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Q: Weird rape question....

I heard several Chinese girls tell me they will not sleep in the same room as a man, because if they do, it is basically giving the man permission to rape them.  Is this really true?  Seems like a shame, because sometimes it is just a good way to spit a hotel room, or a way to find a place to crash.  What  is up with this?  BTW if it helps said girls were from Hunan and Sichuan  

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I have actually heard this before too. The woman said if a woman goes to a bedroom alone with a man and gets raped it is her own fault. Who knows why people think like this here.

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double post

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WTF? Is that seriously Chinese mentality? Sleeping in the same room = rape permission? WTF?! When a woman says no, she means NO. All rapists must die.

 

Side note, I noticed Chinese women cry "rape" after every breakup. I once broke up with a married woman (didn't want to be plugging another man's wife, and my conscience was nagging me constantly) in China, and she told her husband that the reason she's pregnant is because she's "carrying a rapist baby," so she wouldn't get in trouble with him. I don't think he bought it.

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I heard a less extreme version, both in China and Vietnam, several times : if a man and a woman sleep in the same room (say, fellow travelers on the cheap, sharing a hotel room), they will have sex. When saying that sharing a room but just sleeping without anything sexual or even remotely romantic is completely normal (well, where I am from at least), I was met with deep suspicion. Like, I was really naive...

Scandinavian:

yup, I've heard the same, my (our) wife was talking about a weekend training trip with her work where this was implied that someone would share a room with the male boss, the missus has a girly boss. If they do something, then as long as they take pictures I'm cool with that. 

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I'm not touching this one with a 20-foot pole.

Scandinavian:

If your 20 foot pole is Chinese made, then it is probably also best left in the box, most poles, unless made from bamboo, snap easily. 

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Coineineagh, I admire your wisdom.

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Does it happen only in China??

humbug:

No.  It happens in a lot of countries- even if it's not as explicitly said, when women get raped in the West there are a lot of questions asked about the victim, what was she doing there, why was she alone at night etc. Even if they aren't saying it directly they are implying that it's kind of her fault. 

 

 

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I used to be going on a lot of business trips when I worked for a Scandinavian company, both in Europe, US and in Asia. I have never had to share a hotel room. Now at conferences and similar it may be that some hotel rooms are used extra much and others left untouched, but then it is in agreement between all 3 parties, the two people and a bottle of booze. 

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Maybe they were raped by their daddies before. After so much time in China it wouldn't surprise me.

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It's true.

I've been raped many times in China by the girls who asked me to stay for the night.

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Now that you mention it, after a (former) co-worker crashed at my apartment after a night of drinking, she tried to start a rumor that I was gay...

 

...for not trying to have sex with a drunk colleague. 

 

What the hell?!

 

 

sorrel:

maybe you offended her by not trying to sleep with her.

she could then have tried to start a different rumor about you no

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You're damned if you try, and damned if you don't. 

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I've never heard this before. Also, there's no such thing as "permission to rape". Rape is sex without consent (technically, under most laws, it only applies to male perpetrators, but I would include women having sex with men without the man's consent to also be rape). When you give permission, it's not rape. It's like if I agree to a boxing match, it's a sport. If someone just walks up and punches me out of nowhere, it's assault and battery. 

 

I don't know about false accusations in China, but in most Western countries, if you're male, it's just safer not to share a room with a woman you don't fully trust, and know very well. 

 

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only after the ceremonial exchange of maos

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And how would you know what happened in the room?

If she cries rape, I guess the courts would have to decide.

 

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