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Q: What do you think is more important for women: a good family or a good job?
10 years 6 weeks ago in Relationships - Other cities
Both are equally important. While many parts of the world still believe that a woman's place is the kitchen, most women worldwide believe they do contribute to the economy. However, balancing the needs of the family and the need to work is a tricky business. That's why men also need to chip in. That's the right formula today for a happy family. Women have their rights to a fulfilling life too. They have their own circle of friends and their private space. It is sad that many developing nations' women are still denied the most basic rights to live independently as women. Many countries still hold on to the notion that women should only be seen and not heard. This, in my opinion, is BS at it's worst.
A sexist question. The question should have been:
" What is best for a person: a good family or a good job?"
Nowadays only independence is more important for women and this can come through a good job...
What's good for a woman is to keep her GD mouth shut. 
Only thing she needs.. is to keep satisfying her man. 
Spiderboenz:
That reminds ne of my favorite male chauvenist(sp?) sexist joke... What do you call a woman with 2 black eyes? Doesn't matter, because she obviously can't listen. Now that we've returned from the 1940s, INDEPENDENCE is most important fir a woman. Which means a job.
Whichever is best for her. Some women prefer to work full time. Some prefer working part time, being a mom part time. Some prefer being full time mothers.
Some men also would prefer to be full time workers. Some want to be part time workers and part time dads. Some prefer to be full time dads.
There's no one best path.
Spiderboenz:
I concur, completely. My mother was a stay-home mom for 5 kids, then when we were all in school, she became a full time worker.
Of course depends on the woman.
As a man I endeavor to have a good career so whatever woman I end up marrying can have the choice, and not be forced to work because I'm a bum.
If a woman wants a full-time professional career like me, that's great; if she would prefer part time low-stress work so she can have some extra money for herself, wonderful. If she prefers to stay and maintain the home that's ok too. So long as I can provide for both of us, it's up to her
Mateusz:
See, I would view that as unequal. A man shouldn't be expected to sacrifice his own physical and emotional well-being (nor should a woman).
I don't want to be forced to work so that a girlfriend/wife can choose to take it easy and work part time. I wouldn't expect a woman to carry me, and I wouldn't want to carry anyone else.
A relationship should involve both parties contributing equally, not one sacrificing for the good of the other.
expatlife26:
Yeah but it's not a sacrifice...I work in financial analytics it's not as if I would quit or get fewer hours if I was married.
I'm gonna do my thing and pursue my professional career regardless of my relationship status. A woman I'm with can choose to do whatever she likes as well, but isn't obligated to work to pay the bills.
Nessquick:
for someone who is working in a financial sphere, you have way too much time to talk with us here . just saying 
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You have started with some lengthy blogs and you ended here, with daily contribution. I do not say you doing wrong, or that your point are not valid. Sometimes have to agree with.
Just thinking about when I see you here more and more often, like wtf, that guy have a lot of money and lot of free time... hmmm, lets make friends and let him pay me a dinner maybe 
expatlife26:
haha,
Expatlife26 just likes to read what expatlife26 writes about expatlife26
Few minutes here and there on the computer isn't too much to ask...all the wumaos aside I like this site and im glad I found it
If you ever get a desk job with long hours, you'll realize that you usually aren't busy 100% of that time, especially once you get out of that entry-level hell.
It's more that you need to physically be there all day and wait on others to finish things etc. Crunch numbers for a couple hours, send them to someone, wait an hour for them to reply...and so on.
each woman wants different things from life, as does each man.
you would have to ask them all one-by-one if you want to know.
that is what makes life so interesting: everyone is different, and long live that difference, even if we disagree with it.
ScotsAlan:
Exactly my point sorrel. Differences do not depend on gender. Differences are because we are all individuals.
The politically correct (and probably mostly Western answer) is to each their own.
But in China, women are more responsible for taking care of the family. It is engrained within them from a young age so that when their parents or parents-in-law are sick or get old, they should help take care of them. Overall at least but there are strong independent business women types as well.
So usually all of the financial burden falls on the males and this is kind of why your financial stability as a male must be proven before marriage in China. Foreigners get special treatment because just being a foreigner supposedly means we are financial stable... even though probably most of here are not lol.
made a snide post... regretted it. delete, admin.
also, downvote into oblivion
I think a good and happy family is important. But you can have a job and still enjoy family time. A lot of people do
Depends on the woman. My wife and I are struggling right now. We're poor as hell, and looking for work, saving to move to another state, etc. She is okay with all of this. She doesn't care that we can barely afford anything.
Don't marry a gold-digger, and stupid things won't happen. You have to know what you want, and you have to know what your significant other wants. Don't get married if you don't trust him/her.
As I am a married woman,I'd say,a good family is more important for me,cause I wanna take a good care of my children and my husband.
Yes, each of us is very very different. But for woman (to my mind) is more important a good husband, that respects and loves her and happy family (although some women don't say it, but in their own, in their soul, they want it more, sure). It's very sad that nowadays people forget about traditional things - a man must organize a material wealth and woman must create house and home, and both partners - keep and save love, really love which is the foundation of all!
