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Q: They are a bunch of losers in china. How do i digest this?
I like realistic people, they can punch the reality in my face. Right now, someone pointed out that throughout the times, i've been hanging out with a bunch of losers, i.e. those foreign guys in China. I hate to say this, but I kind of agree with what he said. Here's how the convo goes:
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I am really confused that
Yes...?
Why all the men I've been dating...ended up discussing other women with me
Like "oh, she's pretty?" Or...?
No no no, It's like...you know, don't be surprised if I tell you this...but I'm seeing other women too. I'd be like ..ok. Then..they'd say things like, i got sex all the time and so on and so on...but it's only physical. Then after few days...i really like that girl i met...but don't quite dare to tell her...so i ended up having sex with 2 other women...
basically, if you want me to be brutally honest, most of the foreign guys here are total dogshit. We call them "zero to hero" because there's no way they could pull this kind of shit back home. And, if I can be honest again, I almost deleted you when I saw you posting videos of you hanging out with foreign guys on wechat. It's a total turnoff because I think "oh. here go these girls getting fooled again" There are certain... Levels of foreigners. "English teachers" are the bottom of the barrel. The absolute lowest. Especially in China. Sorry, you may not want to hear this. But I've been living in other countries for a long time and have been around a lot. China is (sorry) the least desirable place. English "teacher" is already a loser job. Most try to get in Japan. If they fail, they try Korea. China is the last one. The people in Japan are pretty fucked up. The ones in Korea are more fucked up. The ones here may be the worst I've seen. Well, they have no marketable skills. And they had to take the position with the lowest pay and benefits. I'm just telling you things that I have witnessed. I'm a teacher. I hate telling people that because they think I'm one of those English teachers. Even though I have a master's degree in education and several real American teaching licenses. Those guys make life harder for me because people think I'm one of them. Everybody says "oh, you teach English?'
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I shared this conversation with many other foreigners I know in China, surprisingly, they totally agreed with him.
So I don't know how am I able to digest this. If those people are 'losers' in their own cultures and and become 'stars' when they got to another one, will knowing that be enough for me to rule them out from my dating life or my life as a whole?
Thoughts?
My thoughts are you can't be an English teacher because your English is all over the place, it's not clear whether you're talking about yourself or someone else half the time. Also, if it's you that's dating guys who are openly seeing other girls, then you're the loser, they're getting just what they want, it's you who's coming up short. In fact these sound like stand-up guys if they're telling you you're not exclusive, they could just as easily go behind your back. All in all you sound like nothing more than a bitter little girl. I hope you sort your shit out because your self respect must be dwindling to nothing if your only recourse is to come here and throw shit at a bunch of complete strangers. Get a life mate.
My thoughts are you can't be an English teacher because your English is all over the place, it's not clear whether you're talking about yourself or someone else half the time. Also, if it's you that's dating guys who are openly seeing other girls, then you're the loser, they're getting just what they want, it's you who's coming up short. In fact these sound like stand-up guys if they're telling you you're not exclusive, they could just as easily go behind your back. All in all you sound like nothing more than a bitter little girl. I hope you sort your shit out because your self respect must be dwindling to nothing if your only recourse is to come here and throw shit at a bunch of complete strangers. Get a life mate.
People in general come here for business,find love, tourism or to work. If the latter most come associated with a foreign company. If you come here to work, either you cant find a job at home (very possible) or want to really try to help these people.
It kind of sounds like you may need to rethink/remember why you came here in the first place. Pin that down first and maybe it will help you find the answer to your question.
It does sound like you need a new set of friends.
The backpacker type of foreigner who wastes his earnings in booze is very alive and yes they are losers. But there are also plenty of clean and professional foreigners in China, be they teachers or corporate employees.
To me, it looks like you need to find your friends in other places, avoid bars or clubs because that's not usually where you will find the good type of foreigners.
As for those Chinese calling out "every" foreigners in China as losers, they are most likely themselves diaosi.
If it is true that you can judge a person by the company they keep then perhaps begin by looking in a mirror.
Burger KIng pickups, hostels, losers.
I dunno - is there something I'm missing here?
What's a loser? How do you get to be one? Any value in it?
