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Q: Is virginity still a big deal for men here?

12 years 33 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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There are 2 reasons for a guy to want to marry a virgin.

First...he plans on having a mistress on the side.

Second, he feels inadequate in bed, and does not want a comparrison.

I find that Chinese girls have no clue what they are doing, but this could be becaue of culture and the men they have been with.

Nothing is better than a woman who knows what she is doing, and actually likes sex, and appreiciates getting the favor returned.  It's too much work...men who like virgins need help.

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There are 2 reasons for a guy to want to marry a virgin.

First...he plans on having a mistress on the side.

Second, he feels inadequate in bed, and does not want a comparrison.

I find that Chinese girls have no clue what they are doing, but this could be becaue of culture and the men they have been with.

Nothing is better than a woman who knows what she is doing, and actually likes sex, and appreiciates getting the favor returned.  It's too much work...men who like virgins need help.

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i don't think chinese men, or men, in general, have to be picky. well, here in shanghai, it would be a gold-dust for a chinese man to marry a virgin woman. i have this colleague, she's conservative, but when we got close, she started to be a little open and admitted she had sex before marriage and that was just like her first kiss then... the bottomline is china is getting more into pre-marital sex. you might have noticed that when you look around the subway Smile

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A billion people are we that naive to think that all were virgins once married. COME ON PEOPLE there is a lot of bone bumping happening here.

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The men who insist on marrying a virgin are afraid that the woman will sleep around after marriage if she already believes sex outside of marriage is OK.  On the other hand, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

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not to me at least

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https://www.scmp.com/lifestyle/article/2160023/virginity-tests-put-indonesian-women-military-service-often-performed-men

 

A virgin female soldier is a better killer than a non virgin female in battle, or the women are trophies for the high ranking officers.

ambivalentmace:

https://www.scmp.com/lifestyle/fashion-beauty/article/2160143/skincare-your-private-parts-womens-beauty-brand-perfect-v

 

I need to send these folks my resume and do my part and use my vast experience to help the cause.

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If the men in China only consider to marry a virgin, there would be more and more single women in China. If the men really want the virgin, they need to look for  the girl at the age of 16 years old which will give the higher chances of virginity.

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From what I've seen not being a virgin hasn't stopped a lot of girls from marrying.

 

Maybe in the more rural areas it's more of a thing, but with the shortage of women in villages for the men to marry I suspect even if it is seen as important there, more and more it would get quietly overlooked and just not mentioned.

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Lol I have been dating western men all the time. Lots of them do not want to marry a woman who slept more than he did. So do not just blame on Chinese men.
The western guys call women sleep around slut but themselves can sleep as much as
they want.
Ha! Ridiculous!

Stiggs:

They're talking about virgins Vicki, not girls who sleep with lots of guys. Those girls are actually quite popular too, although probably for different reasons. All those guys who didn't want to marry you.... did they actually say that it was because of all the guys you slept with or do you think there be other reasons there?

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From watching whats going on with the US Supreme court this week, it seems male virginity is very important.

Its almost Islamic, or Royal.

Fill your boots son. When it comes to marriage we will find you a demure virgin from a good family.

Or is it Christian?

Sow your seed before you settle down to a rightious life.

Sow your seed on dirty women.

Make babies with clean women.

I rekon I saw that philosopy in action in the US senate yesterday.

Watch his wife in the background. And on the fox interview.

And then ask yourself...

If Orin Hatch was to visit you in China, would you trust him to take your stunning slim chinese wife out while you were at work?

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