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Q: What should I do?

I have been in my new apartment for two months now. About 2 weeks ago, I came home and found two of my packages sitting outside my door. Two hours later, my cell phone rings and it is a Chinese man talking to me in Chinese. I could not understand him so I hung up. He then texted me and told me that he wants to be my friend and asked me if I could please add him to my Wechat. I told him that I did not know him and he finally said that he was my neighbor and that he lived in the apartment directly across from me. I then asked him how did he get my number and he would not tell me. I immediately stopped texting him and deleted the messages. I few minutes later, I realized that he got my number off the packages that were sitting outside my apartment. I was so angry that I wanted to contact property management that night but I did not.

 

He has not texted me again but a few times I have walked to my apartment and his roommate and him would start saying hello. I am ignoring them for now but I don't want them speaking to me or touching my things. They disgust me! Only weak cowards steal a woman's phone number and actually think they have a chance. The last guy who was successful at attracting me, approached me like a secure gentleman, complimented me, bought me a Starbucks coffee, and then asked for my Wechat. I am in no way at all attracted to Chinese men. I am thinking about contacting property management and having them tell these idiots to not touch my things or say anything to me. I also want PM to tell them that I am not attracted to Chinese men. The security guard or door person is also annoying and makes inappropriate gestures towards me. Is this a good idea?

6 years 28 weeks ago in  General  - China

 
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Can you give it up already, weren't you exposed as being bogus? Is it me or did I miss something. 

 

 

 

tfuller87:

Exposed how? Because I posted about race? Have you not heard about the race riots that are occurring in America right now. Caucasoid Americans are the real racists. I said nothing against other races. I only posted factual historical and scientific evidence and information about the true history and identity of the Melanated race. Life started in Africa, the motherland, it is the most resourceful continent, the first modern humans migrated from there, and dark people are naturally protected from the sun's harmful radiation.

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Englteachted:

Race riots!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are clearly Chinese

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tfuller87:

I am a melanated American woman. Why would a Chinese person pretend to be a black woman and post historical facts about the true history of the melanated race? They probably have never even heard the word melanin before. 

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Englteachted:

Chinese have been posing as foreigners on this site since this site first opened. You're not fooling anyone anymore.

Why would a nutter who subscribes to your beliefs with a hubby/ bf at home come to China and lead Chinese guys on?

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Blondie_:

a foreign woman would know how to deal with a phone stalker in China - many Chinese guys are cowards when confronted. But they tend to be a bit more tenacious than non-chinese phone stalkers if not confronted.

I have found Chinese men easily intimidated by a confident woman, hence I think you are right about the identity of this poster 'Ted'

few non-chinese women bang on about a specific physical characteristic they have, being confident enough to be who they are. I believe it was one regular chinese poster here who made constant references to how beautiful she was.

And certainly any African American women i have met are confident enough that they would know how to deal with something as simple as a phone stalker, and then have a good laugh about it later.

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Me? Leading on Chinese men? Eww!! I don't even want Chinese men looking at me. Their breaths smell like turtle tanks. Trust me, I did not come to China for Chinese men. I don't like Asian men at all. The attention that I get from Chinese men is undesirable and does nothing to my self-esteem whereas the attention that I get from melanated men makes me feel like a Queen. I came to China to see if I would like it better than Thailand but I do not. My boyfriend travels. 

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You know what TamiX , I could be wrong about you. The need to feel like a Queen/ King or God/ Goddess is a symptom the identity crisis that pushes some blacks to these melonated crap movements. 

Normal people are perfectly ok with being who they are a normal person but people w/ identity issues need to feel special.

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@ 'Ted

LOL - I now have an image of someone standing in front of a mirror repeating the line 

'you are beautiful.

You are beautiful' 

And then repeating the same line at every opportunity to whoever they meet

 

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Let it go.  Making a big issue out of it will only make matters worse.  Just be polite, but ignore.

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Can you give it up already, weren't you exposed as being bogus? Is it me or did I miss something. 

 

 

 

tfuller87:

Exposed how? Because I posted about race? Have you not heard about the race riots that are occurring in America right now. Caucasoid Americans are the real racists. I said nothing against other races. I only posted factual historical and scientific evidence and information about the true history and identity of the Melanated race. Life started in Africa, the motherland, it is the most resourceful continent, the first modern humans migrated from there, and dark people are naturally protected from the sun's harmful radiation.

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Race riots!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are clearly Chinese

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tfuller87:

I am a melanated American woman. Why would a Chinese person pretend to be a black woman and post historical facts about the true history of the melanated race? They probably have never even heard the word melanin before. 

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Englteachted:

Chinese have been posing as foreigners on this site since this site first opened. You're not fooling anyone anymore.

Why would a nutter who subscribes to your beliefs with a hubby/ bf at home come to China and lead Chinese guys on?

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Blondie_:

a foreign woman would know how to deal with a phone stalker in China - many Chinese guys are cowards when confronted. But they tend to be a bit more tenacious than non-chinese phone stalkers if not confronted.

I have found Chinese men easily intimidated by a confident woman, hence I think you are right about the identity of this poster 'Ted'

few non-chinese women bang on about a specific physical characteristic they have, being confident enough to be who they are. I believe it was one regular chinese poster here who made constant references to how beautiful she was.

And certainly any African American women i have met are confident enough that they would know how to deal with something as simple as a phone stalker, and then have a good laugh about it later.

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tfuller87:

Me? Leading on Chinese men? Eww!! I don't even want Chinese men looking at me. Their breaths smell like turtle tanks. Trust me, I did not come to China for Chinese men. I don't like Asian men at all. The attention that I get from Chinese men is undesirable and does nothing to my self-esteem whereas the attention that I get from melanated men makes me feel like a Queen. I came to China to see if I would like it better than Thailand but I do not. My boyfriend travels. 

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Englteachted:

You know what TamiX , I could be wrong about you. The need to feel like a Queen/ King or God/ Goddess is a symptom the identity crisis that pushes some blacks to these melonated crap movements. 

Normal people are perfectly ok with being who they are a normal person but people w/ identity issues need to feel special.

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@ 'Ted

LOL - I now have an image of someone standing in front of a mirror repeating the line 

'you are beautiful.

You are beautiful' 

And then repeating the same line at every opportunity to whoever they meet

 

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I thought you were only interested in African American men, that you had a boy-friend and that you were a melanated goddess that was ex-military (did i leave anything out?)

 

yet you can't seem to be able to deal with a common-place annoyance (for foreign women) such as creepy Chinese men who stalk you.

if you get texts or phone call from people who you don't know, just DON'T ENGAGE WITH THEM on any level. My initial encounter with a stalker was dealt with by confronting him with friends and then zero engagement.

such creeps see even basic engagement such as you have done as encouragement, but then you would know that wouldn't you, as this sort of behavior is not uncommon from inadequate men back home, and i am sure you would have been all 'up in their face' there, as you claim to be an African American woman. Confront (in a threatening manner) and/or ignore

 

why did you post this on this alias, and not your 'Tami.X' alias?

did you forget a password?

 

on a side note, when i was looking at some online forums in China when i arrived, it was obvious that some aliases were actually more than one person posting, as the style of writing and level of english was markedly different at different times of the day. The different posters also had inconsistent stories that did not match up even though it was one alias they were posting under.

tfuller87:

Oh...I did not realize that I posted it under this account. I have asked admin to delete it a few times. 

 

Um...I do have a boyfriend and yes, I love Melanated American men but what does that have to do with this situation. I have never had someone steal my phone number before and I do not like Chinese men. I was not encouraging it. The only reason why I answered the phone was because I did not know who was calling. He sent the first text and of course I wanted to know how my neighbor got my phone number. 

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LastTargarean:

Yes, your forgot native speaker who made it to adulthood without learning the difference between a cock and a cot.

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@Tami

if a creepy chinese guy wants to get your phone number, he will no doubt find a way to do this.

I'd say the guy you texted is boasting to his mates that he has a 'melanated' gf now.

 

why do you not just ignore phone calls / texts that come from numbers you don't recognise?

this is basic security 101

 

and to be honest, you were the one who constantly brought up being 'melanted' etc in a lot of your previous posts.

I find African Americans, Asians whoever, all have equal capacity to be racist.

no one 'race' has a concession on this.

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Why do you keep using the word 'melanated'? Is this something to show how 'right on' you are? How much better you are than the rest of us?

Englteachted:

Some black people have identity issues. They don't want to be seen as African and don't feel connected with America (these blacks with identity issues) and definitely don't identify with the predominant hood culture displayed in hip hop music. 

This has manifested itself in many ways over the last 70 years (from judging through history, Afro-American, African American, Black  etc). Melonated is the most recent but really never developed a strong following because it doesn't make sense. Blacks aren't the only melonated people on the planet. 

My guess is some Chinese nit wit caught hold of it but of course as is typical with Chinese was and is completely unable to grasp it and relies on just repetitive BS and copy/ paste. 

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what gets me is that this poster claims to have been in the military (seeing overseas 'action'), yet seems unable to deal with simple male/female interactions.

 

Ignoring phone/stalkerish texts calls from unknown numbers is basic personal security for women in every country i know. 

Then if this continues for any length of time, this is escalated to involvement of the police.

most phone stalkers get the thrill from any response, which is why they continue (in China the lack of women exacerbates this, as does the way some Chinese women think this is 'romantic')

Any woman i know, who originates from outside China would know how to deal with this - especially in China

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Male/ Female interactions in the Marines (as she claims) vs foreign female male interactions in China, I think a woman should be able to handle men in China after handling men in the marines.

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Dont you have the delivery lockers at your complex? Parcels should not be left at your door.

And yup, I suspect you are an ECC account. but that is a different thing from the attacking posts I have seen above. BLM.

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