The place to ask China-related questions!
Beijing Shanghai Guangzhou Shenzhen Chengdu Xi'an Hangzhou Qingdao Dalian Suzhou Nanjing More Cities>>

Categories

Close
Welcome to eChinacities Answers! Please or register if you wish to join conversations or ask questions relating to life in China. For help, click here.

By continuing you agree to eChinacities's Privacy Policy .

Sign up with Google Sign up with Facebook
Sign up with Email Already have an account? .
Posts: 4400

Emperor

0
0
You must be a registered user to vote!
You must be a registered user to vote!
0

Q: In what ways does life here bring out the best in you, and in what ways does it bring out the worst?

I'll have to think about the first part of that question before I answer myself because right now I'm struggling to think of anything. As for the second part it's not so much a matter of where to start but how to finish.

4 years 21 weeks ago in  General  - Nanning

 
Highest Voted
Posts: 4384

Emperor

1
1
You must be a registered user to vote!
You must be a registered user to vote!
0

I know what you mean. I really had to think about the first part too.

 

This is what I decided. It has definitely made me a better person in that I've had to rise to a lot of challenges, and I've learnt a lot from that. I'm more resilient and capable than I was before.

 

The worst in me..   I'm a lot more cynical, a lot less trusting and more and more I find myself looking at a group of people with disgust and contempt. I don't want to, I know it's not necessarily fair and I should be more understanding but I can't help myself. I judge people by the way they conduct themselves and I judge them by my own standards, and a huge chunk of the population just doesn't impress me much.

 

Example: Today I was in an elevator and a group of guys crowded in with lit cigarettes and bad breath, smoked the whole way down despite the two no smoking signs, shrieked at each other and spat on the floor. I could have happily killed someone at the time.

 

It's time for me to leave.

Report Abuse
4 years 21 weeks ago
 
Answers (2)
Comments (4)
Posts: 4384

Emperor

1
1
You must be a registered user to vote!
You must be a registered user to vote!
0

I know what you mean. I really had to think about the first part too.

 

This is what I decided. It has definitely made me a better person in that I've had to rise to a lot of challenges, and I've learnt a lot from that. I'm more resilient and capable than I was before.

 

The worst in me..   I'm a lot more cynical, a lot less trusting and more and more I find myself looking at a group of people with disgust and contempt. I don't want to, I know it's not necessarily fair and I should be more understanding but I can't help myself. I judge people by the way they conduct themselves and I judge them by my own standards, and a huge chunk of the population just doesn't impress me much.

 

Example: Today I was in an elevator and a group of guys crowded in with lit cigarettes and bad breath, smoked the whole way down despite the two no smoking signs, shrieked at each other and spat on the floor. I could have happily killed someone at the time.

 

It's time for me to leave.

Report Abuse
4 years 21 weeks ago
 
Posts: 1847

Emperor

1
1
You must be a registered user to vote!
You must be a registered user to vote!
0

Living in China has brought me face to face with many people that have been repressed in one way or another. I have met country folk who bring up kids in squalid conditions, old folk sifting through garbage looking for plastic bottles, and ill people who cannot afford the proper medical treatment. I have also met a couple of really clever Chinese guys that were brutally punished because they dared to criticize the system here.

 

I met a little boy in Inner Mongolia whose father had died when a coal mine caved in. And how that little boy's mother was compensated with an amount that we would consider not worthy of a monthly salary payment.

 

Living in China has also taken me to neighbouring regions such as a recent business trip to Cambodia. There I met people that had lost family under the Khmer Rouge regime.

 

All of that has helped me to appreciate how good life is for us westerners. It brought me face to face with world realities that people back home scorn. Nothing will seem so bad to me again.

 

However, like Stiggs, I have definitely become a more cynical person. Constant cheating, dishonesty, inconsiderate behaviour and rudeness has made me this way. I now look for the ulterior motive in other people's actions, never taking things on face value or trust.

Report Abuse
4 years 21 weeks ago
 
Know the answer ?
Please or register to post answer.

Report Abuse

Security Code: * Enter the text diplayed in the box below
Image CAPTCHA
Enter the characters shown in the image.
  • Allowed HTML tags: <a> <em> <strong> <cite> <code> <ul> <ol> <li> <dl> <dt> <dd> <img> <br> <p> <u>
  • Web page addresses and e-mail addresses turn into links automatically.
  • Lines and paragraphs break automatically.
  • Textual smileys will be replaced with graphical ones.

More information about formatting options

Forward Question

Answer of the DayMORE >>
A: Going to HK would be the best bet I reckon, especially if you were loo
A:Going to HK would be the best bet I reckon, especially if you were looking for a church wedding. Chinese weddings are pretty grim IMO - you go to a barren govt dept with souless officials and navigate red tape so some guy can give you a red stamp and a marriage book. You get expensive pictures taken of you both posing in places you'd never go to in everyday life that is somehow supposed to represent your wedding, then a while later it's off to a restaurant where a game show host kind of guy makes sure it's as tacky as possible while the guests eat as fast as they can so they can leave as soon as they finish eating and gave you money. Hell, I'd go to Thailand or the Philippines and get married in Paradise.   -- Stiggs