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Q: What's wrong with me?

After my American ex left me, I went into a big depression and sadness.

Some guys showed me interested and we added to each other on wechat. Then I didn't try best to make them like me.

I even told that I am not looking for man or that I may give up looking for love. Those kind of emotional bullshit

 

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You know, there is probably a long list of things wrong with you. Just like the rest of the people on this rock.

"I didn't try my best to make them like me"????? That's your BIG mistake. Trying to make people like you will make you appear creepy and needy. Be yourself. If they don't like you for who you are, then they can fuck off…

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Enjoy life without focussing so much on boyfriends.

When you are enjoying your life and not looking for the next dream romance, you will not only be happier and more fulfilled but will be more attractive to someone who likes you for who you are.

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normal response / feelings.  Just got to get used to the idea that there ain't no such thing as TL.  Date guys and u will find someone who is cool.. Use your judgement.  Don't throw down to sex stuff right away,, if they are decent guys, and if they have feelings for you,,, they will go gently too.

One of the biggest warning signs is if a guy bugs u for sex stuff immediately.  Take that as a big 'Red Flag'.

 

you will find someone Viki,, you are sweet, communicative, and a lot of good guys would like to be your bf/husband.

Keep the Faith.  

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Nothing is wrong with you. Think it of it more like self-development than imperfection... 

 

Here's maybe a bit of a example.

 

Sally is an awesome athlete... grows up and is considered one of the best in the school. 

 

Wins the provincials... thinks that she isn't good enough because she didn't win the nationals... wins the nationals... doesn't think she is good enough because she didn't win the Olympics... wins the Olympics... thinks he isn't good enough because she didn't win every category... win's every category... thinks he isn't good enough because she didn't win every category for 12 years in a row... What's wrong with me?!, she says.

 

Nothing is wrong... you just haven't achieved your goals yet.

 

Need another example? Let's do another.

 

Tom is poor. His family is poor too. Tom learns how to make a bit of money and gets a good job... thinks he isn't good enough because he hasn't made a million RMB... makes a millions RMB... thinks he isn't good enough because he hasn't bought his parents a home... buys his parents a home... thinks he isn't good enough because he doesn't have 10 million RMB... makes 10 million RMB... thinks he isn't good enough because he doesn't own a condo in five different countries... "What's wrong with me?!" he says. 

 

Just a matter of time. Don't stress yourself too much. 

PulSartre:

Excellent examples. This is useful to anyone. 

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You know, there is probably a long list of things wrong with you. Just like the rest of the people on this rock.

"I didn't try my best to make them like me"????? That's your BIG mistake. Trying to make people like you will make you appear creepy and needy. Be yourself. If they don't like you for who you are, then they can fuck off…

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Enjoy life without focussing so much on boyfriends.

When you are enjoying your life and not looking for the next dream romance, you will not only be happier and more fulfilled but will be more attractive to someone who likes you for who you are.

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