Either she's not being honest with you and just wants to step up the commitment - in which case you should end the relationship and move on - or she is being honest with you - and it reflects her commitment level in which case should you end the relationship and move on.

Games are games and not worth the time or energy when it comes to affairs of the heart.

I do her too well for that to happen haha.

This is what I'd do:

Bring her to bed, turn her over, <bleep> her hard in the ass, straighten your tie, and walk away.

Thirty days later, she'll show up on your QQ begging you to take her back. Then you say, "No!", to which she'll respond, "But you <bleeped> me in the ass!"

Don't tolerate bullshit games.

You proved you're your own best friend in this case.  You got everything right in your post including your 'confusion', that's because you still have feelings for her. She will play the same 'Mr. Benz next door bought her wife a USD100,000 diamond ring for their XX anniversary' should you marry her. Same principle. She is playing the screw the suppliers game, putting herself up on the auction platform and manipulating your ego. If it is your friend asking you for advice I can bet you would advise him with, 'learn from this, find out where your blindspots are to minimize repeating the same mistake twice'. Not only is it safe, it is wise to trust yourself, you earned it with your post already.

I always go the distance to try to make her happy. I often very seriously spend time and money that I really don't have. I think I'm a great listener and very patient. The girl often has temper problems and can say really the most hurtful things without ever apologizing.

On top of all of that, any little thing that makes her unhappy, she will tell me I disappoint her so much. That is really hard to listen to when life is not easy and you hope for the support of your lover.

I mean, I'm not some successful foreigner here in China, I'm just seem quiet easy going guy trying to make a place to be happy. I have had three girlfriends in my life and not one of them have I ever broken up with. I'm always Mr. Try 110%... actually I'm the one that's really disappointed.

Thank you everyone for your advice.

Sounds like you're dating a child. Fuck that, find someone more mature.

Personally, I would suggest you give your her blessing to follow her heart and go to the other guy. But hey, dont listen to me... I am on my third wife.

Then again, if I had stayed with my first wife I would be celebrating 26 years of misery this year.

I remember a story of a neighbour in Scotland. She had been married to her husband for 45 years, and she hated him to the core. Hate is probably too mild a word to describe her feelings towards him.

Then he died.

A few months later, at Bingo, my mum asked how she was enjoying her freedom. "I hate it", the neighbour replied. " The whole point of my life was to make that b*****d as miserable as possible, and now he is gone I have just realised that I have wasted my life".

The neighbour died 2 years after her husbands passing.

The poor guy only got 2 years of freedom, in this life and the life after.

Honestly, do what is best for you. And do it before kids enter the equation. Dont be a myrter to another persons needs. Once a myrter, always a myrter.

You sound like you have a vagina. If anyone dared to try to chase my woman id knock that shit down right away. Then id leave her for allowing it to happen. Be a man.

If she wants to threaten you then tell her to take a hike. If she doesnt then she wont threaten it again, if she does then your better off.

First you need to grow a pair. She doesnt respect you because you dont deserve it. If you cant change then find a girl that isnt a cow. You guys can go get walked all over together.

Hahaha...

I am with Mike on this one. Someone chases my woman... they are going to wish to Ying Yang they didn't. My woman is pretty loyal so I doubt that would happen.

My woman sometimes makes little comments like... "I am too good for you." or "You should treat me good." But she always laughs and we both know she is just trying to get a bit of extra attention and appreciation.

She knows that if we split a wave of women would be trying their hand. And I know that she is a valuable woman but I think she scares off most Chinese guys cause she is mentally tough.

Just figure out if she is just trying to tease you a little or if she is serious. If she is serious, then knock a Wang out. If she isn't serious, just man up a little, treat her good but also don't put up with the sa jiao bullshit.

Real men don't date little girls to feel good about themselves.

Let it blow over. If it's an attempt to get you to 'show more love', don't respond to it, but reflect on the accusation after the fact. If you're not doing enough to make your woman happy, and her expectations are reasonable, it's time to step up your game or she really will leave you one day.

But if she's truly open for business to suitors, let the trash take itself out the door. Next time, don't be rushed to pick the first available windowdressing flower because your parents are panicking to have a grandchild - hire a college girl to be your pretend-date next Chunjie, and take your sweet time finding real love.

Practicing is fun, and you end up in a better relationship eventually. Don't get thrown in the deep end before you can swim.

As others have said, you need to man up. Maybe she is just an insecure little child who wants you to fawn over her more. Maybe she's not satisfied with you and is asking you to up your game. Whatever it is, put out that fire right away, let her know how great you are and that you're in charge. If you really want her to appreciate you more, go on the offensive. YOU threaten to walk away from her and then she'll cling to you and beg you to come back. Whatever you do, don't be a pussy and beg her to take you back. Man up dude. 

I'm guessing there are 650 million women in China. You can find some who are not completely crazy.  None of them will want you if you don't man up. I have a GF (albeit long distance at the moment) and she would never say that to me. If  she did I was completely wrong about who i thought she was. Would you not like a girl like that? If you cling to someone who says something like this to you, then you have serious emotional issues you need to deal with. Find another girl, don't self analyse, don't be emotionally needy. I might sound harsh but you sound like you ve got yourself into a bad place and need a shake.

Seeing the word "rival" reminds me of the days I was playing Pokemon Red for the gameboy color, and how my rival always had cooler pokemon than I did.  That makes me so jealous..

I hate to say it, but you're dating a Vicky.

Tell her to stop watching Korean dramas. Tell her that if she wants to go with the other guy that is fine, but she should know that she will not be welcome to return.

Seems she is trying to manipulate you in order to get something. at some point Chinese woman try to do like this.I think u got three options. one be a man and tell her stop all this shitty things if she really love you she will. second breakup. third be a pussy.

Seems she is trying to manipulate you in order to get something. at some point Chinese woman try to do like this.I think u got three options. one be a man and tell her stop all this shitty things if she really love you she will. second breakup. third be a pussy.

I'd tell her she's competing against 3 other girls. You need to not be a pussy. Someone said something about being needy in the above comments - they were right. Everyone detests neediness - both men and women.

I would just call her bluff and challenge her by saying, "you must not really love me, if you won't tell him to piss off,  Why don't you love me?"  I hate the games they play.  

"I treat the girl like a queen". Therein lies your problem. Being too nice to a woman all the time is not the correct way to handle it. Women have to be treated like shit from time to time. I know that sounds crazy, illogical....but its 100% true. Its in their DNA, so to speak.  You know the sayings "nice guys finish last", and "women like to have fun/sex/etc with the 'bad' guy, but then settle down with the nice stable guy". IMO, BE BOTH !  You can do it. Now, go treat her like trash for a bit...surprise her for once. quit being nice, boring, etc

Simply stated,,,, she wants you to marry her now.  'take me before someone else does'

You have said that you give 110%... and there's your problem!

What happens to children when you given them 110%? They turn into right little self-righteous, self-absorbed, arseholes!

What happens when you discipline a child now and then? Or refrain from giving them every tiny little thing they say they want?

They learn to appreciate life more and the things they get, and they learn to to be so damn fkn greedy!

By giving her 110%, you aren't letting her 'want' anything more from you.By giving 110%, by pandering to her every desire, she knows she can (and will) walk all over you.

Women don't want someone they can walk over - that shows serious insecurities, lack of confidence, weak-will, lack of strength - and who would want to bring up kids when that is their father-figure role-model??? And what woman in her right mind would want a guy who would be so willing to let her go without a fight? Or who can't/won't protect her children? Or isn't willing to push for the very best in life?

And what man is willing to let a woman control and dominate him into doing things he doesn't want?

At what point in life was a relationship all about giving the woman everything she wants, and the guy getting only the dribs and drabs of whatever she happens to throw his way occasionally? When did the guy need to get on his knees for a little attention (not to mention, respect)??

She is clearly very immature.

Are you?

without reading all this BS     I would just leave her...  on the quest for a good one again ...  probably I never would have been with this girl ....honest and true or not for me.

"Bye!"

Typical Chinese one child girl, narcissism, very self centred and me, me, me

Gosh! if i were you I would just leave this one and get a better one...maybe Italian or Spanish, Heck! even Russian.

Now who has a rival?

too many fish in this sea mate, have a wonderful day and a blessed week!