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Q: What is considered "gay" to the Chinese?
I am a big big fan of milk tea and can often be found with one of those plastic cups. Also, I love me some ice cream.
I have recently ( not the first time ) been told that men who drink milk tea and eat ice cream are gay. When I enquired about it, I received a pretty clear answer. Only women can drink milk tea, so if a man does then hes gay. Ice cream looks like your licking...you know what.... so thats gay.
I say SCREW THAT. You wear purses. And I cant count how many times I have seen some guy riding a scooter with a hot pink helmet. Or some business man with Lady Gaga for a ringtone. Or two dudes holding hands.
So obviously there are different things that will make you seem gay or effeminate in China. While things that we would find odd are totally OK here. So what else should I not do for fear of being judged? What else is gay in the Chinese mind?
You may have argued with a 'gay'. This solely could be the idea of an individual. By the way from the messages on Wechat and QQ ! They think of foreigners as gays.
I suspect that they find facial hair to be a gay sign since lliterally everytime I have been to a bar while I facial hair I get hit on by some gay guy.
2 dudes holding hands are definitely gay. I don't see there is anything wrong with guys drinking milk tea and eating icecream.
mike695ca:
Thank you, I will commence my milk tea habit. But what if im eating an ice cream cone? And licking it all seductively in public? Is that still OK?
Men in Asia are much less concerned about "looking gay", because they are much less insecure about being perceived as gay ? Asians men didn't went through this schoolyard "You're gay ! Nah, you're gay" attitude that smells of insecurity and incomprehension. Not saying that people in Asia are all open to and aware of homosexuality, they just didn't went through what makes *some* Western men insecure about perceived as gay. So they wear pinky shirt and carry hand-bangs without much after-though.
mike695ca:
...... Then why is it that Chinese men are the ones telling me that milk tea and ice cream are gay?
DrMonkey:
I never *ever* heard that one after several years in China. I see men eating ice-creams here in Jiangsu, during the summer days. Maybe it's specific to Guangdong ?
mike695ca:
Thats certainly possible. As most of my time was spent here and every person that ever said it was either cantonese or been here for quite a while. I just asked my wife. She said its kinda girly but didnt wanna tell me because it makes me happy.
Apparently I am. I had a gay stalker for a while.
juanisaac:
I had one Chinese guy try to convince me for six months that I was really gay and to just admit it. After he met some French gay dood he told me "You are not my type any way."
Chinese gay doods are persistent.
If men who eat ice cream are gay, then call me the gayest dude on the streets. First off, there is NOTHING wrong with gayness, second off, how come teenage boys ass grabbing does not make first of the locals list ?
How come there is no rainbow colored soft ice to be found....
Mike, I don't think all will think of you as gay when you are having a milk tea, but they might think your boyfriend is a tad gay if he sits with you while you drink your tea
mike695ca:
No no no. Noone thinks my boyfriend is gay, even when he is sitting on my lap at the subway station. So aparently its just milk tea haha
Apparently, having a best friend (a "bro") with whom you are close is fine for Chinese men.
If you're a foreigner, though, it makes you gay, because straight foreign men are so manly that the only gatherings they make is to drink whiskey, smoke cigars and pick up women like beasts.
LOL...
I love me some ice cream too, it is almost like Chinese men's opinions don't even matter because they are groundless. So licking ice cream looks gay but...
Two full grown men chomping down on meat sticks, then holding hands after a nice "gan bei" to go to the washroom together in their "Beijing Bikinis" while their phones are going off with Ricky Martin ringtones and saying "HARRROOO" with a tone high enough to be from a Walt Disney movie... is not.
It's hard to take Chinese men seriously... too many contradictions. BTW... notice how Chinese men always go to the closest stalls to each other to piss when there is clearly enough room to not be RIGHT beside you. I wonder why...
I think ALL china males are Bi or even full-blown Gay. I read a few times/places that Homomomomomsexuality was just part of their culture for 10,000 years and only started to hide it a bit after opening up to the West.
My Proof:
'men' riding pink folding clown bicycles
'men' looking at me 100 times a day every day (first-tier city),,, actually stopping/turning/craning necks to get a look. I think I should charge 500 rmb per look as I am certain in most of them it induces orgasm.
'men' walking around with their arms around each other... seems bottom 'n top to me.
'men' saying 'harooo' to white guys in their squeaky voice and then giggling like school-girls.
Case Closed. We find for the Poster.
Scandinavian:
Yup, case closed
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/11/world/asia/china-says-goodbye-in-the-key-of-g-kenny-g.html?smid=fb-nytimes&WT.z_sma=WO_CSG_20140512&bicmp=AD&bicmlukp=WT.mc_id&bicmst=1388552400000&bicmet=1420088400000&_r=2
Robk:
Most likely... I notice Chinese men getting a little frisky after some drinks...
Not manly, patting the back or slapping shoulder kind of way either...
They caress each other's back ever so gently... and hold each other like they are checking into an hourly hotel... the more they drink... the "gayer" they become.
I think it boils down to coitus.
Chinese start to make sense only when you stop seeing them as adults.
Chinese guys laugh like gays. Touching each other asses makes them even more gay.
Also they have no beard etc so if they make up little bit they could look like ugly chinese girls.
Carrying their gfs bags really disgusting too.
Homosexuality is often considered kinda gay in China.
I have been told that many people assume I am gay because I like to paint my toenails and fingernails black. Those same people must sometimes notice me walking around with a 1.83m tall girl. And notice the fact that I often put my hand on her ass when we walk together. So yeah, my nails are black... and my hand is on a hot girls ass. Who do they think she is; my best friend?! 
I've got a Chinese mate who starts trying to hold my hand after his 2nd beer. By his 5th he's as pissed as a newt and good for nobody.
Drinking milk tea is gay.
