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Q: What cultural differences do you encounter in your relationship?
Hi...
Australian guy dating a Chinese girl... it's going really well and we have an amazing connection- she's great, but there are a few cultural differences I've really noticed, like she does not really get sarcasm for example...
What do you think are the biggest obstacles for you when dating Chinese people?
11 years 24 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Honestly, i've wracked my brain to find any real cultural differences between me and the wife, as far as i'm concerned she could have been born up the road from me in North London. Still have our differences though; for example I like old blues classics, light chocolate and visiting galleries and she's a fat, stupid bitch.
mArtiAn:
Ok, that's maybe a little harsh, our differences are not so vast, though she does dislike it when I pause during love-making and say, "Stop............... Hammer Time."
I find Chinese don't listen to what I say, don't do anything I ask or answer any questions. Expect not. 
Honestly, i've wracked my brain to find any real cultural differences between me and the wife, as far as i'm concerned she could have been born up the road from me in North London. Still have our differences though; for example I like old blues classics, light chocolate and visiting galleries and she's a fat, stupid bitch.
mArtiAn:
Ok, that's maybe a little harsh, our differences are not so vast, though she does dislike it when I pause during love-making and say, "Stop............... Hammer Time."
My girlfriend is alright for a Chinese, she doesn't sajiao, she is not ashamed of dating a foreigner (doesn't behave as if she didn't know me in front of her friends/family), she doesn't ask dumb questions, she doesn't treat me as a thing that you show around to gain face and she is very active in bed.
And I said "for a Chinese" because I don't expect much anymore from people in China anyway.
Aussie guy with Cantonese wife here, very happily married.
Crikey mate, you gotta have a coupla kangaroos loose in the top paddock if ya reckon ya sheila's gonna latch on to ya okka lingo in a hurry.
Sorry, i had to get that off my chest. Better now.
Me old cheese, eh hem, my wife took a little while to pick up on some of our idiomatic vernacular but is pretty good now, so I wouldn't worry about that too much. I've also picked up on her's. We watched Housos tv show recently and although she has never been to Oz she pissed herself. She now thinks Paulie Fenech is the world's foremost comic genius.
Regarding sarcasm, I read somewhere that up to 50% of people can't recognise it in spoken language and even less can recognise it in written form. Aussies use sarcasm very freely and often the use by well educated Aussies is linguistically sophisticated and not understood easily by others.
My advice, for what it's worth, is don't overthink or look for "cultural" problems and just enjoy the fact that you have found a great girl and are happy. Revel in your cultural differences so that you both can enrich your lives.
