For whatever it's worth you're not on your own. I know a lot of people in your situation, either not married for whatever reasons, or married off to someone they barely knew and miserable now. Their families make their lives hell.

Sorry, I don't have any advice for you, you're probably better asking this on a Chinese forum, there must be literally millions of people in your situation, a lot of them are bound to be talking about this now with new year coming.

What about teaching Chinese as a foreign language? A girl I know recently got a job in another country doing that and two others were talking about getting qualified to do it.

I can tell you in a short summary what's wrong with China.

Despite what I think of the CCP (people here know how much I love them), I am forced to admit that the vast majority of the problems in Chinese society, and a plethora of problems there are, are not to be blamed on the Chinese government.

The myriad problems within Chinese society comes from the behavior, values and the beliefs of its people, a people that with all their traditions of wisdom behave in the most atrocious, despicable manner towards each other today.

Since you are Chinese yourself the truth might be painful at first, but you can't escape it if you are a minimum educated.

you have to prove you have a skill that no other person in the destination country has, hence being a Chinese teacher is your best bet.

However, most countries will require a degree in teaching as the bare minimum for this if you are looking for a reputable job.

Multinational companies usually have their own staff for international sales and unless you already work for one, you are unlikely to be hired by any outside of China.

try getting a years work visa for Australia or New Zealand for the experience, but some countries are wary about letting single Chinese women in on their own (actually China also restricts the movement of single Chinese women outside of China)

good luck, i am sure you will find something

Stop trying to live up to the expectations of others. Family are supposed to give unconditional love. Stop trying to please your parents. What good is your life if you please your parents but become unhappy in your own life as a result. Get some life experience. Travel. Experience new things, new people. Have some short term romantic entanglements. Figure out what makes you happy and do that.

I feel for you and understand. I also know there's many young ladies in the same situation as yours. And ( for their own reasons, don't want to be with a Chinese guy !?) are looking overseas. I suggest you contact an agent in the country you want to go to. Good Luck

Being married to a Chinese women and seeing a lot of her friends going through something similar... I may be one of the few foreigners that understands your situation. 

The freedom of choice is a huge luxury in China and many families place far too much stress on their children. There are a few solutions you can do:

1) You can prepare to leave China but I can almost assure you that your guilt will still follow you. The Chinese social system is designed for parents to control their children through humiliation and guilt. You can run, but you will still feel very guilty. I think you would be able to find a job in another country with a proven sales record. 

2) Hire a fake boy friend to take home for Spring Festival. A lot of Chinese do this to get their parents off their backs for a few years. Sure, it is weird but it works. In those couple of years, you may find a man you really like and then you can marry him. 

Could be a Chinese guy or a foreign guy. Doesn't matter as long as your parents can go around telling everyone you will get married soon and have proof. 

3) If you can't hire a guy to come home for proof. Take picture of you and some guy and make up a story to tell your parents. You need pictures so they can show him off to other family and "gain face". Tell them you will bring him next year. 

Tell them he is very rich, handsome etc. 

Here's the thing. Families put unreal expectations on their children here in China and sometimes it is best to lie to them because of your culture and society. In Western countries, we don't have to do this... and lying would make no sense. But as you know, this is China... and lying is often rewarded or the best solution. 

Each year it will only get worse until around 30+ , then they will start calling you a "sheng nu". My sincere advice is to date men with different mentalities. Maybe men from a different region of China or foreign men. I think foreign men would appeal to you more just going by your desire for freedom and individuality.

Good luck with whatever you decide.  

Nothing is wrong with China, Post a pic and maybe I'll marry you for the right price.

I think people like you is what's wrong with China.

I'm gonna piggyback off of what NZteacher80 said. I know this might be difficult or even impossible to acknowledge, comprehend, and especially accept and put into action....LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE! I'm American, so my ideology is totally different from Chinese ideology, but in every single one of my classes, I am constantly teaching my students how to be independent and how important it is to life your life for yourself. I have friends who cave under the pressure and I have no longer have any sympathy for them. Yes, we all want our families to love us and approve of what we do. Yes, we all all want our parents to be proud of us. Yes, they did give us life. But why did they bring you into the world? Because they had pressure from your grandparents to quickly get married and have a child so they don't lose face and can make the family proud. 

I would tell say "f**k you" to any and every person in my family who tried to control or pressure me into doing something I didn't want to do. I wouldn't speak to them ever again, and I would be 100% happy with that decision? Why? Because it was my decision. My choice. And I did what I wanted to do. My family didn't want me to come to China, because they thought I'd go to jail because of the communists (they're ignorant when it comes to China, as most Americans are) but I told them I was going to go anyway, and they respected my decision, because it was my decision to make.

I'm guessing I'm saying all this to say: You only get to have one lifetime on this Earth, Strawberry. Do you want to live it doing what your family, and future husband tells you to do. Or do you want to live your life, doing what you want to do, when you want to do it, and not feeling sorry about it? If it's the latter, then I suggest you take time to start loving, respecting, and honoring yourself more. Loving yourself more than you love any member of your family. Respect yourself enough to not allow yourself to be emotionally beaten down by your family's expectations; and honoring yourself enough to follow your dreams, your desires, and your wants, even if that means disappointing your family. Do you want to be 55 years old, never traveled anywhere, stuck in a marriage you didn't really want to be a part of, to a man who cheats on you occasionally, and have a child that you know need to start pressuring into getting married and having a child because they are getting too old and you don't wanna lose face?

Or do you want to be 55 years old, living in a different country, after traveling to many countries all around the world, having met so many wonderful, and interesting people, one of whom was a great man who you decided to marry, and had children with, who are just now close to finishing college and you are now telling them to take a year off to also travel the world, learn about themselves and other people, find out what makes them happy, and to follow their dreams no matter what? 

Which one do you want to be? The choice is yours. The moment you allow someone else to make your decisions for you, that's the moment you allow a piece of your soul to die and you lose that power in that moment, forever. Good luck. I hope you make whatever the right choice is for yourself.

It is a long long long list

Maybe there is something wrong with you, not China

Get out of China as soon as you can, but don't lie or cheat your way out.

There's many people in China.  But that's not necessarily the cause of what's wrong with the place.

From what I see there's just too many dumb fkers here.  And that's what's wrong.

Sorry, but the outside world isn't there to provide you an alternative to the shitty system you live in.

Chances are, should you be given a ticket out, you would replicate a part of the exact same patterns that make you want to get out in the first place, or simply some other patterns that you find acceptable but most people out of China don't.

Which is exactly why most countries won't allow you out.

so, what is your real age ? I do not get the chinese counting. My son is going to 5 at march, but in chinese counting he is 5 now and turn to 6 after CNY ? Why is that ?

Marry someone and get out . If I were in your shoes I would do anything to get out. 

There is nothing wrong with China per se. Just the people that have been running the show for the last 70 years or so.