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Q: Should I come to China or stay in India?

i m glad to have the answers from u guys , should i stay in india than? money is not a problem for me i can spend as manyy to go to china bt i know nothing about china , there culture , and chinese language i dont know too. i met her through internet and we talked for 3 months n fell in love and we met in bangkok in feb 2011 and now i wanna stay with her forever n i really dont know what to do it will be like risking my whole life if i decide to run away from here away from my parents and family n get settle there ..... i m so damn confuse .......life sucksssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss.................sugeest me something guys

12 years 28 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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3 months online and you already fell in love? and meeting once in Bangkok nine months ago has you ready to give up everything and move to a place you know nothing about?

well if you are one of those that only believe in fairy tale happy endings then there's nothing to say that will convince you otherwise.  but the fact that you are even asking someone (much less strangers) shows you have doubts yourself.  So because of that... stay in India

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After 3 months you love her? wow you are shahrokh khan man.

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Sorry i have to say you are raj kapoor , don't you think 3 months is very fast?

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Love can be wonderfull but it can realy destroy you. You gona give all up and take the risk? Different culture, you need to be accepted by the whole family.. Money is a big issue for chinese, can you buy her a good house here?
No one can tell you what to do but if you have good family why risk it for a fling you had in BK? Whay did you meet there?

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drop her, date around (locally) build up your experience. right now your pu$$y drunk from have what seems like your first sexual experience. date around until you are around 25 then you'll have enough experience to make a better decision

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If you have that much money you should be a pu$$y magnet in your own country.
The problem with on line dating is the fraud. Have you sent her any money?
 Go back to Bangkok, have some fun. Then go home, why risk ruining your life and familyfor someone you barely know. Even if you really do love her and got married , after a few years and the romance fades, you will have strained your family life and be just another unhappy married man. I hear the Chinese women have terrible tempers also.

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Did you mention to her that you have money? Then, your 3 months may turn into a nightmare when you land into China. Moreover, how do you plan to stay in China? If you work here, then you can get a visa, otherwise for "Indian" people like you, Chinese won't give that much a damn to give you a visa....no, I'm racist...I like facts

Stay in India and ask her to come to India, you can teach her and she may be taught the Kamasutra way.. Smile

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Who am i to question what you feel for this woman...So you fell inlove with her in just 3 months, that's fine but we're talking about you coming to china (a big place you know nothing about)>that's a different thing because too much is at risk and i'm sure you do know what are those. I suggest that before making a big decision, THINK about it and most importantly, think about what you really feel for her and you have to make sure.
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why do you want to leave India? if your main reason for wanting to leave is for a Lady, if i were you i'd stay. But then hindsights a b___.

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Stay in India and enjoy your life.

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If yopu truly love her .. go the extra mile to win her heart and be bold to make a committment. You have our support and prayers.

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Hey Buddy, life does not always suck.  If I were you, I would come to China, not because of that girl, but because it may give you a new experience! Try getting a short term job for 6 months to a year (preferably in a province whre "she" does not live). If you like it , you can stay longer. If you hate it, you can go back and it was an "experience".
That would be my advice.
Best of luck!!!

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All you can do is try it. If you feel you can make that leap, then do it. Do it for the adventure, and see how it works out with the woman. Whether it works out with her or not, you'll still have the experience.
Just do your research first on China, living in China, and living where ever it is you hope/plan to settle. 

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come to china...its amazing place..but also need some cash..

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hi dear you  should  go  there  and  meet her  if you want any help  from me i can  help  i am  from india  an indian

i can  speak  very good  chinese

i also can   help you  to find   if  she  is  gunine  girl  or  just  fake  who  just  want  your  money

you can  contact me  via  mail  cool.jck1@gmail.com

9024245668

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Do not go to China for love.  Go to China for an adventure. 

 

If you go, I'm sure you'll discover that you actually don't belong together.  Have fun for a while, have a Chinese vacation, then go back to India and continue your life.

mike695ca:

this posting was more than 2 years ago  he might have died already

10 years 19 weeks ago
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JanShanghai:

Ha!  I totally didn't notice the date.  Guess I should check that more often before commenting.  Wonder what happened to the guy...

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