't feel the need to tell the whole world about it. It's like the only thing that you ever talk about is this, why? Another user mentioned it in this post but it just seems like your main reason for going for White men are shallow, it's less about the man and the love and more about making a statement to others. I mean why do you have to be so explicit about it all the time? I think part of the reason why some Chinese men may be quick to criticize this behaviour and alot of the White men you meet aren't interested in building a sustainable relationship with you is because they can all see the shallowness behind it all. For you, it's clear to many posters that your ultimate dream is to settle down with a White, handsome prince then go and live in his country, and quite frankly, that is pathetic. It's central to your identity, how can we respect that?! I know that I don't..

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The right mentality about this is, "I date whoever I want and it's not your business, now go away please".

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staring ??? you are totally mistaken ! Western men stare more on girls and especially in summer , all western men can't stop staring at those legs available everywhere. If you moved out to another country , you will have this patriotic feeling if someone made fun of you or make you feel less about where you come from

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I'm sure it's just you.

 

Both me and my Chinese boyfriend are OK for me to fuck foreigners.

 

Why is that a big deal?

 

Life is too short to care about what the others say, and it won't change the fact that you still don't have a white husband, even if all Chinese don't want you.

 

Hahahahahaha.

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