The place to ask China-related questions!
Beijing Shanghai Guangzhou Shenzhen Chengdu Xi'an Hangzhou Qingdao Dalian Suzhou Nanjing More Cities>>

Categories

Close
Welcome to eChinacities Answers! Please or register if you wish to join conversations or ask questions relating to life in China. For help, click here.
X

Verify email

Your verification code has been sent to:

Didn`t receive your code? Resend code

By continuing you agree to eChinacities's Privacy Policy .

Sign up with Google Sign up with Facebook
Sign up with Email Already have an account? .
Posts: 165

Governor

0
0
You must be a registered user to vote!
You must be a registered user to vote!
0

Q: Relationships based on luxury?

For those of you in relationships, do you feel that your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife demands more of you in terms of money and luxury items in China than in other places/cultures?

12 years 13 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
Answers (1)
Comments (0)
Posts: 3025

Emperor

0
0
You must be a registered user to vote!
You must be a registered user to vote!
0

When I am into what I understand it is a "relationship", my interest lies on making the other member happy, and when she is happy then I am happy too.  And in turn, she will do the same for me.  So, in a "true relationship", there is no "demanding", or forcing, or blackmailing done.

And, to me, culture has nothing to do with it.  Maybe here in China it took a few more words and a few more days of long conversations to get my point across.  But once it did, at least with my present GF I must say that after 15 months of being together, we both are extremely happy.  And as she has told me, she has never felt so relaxed, happy and worried free in her life.  

All other types or relationships I call them by a different name, in my mind they are business arrangements.  

And yes, I have ,made it clear that I am well off, but I am not a millionaire.  So, there are limits to what I can do.  And even more surprising, she is not into luxury items at all.

Report Abuse
12 years 13 weeks ago
 
Know the answer ?
Please or register to post answer.

Report Abuse

Security Code: * Enter the text diplayed in the box below
Image CAPTCHA
Enter the characters shown in the image.
  • Allowed HTML tags: <a> <em> <strong> <cite> <code> <ul> <ol> <li> <dl> <dt> <dd> <img> <br> <p> <u>
  • Web page addresses and e-mail addresses turn into links automatically.
  • Lines and paragraphs break automatically.
  • Textual smileys will be replaced with graphical ones.

More information about formatting options

Forward Question

Answer of the DayMORE >>
A: No, it's not allowed to work under RP at 2nd job! I'd say, Z visa
A:No, it's not allowed to work under RP at 2nd job! I'd say, Z visa/RP sponsor can have an objections to your part-time job. I did the same at my English teaching in China and elsewhere, butT ... I casually mentioned at my prime job, some kindergarten or another school asked me to work with them part-time. Then, my Q: "Is that permitted?" ...  Answer from RP sponsor was always "Yes, but you can't be late or miss the classes at our school ..." with my reply: "No, our work schedule has a priority, and I'll arrange classes at kindergarten only in my free time." When I cleared that, I was undertaking any extra teaching hours at other schools and private students in my free time.Sometimes, teachers at my prime job asked me if I'm willing to have some extra classes elsewhere.I accepted after the talk with School's principal. I suggest, you test the felling at your Z/RP sponsor and once you see they don't object, you can work at 2nd job. Keeping your 2nd job as a secret from your employer won't work, 'cause you're laowai and Chinese know exactly what you do in your free time. However, despite your employer's agreement for extra work, you are still in violation of Chinese Labour law, and even if your sponsor agrees to your extra work, you can still get in trouble, because it's clearly written (somewhere ... ) that under Z/WP, one can work only at the Z-sponsor and nowhere else. Penalties ... I'd say, there won't be any warnings and you'll be required to exit China in short Exit time.It never happened to me, so I can't really advice how is when manure hits the fan ...  -- icnif77