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Q: Problem of women juding me.
My collegues are two average looking women 5 years older than me.They kept telling me that I am nothing pretty.But other ppl they dont think so.what do these two women want?'
And obviously I got a young skin and they got a lot of wrinkles around their eyes,their skin and one looks strong and a little bit fat,another one gets a fat part as well and the funny thing is one of the woman told another older women's skin is much better than me.lol.Whay do they want?
They kept telling me in the office ,which annoyed me,what do they really want?Obviously ppl think they are nothing pretty and special,and they kept doing this to me.They ruined my working mood.One woman is my boss's daughter.
Victoria, I think that these women are obviously envious of your skin, from what you told me. They want to become you by wearing your perfect skin. They obviously were not born criminals, but made ones by years of systematic abuse. My advice is that you should put the lotion on your skin, or else you get the hose again.
Victoria1987:
What?Are you joking?You helped me with nothing good advices,anyway women are so catty.
Victoria1987:
I will still make myself pretty everyday to go to my office,woohoo.Their jelous wont make me ugly,the looking is from my parents,I got prettier Mom.^^Thanks ,Mummy
Stop worrying what others think about you. As long as you behave nicely, then all is well.
Victoria1987:
My friend told me they may jelous.I really feel it is better to work with men,women like jelous andf always bring emotion to the office,that is annoying to me.
Ask them if its about jealousy or just being mean.
Victoria1987:
I doubt it is jelous.But if I ask them ,they will hate me for me to find it out.One is my boss's daughter.I kown them well.
If you like where you work and you are bothered by these other woman. the best thing to do is to put a curse on them!!!
Why do you worry about what other WOMEN think of you? Women are often 'catty' this way. You should only think about how MEN perceive you! I am certain you are not planning to 'marry' a woman.
Victoria1987:
Thank you,I think you are right,as long as I kown I am pretty and men like,and kown they are talking bullshit to me to let me feel down.I dont need to care,now I dont care.when they talk about I am not pretty,I kown I have something they can jelous of,which makes me happlier.lol I am right?
Victoria, I'm getting tired of your ridiculous stories. It also involves 'What does she want'? My first guess is: Nothing. They don't want anything from you. Also, I'm sure you are not innocent in this. You talk about people judging you and then you go and judge the sh*t out of them. Calling them fat and wrinkly etc. I'm not sure what your purpose on this site is but I think you've missed the mark. The majority of the responses you get are sarcastic and condescending which, judging by your comments on them, you haven't picked up on.
Vyborg:
Brother, really? I like a good soap now and then. When I saw the question and the 'juding' I was already smiling. Some slapstick coming my way, great! I think you should kown better than taking her serious.
Did this start with you asking if you are pretty at work? I think they want to wear your skin, so they won't have wrinkles and can be beautiful.
Victoria1987:
Those women are catty.It is tough to work with older women,usually they will lie to you to make you feel down.
1.I told those women many men told I am pretty,my boss's daughter told they lied.lol
That is mean,isn't it?
2.They like telling me I am not pretty,but in fact guys always give me compliment.
3.The third funny thing is nothing about the jelous,it is about stupid.They got married to wealthy men arranged by their parents,and they didnt have a sucessfully relationship before and they tried to tell me how to work a relationship out.And they told I have been dated with many men,that is bad.And they told me I shouldn't go to bar ,those are bad places.They told foreigners are open,they have more chances to carry HIV.lol
lol,the fact is they don't even have foreign friends,but I have some western friends and was dating with expat guys.
DumpsterDiver:
So they are married to rich people while you are on a expat forum still looking? And will except anyone and everyone even a homeless white guy who lives in a box?
my advice is never worry what people think about you.
Victoria1987:
Tks,now I don't care about what they told.I kown those are not true.All my male friends told they lied and they are just probally jelous.Well,those 31 ladies are sensitive about younger lady join the company.lol.The jelous of them wont change my life,I become happy again and dont care about their words and I have friend to go party on the weekend as well.They have to be with their wealthy husband they dont love.lol,well,but they got the Money to live with ,lmao.Typical Chinese marriage,what a funny drama.
Victoria, I think that these women are obviously envious of your skin, from what you told me. They want to become you by wearing your perfect skin. They obviously were not born criminals, but made ones by years of systematic abuse. My advice is that you should put the lotion on your skin, or else you get the hose again.
Victoria1987:
What?Are you joking?You helped me with nothing good advices,anyway women are so catty.
Victoria1987:
I will still make myself pretty everyday to go to my office,woohoo.Their jelous wont make me ugly,the looking is from my parents,I got prettier Mom.^^Thanks ,Mummy
just turn a blind eye to them,and surely they will stop judging you later ,dont you think? you cannot control external events but you can learn to control your reaction to those events and thereby be happy
Victoria1987:
I am not angry with them now.I am still happy^^ Thanks.
you keep asking questions here that are either:
1) not questions
2) could be answered better by talking to the people directly. how do we know what they are thinking?
Victoria1987:
Well, you don't need to answer,little girl.Go back home to sleep.
u are soooooo damn victorious victoria, i like u soooo damn much so u need not to care about what they say ok? so stay cool and remember the rule of life, everyone including your immediate friends and some members of your family always want you to do well, but not better than them, so learn it, keep in and live with it muah!
Well, thanks Vic. Thanks a lot. I've just come home from a night of enthusiastic drinking only to find myself having read all of the above. And what have I learnt? That I'm in serious need of a good uppercut.
MissA:
I always read her questions veering between morbid fascination and the desire to punch myself in the face.
Victoria, do you genuinely want to get along with other women? You really seem to care about, and crave the company of, men, much more highly.
I don't think it's likely that, as you seem to be suggesting, they dislike you for being more attractive than them, I suspect it's more an attitude thing. I have worked with many women, younger and older, more and less attractive than me. We've always got along - in fact, my female colleagues have always been super supportive.
If you want to get along with women try seeing them as people. Big-note yourself less (it's a deeply unappealing character trait, as sorrel rightly told you a few weeks back). Pay other people compliments when they look good rather than dwelling on your own alleged attractiveness. You might be amazed at the results - and one of your friends might just introduce you to that 'foreign prince' you so desperately desire.
You said you told these women how some men say you are pretty, so already you are saying "look at me how wonderful I am". This is a common aspect in all your postings here, the craving to be the centre of attention. Then you wonder why they turn on you like they have, you bought it upon yourself. The longer you post here the more desperate you appear, you clearly have very little in the way of social skills and are just dreaming of the day when Mr Rich Tall Handsome foreigner will whisk you off to his castle and treat like the queen you so desire to be. I've got news for you Victoria, life isn't like that, we all make compromises and we all have to get along with people who. sometimes, we don't particularly like. You really do need to grow up, like a lot of young Chinese women you act more like a young teenage girl from back home. Also, if your avatar is really you, then you are NOT that pretty, just grow up and accept it.
Victoria1987:
You gay lord.
The straight men always sent me private message on this site to pursue me.lol wooo,you gay,what kind of men attract you well?Did you have the ONS outside with men?TedDBayer:
Gee Vickie, who sends you msg, anyone? not me. BTW do you think I'm sexy?
Victoria1987:
How come I kown you,you gay lord.I have the right to protect the guys messaged to me,it is about privacy of them.
tomcatflyer:
I see you have reverted to form Vicky. You don't like what I have written so you resort to name calling and in a later post you tell us all about your wise friends and that posting on here is just a joke for you. Well as far as names go MY first wife and children never thought so and my second wife is definitely very happy, nothing gay there. Also if it such a joke for you, what sort of person sets herself up for the reactions you get here. I will tell you, one with mental problems of some kind. Sorrel is right in her later post, a real lady would never behave or answer in the fashion that you choose to. Just go back to your dreamworld until you have something sensible to say. As far as your wise friends go we heard about them last time, well it seems as though you adhere to their advice as well as you do ours, because you keep on coming back for more of the same.
I know what I want... I want you to STFU and GTFO!
Sorry but you are quite annoying lol.
a woman with class or good manners would not publicly use the language Victoria is using on this site when commenting on posts. public manners reveal the character of a person.
Robk:
I have to agree, people like her just really annoy me with questions like this. They sound more like just gossip than a sincere enlightening question.
She reminds me of a tumbleweed blowing in the desert. Seems so shallow and empty.
Victoria1987:
Somone I kown is called Phil(Huke),a typical loser among their own American women,then run to our country to find women.Are you the loser among your white local men?lol.You have been active on this site for a long time,A expat friend of mine runs a expat sites in hangzhou told me those ppl have been active on the site very often and for a very long time are usually people who is despressing and losers with ppl.Well,I got my party to shrown on with my friends.lol...Site is nothing valubale to me,a good joke to kill time for me as what I told before,well,hmmm,office time,you kown it.^^
TedDBayer:
I love the loser comes to China to score scenario. What does that say about Chinese women? The guys that eat burgers or stay in hostels can't fight them off, heaven help you if you stay in good hotels and have money.
Victoria1987:
Can you sleep in a good hotel everyday in Canda,a big joke?International hostell are just cheap for expats because the diffrent value of money,it is not cheap for Chinese.if you cant afford to sleep in paris hotel,you have no right to judge.I have my own house rented in shanghai,staying in a hostel just for fun and meet ppl.lol.You fool ppl.
Ask Londoner if it is expensive to spend 50 pounds every day to sleep in a hostel.lol.Same here,use your mind,dont judge so quickly.100rmb can only get one bowel of noodles in New Zealands,it is like 20 New Zealand dollars.But 100rmb here can buy a good meal in China.hehehe.And 100rmb in New Zealand are just for cherap food.Is it means those westerners are richer because they spend more money.lol My French friend worked in Holland earns 1500€,and has to spend 650€ for a 10square meter room in a shared flat,does it mean my friend is richer than Chinese because the renting is about 5200rmb.lol Dont always say Chinese who stays in international hostel are poor or whatever.There are Chinese hostel are cheap for sure,but international ones are not cheap for Chinese.And the guy I was dating had to travel around the world,he has to sleep in international hostel,it nothing about he is poor.lolAnd now he backed to Israel to continue his university.\ studying,If he didn't travel around the world,for sure he could afford hotel sometimes.I have met guys and girls studying in top university in the world,they travled around the world and it is a bit costes for them,how many ppl have the job can afford?How come you call them poor and losers?I never think like that,they are brave ppl.I have enough money to rent my flat when I want,sleeping in an international hostel was not so expensive for me,alspo not cheap,OI just there for fun.Now I rent my own house because I want quiet after enough fun.lolWise ppl dont judge so quickly.TedDBayer:
Vickie, you brought up the loser subject, nuff said. You'd get booted out of the Vulcan Science Academy.
Hulk:
Wow, calling sorrel a loser? That's rich. She's a really good and kind-hearted person in real life, and a great teacher as well. She's also a fuck of a lot more beautiful than you.
sorrel has done nothing but try to help you. She feels bad for you. And now you're turning on her? I honestly think you have schizophrenia.
Robk:
Sorrel, rather than comment further on her... I have read in a few posts previously that you were from a country that Chinese don't even believe exists or something... but I never saw you say which country that was...
I am curious, where is that?
I just ate a pizza. A whole one.
Can anyone give me some attention, please? I'm really craving being the center of attention right now. Let's talk about my pizza.
Mr_spoon:
Omg I so totally had a pizza the day before yesterday! A Meat Lover's, too!
How was your pizza, darling?
Hulk:
Yes. Papa Johns. First time I ever tried any Papa Johns stuff. Gotta say it was good stuff.
mike168229:
I had a Papa Johns one here in Shijiazhuang. I didn't even know that had opened up here until one of my mates invited me. Very nice pizza I thought, although a bit on the expensive side.
slice_999_k:
Tell us more..I'm intrigued. What do you think the pizza wanted from you?
royceH:
No pizza where I live but the Uyghir naan bread goes well covered with some onion, tomato, olives and cheese (not real).
TedDBayer:
I had a Papa Johns once, it went straight into the garbage
Hulk:
slice_999_k, I'm not sure, but I'm feeling used.
I think the other people are just jealous of my pizza and can't stand it. The pepperoni talks to me, you know. It tells me it loves me.
Teddy, if you hate Papa Johns, I hope I never get to try the pizza that you like. I'd be spoiled forever!
Anyone notice how Ma****a's posts stopped around the time good ol' tricky Vic started posting a lot of stuff?
Hulk:
Victoria really is the person in her picture. She really does look like that in real life. She is real... but, you know, she might also be mattaya. lol
Advanced delusionary schizophrenia with involuntary narcissistic rage.
OK dearie let me a share a few personal ideas, woman-to-woman, based upon experience.
1. First, do botox. Find a good qualified dermatologist and get yourself treated. It worked wonders for me. But you should do it only under supervision and only in a really qualified hospital.
2. In my own case, when the botox treatments no longer did the trick, I went to a really good hospital in Shanghai -- I will share the name with you privately -- and had a facelift. It really worked nicely. It rejuvenated me and it took all the dark patches off the skin and returned to a nice white milky state.
3. Finally, since I trusted the doctor in Shanghai so much, six months later I had a boob lift done. It was really great. No implants, nothing dangerous. Really great and I can still wear a bikini.
4. Use only the best Shiseido comestics on your face. They are terribly expensive but they are the best in the world.
5. Ignore your colleagues.
