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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: Why do you have a Chinese gf/bf/wife/hubby
Here by "you" I really mean YOU. I'd be very interested to hear what you have to say on this topic.
'Why do you have a Chinese wife / bf / gf / husband'?
When you ask it that way it sounds a little like people have an agenda, to find a .... whatever, for xyz reasons and achieve some kind of goal, for example marry a well connected Chinese person because then you can live here on a marriage visa and use their connections to start a business. And that's probably true in some cases.
Mostly though I think it just happens naturally. When people live in a place they meet people, sometimes there will be chemistry and a relationship will develop. It's just life, there is no why.
xinyuren:
Yes, her question is a curious one. Like, "why did you buy a Mercedes?" or Why did you decide to live in Shanghai? Chinese think differently. Often marriage is a form of strategy (to get face, to get rich, to move up socially, to please parents, because they are getting old...). Love is often the last reason on that strategic list. Kinda' reminds me of old Europe during the age of kings.
Scandinavian:
@xin: some would say. "I got a Mercedes to attract pretty Chinese girls"
flyingheart:
I'd love to have a relationship entirely built on love. But can I? What is love anyway?
I met a person I clicked with when I happened to be in China. China is full of Chinese. What more can be said about this?
I was in China because I had a job offer and a good past experience in a China. I was single, man, heterosexual. Most women in China are Chinese. All women I met in a China were Chinese. I felt in love with one, because of who she was as a human being. We married. By Chinese standard, she's a bit eccentric. No strategies involved. A Chinese passport is a pain in the ass, she is from modest background, so if it was all about strategy, then it would have been a poor strategy ^^
you could also answer the question:
why do you have a foreign boy-friend?
flyingheart:
Ah-ha, a good question. I love his smiles. I feel for him. I like his eyes in some situations. I like his social conduct, his sensitivity, and his not-so-charming seriousness . I feel comfortable around him (not when he pisses me off though). I just hope he feels the same about me. BUT I targeted native English speakers in the first place because I am a learned bilingual. Is that a good reason?
Wow, i feel like shes talking directly to me! I gotta answer!
I was never an asian girl lover, always a latin kinda guy. But if you stay here long enough....... Im not attracted to african bush women but im sure if i spent a few years in the sahara i might change my tune.
Because she was born in China.
The fact that she is referred to as being "Chinese" is a man made terminology. She could be from Mars (or Venus) for all I care. But not Pluto. Plutonian women are very cold. My mate married one and he has to live at the South Pole with her. Even then she says the climate is too hot !! And to cap it all, my mate does not even know if his Plutonian wife is actually a female.
Lol. This just reminded me of another mate. His wife confessed to him that she used to be a hooker. No problem my mate said, He did not care about how many men she had been with. "No... you don't understand", she purred to him. " I played rugby and my name was Bob"
royceH:
Scotty's on the turps. Even Jack Hill, the blind minor, can see that one.
ScotsAlan:
Nope Royce. No turps, or even meths for me :-)
In a strange mood at the moment...... because my boss is going on holiday for 4 weeks .
It depend what you mean by "Chinese"? My girlfriend consider herself as a Zhongguoren but she is not a Han, she's from one of the many Southern minorities and in hers in particular women are usually much better looking than Han women and unlike the last have body shapes while being slim.
I had GF that I bought onEbay, returned her first day, then GF, GF, GF etc because I do not like to have BF. So GFs/ no BF/ maybe a wife/ no husbands.
I just kind of like/love my Chinese woman.... pretty special woman, trials and tribulations and such a sweet and nice outlook on "life". so I married her. she's still sweet and loving and good looking............. ain't gonna change her in a hurry, smart ass, bossy bitch MIL to come.