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Q: What is the effect of China on the typical western male's ego?

7 years 48 weeks ago in  General  - China

 
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Dude    you coined the phase Rock Star  

  that and my favorite  one from Charlie    Winning!!!!!!!!wink

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What is a typical Western male?

 

The answer to that needs deciphering before going any further. I guess, generally speaking, most western males egos are ignited by the "you are so handsome" fixation of even the most beautiful local girls, attracting the attention of such beauties and whatever other complimentary remarks are thrown their way.

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I don't have an ego, I've got a wife! surprise

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I don't think it has much of an effect on typical western males, just the atypical ones who, as has been mentioned got off the plane with their cocks still in the shrink wrap. 

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It makes me glad that I'm from the West!! Smile

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I can think of one western English teacher I met who struck me as the most egotistical dick I ever met.

It seemed to me this was the likely scenario:

- Back home in Washington he was a very average and unrecognized substitute teacher, maybe a bit pudgy, not exactly charismatic, probably was unfairly ignored and passed over for advancements. 

- Got a job in a decent college in ___ China (and not that many foreigners there) and was the 'Superstar' of the school and the kids really admired him, the school, in my opinion, really over-pumped him up like he was a 'Professor'.

Okay.

       But for whatever insecure reasons inside his own self - what a pompous undeservedly arrogant passive-aggressive little fuck this guy was now.

That 'petty condescension' too. 

"goooood for youuuuu" and just that small-man petty sort of ego. Not 'obnoxious' but just low-grade nauseating. Ugh.

 

And yes I can think of a Brit and one American (one too young, the other possibly middle-age crisis zone) who - as mentioned here already - got into crazed sex-ego a-holiness realizing they were suddenly popular and could work local girls (perhaps infatuated with foreigners). 

           

Can't decide what type is worse. 

 

The good news - most of the westerners we meet are actually fairly humble or reasonably self-aware and put SOME effort into checking themselves. 

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Is this a size question?

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No effect at all on my ego, I have never been egotistical. However I do enjoy talking and having fun with women who would not have given me the time of day back home. When I say fun that is the non-sexual type of fun as I am married,but it is nice that my wife trusts me enough to let me mildly flirt with others.

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I think the answer to this depends on many factors.  If you are single, 20 something and living in an underdeveloped region with few foreigners then China can make the average man pretty egotistical.  However, if you older and living in a more developed region with more foreigners I don't think its the case.  Perhaps even the reverse is true.  It also depends on your job.  If you have a job teaching college students at a 2nd or 3rd tier university you are more likely it is to get to you.  If you are around older Chinese adults I don't think its the case.  So it all depends. 

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All of the white Western males that we have hired, I mean the ones 25 - 35, have arrived with a great deal of humility and usually a good work ethic.  Over the course of the one year's contract, the work ethic remained.  The humility went out the window and they came to believe that they were a law and a force unto themselves in China.  It was very difficult for those around them to bear.  In the end, their contracts were not renewed and they continued to strut their stuff in other places.

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What ego , i am married and i am native american (seminole/apache) 7/8, and 1/8 scotch.

my wife is chinese. who has time for one.

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  All I can say is I wish i'd come here in my early 20s when I was more interested in chasing girls than in my late 30s when I was getting short of breath. Going from relative obscurity to being a financially viable, quite eligible bachelor who towers over most every man in the street can go to your head, there's no denying it.

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When I came to China I was in my early 20's and the way girls here aren't 1 bit discreet about noticing you is definitely an ego boost. But then you start to realise just because every girl on the street is eyeballing you or giggling doesn't exactly mean they are interested in you.

 

Then as you get older the only girls you meet are just interested in marriage. Unless you're going to chase youngsters all your life!

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fine, ill be the first to say it. China makes me firmly believe that i have the biggest dong in the history of mankind. All others bow down to the massivness that is Mike. Although i get the feeling that others might have been told the same thing.......

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I really, really wish I was a dude in this country.  Of COURSE their egos get inflated!  I see how Chinese boys look at me....it's flattering...too bad I'm not interested in Chinese men.  So I remain relatively date-free.

 

Luckily, I don't care too much.

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The effect is usually negative. The egos inflate, and they become a lot more boring, in my humble opinion of course. A friend of mine said he was going to home because he could feel himself becoming a douche and needed some humility (I refrained from telling him he became a douche a while back). 

 

I want to know, are they changed forever or is it reversible after they leave?

 

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