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Why many guys like going to club?For sexy women.Everytime I went to club for relax,I just found women dance just with their bar and underwear on.I just found it was disgusting and left soon.
Is there a question?
Some guys like meeting that kind of woman. That kind of woman likes meeting those kinds of guys.
Are you really that naive?
How old are you again?
crimochina:
remember , she is chinese. know one taught her how to figure these types of things out for herself.
Victoria1987:
If not?Tell me why men want to go there.In many club,they hire women to dance just with bar and underwear on?
If just for relax,why not go to some music bar instead?
mike168229:
As a hot-blooded straight man, if there was a choice between going to a club with semi-naked dancing girls or not, it would not be a difficult decision.
You cannot tell me you don't like looking at people you are attracted to in their underwear.
Victoria1987:
I won't go to a club for some semi-naked guy dancing there.I don't need those kind of men,I prefer finding a decent man to hang out together.
crimochina:
you need to scale a little lower than decent because the "decent" guys you keep finding are too afraid to make a move.
each person has their own personality and their own reasons for going to bars/ clubs.
some just want to dance and have a good time. some want to find a partner to hook up with. some just want to be seen by others at the bar. some just want to enjoy the atmosphere..
Victoria1987:
What kind of atmosphere?Have lady not wearing clothes?I won't say underwear and bar are real clothes.
crimochina:
the loud music, the darkness. the activity. there is a lot of energy in a club. you have to understand, outside off china people are encouraged to have their own personality.
if you ask a chinese person "what do you like to eat?" many times you hear "we chinese like to eat rice"
i would just say"I like pizaa"
happywanderer:
beer for me! I make no distinction between eating and drinking. That'd be beveragism.
Victoria1987:
I throught he left,I went to hostel to ask his number from the hostel.But brilliant,I met him again.I asked him out,but he refused me.I got the answer,end of story.
You're only 15 years old...you shouldn't be going to bars and clubs until you're old and mature enough to understand what you're seeing and experiencing.
Where is this club you speak of with underwear clad dancing women?
I didn't know what I was missing!
I've only been to a nightclub three times in my three years as I'm really too old for them. I find the music too loud, the cigarette smoke overpowering (and disgusting) but the eye candy is nice.
Victoria, sounds like you are just looking for a foreign b/f, judging from previous posts. You go to these places and complain about the people there - then why do you go there?
Victoria1987:
I didn't kown how is club like before I go there.I throught clubs are like the music bars I went,but am wrong,semi-naked women dancing there,so gross...
sorrel:
no offence Victoria, but is this the same club you went to with the English guy in your other post? surely this was not the first club you have been to?
Victoria, sounds like you are just looking for a foreign b/f, judging from previous posts. You go to these places and complain about the people there - then why do you go there?
She wants a foreign boyfriend, but complains about their foreign behavior....
Victoria1987:
hehe.I believe some guys here in club are not for looking at the sexy women.But thhe percentage to meet those kind of guys in the club is very low.I won't go for it.
you guys are missing the point. she does want a foreign bf but they need to be more assertive. for some reason she keeps ending up with wimps afraid to make a move.
Victoria1987:
Crimo,thank you for thinking for me.Guys kept leaving me,I got hurted.I am very senstive now and I won't apporach any guys.
crimochina:
vicky it is not you. for some reason the guys you meet are afraid to approach beautiful women. you really should take a trip to qingdao.
Victoria1987:
They approached me and got me then they left me.Nothing about they are afraid approaching beautiful woman,plus I am not the damn good looking woman.I am just a little bit more than averagen maybe.
crimochina:
sweety, you need to spend time getting to know me then i can possibly give you an idea of what's going on in their heads
nicholasba:
maybe you are looking in the wrong place for it. Start to chat first with someone, see if you get along, if you share same interest (if any) and then follow what you feel once you meet him....
Good point, GR. Or she scares them away, crimo.
Victoria, are you really confused about why a straight guy might like watching women dancing?
crimochina:
missA: guys who are interested would not be scared away before closing the deal. especially cute girls. and it is clear vicky is willing to accept "attention"
GuilinRaf:
She just sounds very "whiny" especially for a 26 year old....
This gal or boy or wumao needs to stop baiting the board. Can't believe all y'all fell for the absurd, pre-pubescent question.
crimochina:
red : she reminds me of a few students of mine who chase foreigners. actually one had a very similiar problem with her bf. he simply would not get the hint that she wanted to have sex. i'm not gonna give any details but she practically was wearing a suit to bed that said let puck you moron (every night!)
I'd never date a woman who went clubbing. Don't go for guys who club if you're not into that. No need to lower your standards just to find a foreign boyfriend.
There are plenty of foreign fish in the sea... but you got a lot to learn. The kind of guys you want aren't the kind of guys who hang around in clubs.
Victoria1987:
I won't go look for a man I want in the club.I have my standard.Clubs are crazy,who gonna really trust guys there?it is a good place for one night stand,not a good one for finding something seriously. I usually just go to good music bar for relax,but not every barcan meet my standard .I don't go to bars that girls working there wearing short skirts,lol.
Jnusb416:
Hey, I go clubbing. But I go with female friends, and we just go dancing. We don't talk to strangers or look for guys or anything. It's just for fun.
maybe you are looking in the wrong place for it when not using the wrong standard.... Start to chat first with someone, see if you get along, if you share same interest (if any) and then follow what you feel once you meet him....
I don't really like going to the club anymore. I use to in my hayday. When I had nothing to do and the best thing to do was to go dancing. I don't like staying out late but the times I did get to go to the club it was pretty awesome!!
Ha ha, I said: "club" too!!
TedDBayer:
I knew you would like a good ''club'' experience. You need to get out and have more.
GuilinRaf:
He cant Ted. His mom wont let him have the keys to his chains in the basement....
TedDBayer:
I think Sparkey is an old woman, she does buy lotion, do you? Mind you she does drop duces in hot tubs also.
I have never been in a club in China that the music wasn't too loud, beyond the pain threshold. I like loud music, but geeze. I used to have Altec A7s and I would never hurt my ears enough to give me a headache, well maybe sometimes. The sound system in my hotrod can make your ears bleed, but I don't turn it up that loud and get in the car, I have a remote control.
TedDBayer:
I just reread the question, I'd go watch women dancing in underwear even if there were landmines on the floor.
I never went clubbing in China. I didn't live in a big city, and I didn't have the type of friends who would go. But in America, I've been to several different clubs. I go with friends, usually all female like me, and we just dance and hang out. We don't talk to strangers or anything, we just have some fun together. I like dancing. I haven't gone in years, but there's a pretty cool club in Philadelphia that has goth night, and my friends and I have gone several times. Crimo is right, it's all about the atmosphere. If you're not having fun, then don't go. Personally, I would never go to a club alone. I don't think it's very smart. I don't care if people are half naked. If that's what they want to do, they can go ahead, it's their life. They're just wearing what makes them feel sexy. I like going to concerts too. It's ok to let loose and have a little fun once in a while, as long as you're smart about it, and don't do anything that might lead to an unsafe situation.
I've said this once, and I'll say it again. crimochina. Victoria, crimochina has offered to take good care of you a multitude of times... yet you continually refuse him. Why would you refuse a foreigner who is more than willing to take good care of you?
You complain about so many foreigners, but when a handsome, upstanding, foreign citizen such as crimochina shows up, you just reject him. I think you're being way too unreasonable here! crimochina will take good care of you... why reject him?
Victoria1987:
Stop making jokes,Hulk I have no mood now,I lost my English boy.
Hulk:
But crimo is all-american. I'm not making jokes... you should give him a shot.
crimochina:
screw the english, well she tried, but vicky you need a guy who's not afraid of you.
sorrel:
Victoria, this English boy you said you just lost, is this the same one you were talking about in the previous thread who only went to a night club once with you? or is it a different one - I am losing track
happywanderer:
Losing 'a' guy and to be honest a guy that sounds like a bit of a tool isn't a big loss. In my opinion you need more confidence and a job at a foreign company so you can meet the right person.
attention vicky: do you want this english boy?
here's what you do. send him a text asking if he is busy tonight or tomorrow night
when he is free, tell him you want to get a hotel room with him, some you guys can party and have fun for the night.
if he turns you down then you must accept the fact that your english boy is a gay boy (not that there is anything wrong with it.)
I sold my scale, I can see how much weight I've lost by the number of married women hitting on me each day in Starbucks. God I love China.
oh sorry that this isnt relevant to your question, but you might as well go into a butcher's shop and complain that they have no vegan salads
Victoria, if you want to find a foreign boy-friend, go to an English Corner, or even better - start one. There you will meet foreigners in an non-alcohol environment when you can get to know him in a social situation before dating. Also, should add, don't expect to meet your future husband the first time you talk to him !
I did hear one guy comment about going to one of the clubs in Beijing. He said: something on the lines of: "Thank god that girls wear short skirts here and that the club made stairs for them to walk up". -intentionally..