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Q: Why people are so afraid to fight back?

I always write down who's my enemy and try to get even and even made them pay more price. I remember Trump wrote in his book, once you fold once, you get a name of being a folder. So he always get even and let the enemy pays more prices sometimes. I fully agree with him. I noticed so many people are so afraid to fight back, why being coward, you should always fight back so people dare not to give you crap. They always tell me to ignore while people try to be rude to me, I really think that is a coward personality. When people are rude to me, I just insult them. I remember once a lady insulted me for wearing sexy, When the other day I saw her: I asked her why she always walk with her boobs up, is she trying to seduce the male teacher working with her? lol Her face turned pale and embarrassed. I was the client of her school before, I just used it to insult her and I watch her burn.

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Why are you afraid to fight back, except when you leave and run away. That is a true cowards way. You really are a nasty piece of work. How childish is it to put miscreants on the list saving it up for the day when you can stir the shit and run away, avoiding any backlash. I have heard of your type of behaviour twice before. Once was with Nazi Germany and the other was in primary school.with young children telling teacher someone called them names. Iwill let you decide which one applies more to you. No wonder you cannot keep a western boyfriend, no-one would put up with your crap.

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I think it's just the culture.Survival instinct.  5000 years of having to bow and scrape to various emperors, bullying officials and people who suck up to those in power who could make your life hell if you dare mess with them.

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I think a lot of people couldn't be bothered to standing up to screaming mad lefties thT shout loudest when nobody listens.
Who wants to deal with a crazy person when you can wait for natural selection to take care of them for you

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Some shit just doesn't matter. Some people don't matter. I see no point in getting into it if the person or situation is meaningless to me. I just couldn't care.

On the other hand, if something is important to me, get outta the way or get hurt.

Viki87:

What doesn't matter to you may matter to me. That is why I do revengevon those people. They should get hurt.

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Throw your toys out of the pram as you walk out the door....lol. That will teach them

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That's China's biggest problem. No one stands up to anybody. so, this poor behavior (sidewalks covered w/ canine poop; smoking anywhere/everywhere; yelling in public; littering like mad!) just goes on and on.... No one will say anything about it.   

I like to tell chinese people,,,, just go light up a cigarette in an elevator in the States,,, it'll be ok.  haha 

Viki87:

Nope. It is noting to do with nathionality. A lot of people are coward no matter which country they are from.

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Because people always fight back and you are a total loser.

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If you are so brave, why are you waiting until the last day of work to fight back?  That's hitting and running away before someone can hit you back.  How brave is that?

 

It's not cowardly to strive for peace and co-existence with others, especially those you disagree with.  It takes a lot of strength to control yourself and seek a more professional demeanor towards those that committed real or perceived wrongs against you.

 

If you are such the warrior you say you are, why are you delaying your fights until later?  Seems you're acting more out of fear than bravery.

 

Viki87:

I already fight back, just not heavier enough. I'm afraid of them to fight back? Seriously I do not give a fuck. So I reserve my heaviest humiliation to them on my last day there, of course then they can't do anything to me but the short guy will live the rumor for harassing me. I know office rumors go fast. And he'll be embarrassed.

 

I may tell my boss that I want to quit because the short guy harrassed me. Lol  I think my boss is a piece of shit too.

This is called wisdom, not coward. Coward afraid of standing up. They just swallow those craps.

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Look again at the collective wisdom of the people that already responded to this post. They collectively have years of experience and maturity well beyond yours. They are telling you to be selective and careful about the fights you pick. They are telling you to not fight over petty things. They are telling you to move on, and leave the bullshit behind. Where did they get that wisdom? Probably from making and witnessing similar mistakes you're about to make. Learn from their wisdom. You should be happy and relieved to leave that job when you quit. Why add additional drama to everyone's life? Are you challenging your co-workers to later seek revenge against you, or are you a bully that attacks only those people that can't defend themselves against you? I think we all seriously doubt you'll be teaching your co-workers the lessons you imagine they should learn. And what will you learn from all of this?

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Viki87:

Everyone is diffent. They do not fight back it is their life if they want to live a coward life. stop let me to live their coward life. Trump always fight back and I'm sure Trump got a lot of life experience and he's older than most of you. Trump adviced to always get even. Getting even make my soul feel happier.

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Why people are so afraid to fight back?

 

I have a lot of chinese friends and i noticed that they never fight back to offenses. The reason is not the fear. The reasons why they keep quiet when they are offended is because they don't want to put themselves on the same level as the person who offended them.

 

 

Viki87:

Maybe just excuse for being a coward. Ha so everyone can insult them.as they won't fight back. I'm Chinese, people around me always say they dp not want to fight back because they do not want to get revenge. Coward. I know Chinese better than you do. Look, you think everyone is telling yoi the truth for being coward? sometimes they tell u this to just save the face. Some people are lying to you for saving face,some people are finding excuse to persuade themselves for being coward, and some people truly think likes this.You seem like a young girl who doesn't read people's mind well. People lie sometimes, both Chinese and foreigners. You can sense it if you have enough life experience.

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Thanks for your reply. Yes, i guess you are right, I need to get more life experience to read other people's mind. Some people are cowards, that is true, they just cannot fight back out of cowardness, but some people are just naive and even though they are offended by someone, they are naive believing that the offender has something good in their heart and that they can change in the future, they trust in goodness in everyone, that is why they keep quiet, not knowing that their trustfullness will be abused.

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Great way to treat a new user with the thumbs down. ... assholes

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No cause for alarm. There is only 2 downers. Vicki downvotes everything even if she doesn't understand it, it agrees with her madness, or as in this case, uses satire and of course, the other is the default system downer.

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Fighting back isn't always bad. Depends on the circumstance. 

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Why are you afraid to fight back, except when you leave and run away. That is a true cowards way. You really are a nasty piece of work. How childish is it to put miscreants on the list saving it up for the day when you can stir the shit and run away, avoiding any backlash. I have heard of your type of behaviour twice before. Once was with Nazi Germany and the other was in primary school.with young children telling teacher someone called them names. Iwill let you decide which one applies more to you. No wonder you cannot keep a western boyfriend, no-one would put up with your crap.

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If someone chooses to let something go because the opinion of whoever said it means nothing to them and they don't get upset by childish behaviour that's not being a coward Vicki, it's being mature. It would be like getting upset because a small child said something to you.

 

But, If someone says something you don't like and you think it's worth making a big deal of it then tell them to go fuck themself or punch them in the face or whatever it is you want to do when they say it. Then it's over and everybody is even.

 

If you do nothing at the time then wait until you leave to do something that's like hitting someone from behind with a bottle when they're not looking then running away. That's not brave Vicki, that's the definition of cowardly behaviour.

 

 

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Chinese people don't fight back? News to me. But I lived in Sichuan.

Honestly, the way you talk about "fighting back" sounds unbalanced and irrational to me. Perhaps this is why you can't be friends with people, and end up dramatizing perceived sleights and drumming up tiresome vendettas over petty office squabbles.

Praising Trump should be a dead giveaway that you're about to do something dumb. Again.

I'd lecture you on the value of ASSERTIVENESS, being able to defend your interests with coolness and a level head. But I'd have more luck teaching you rocket science. It's beyond you. Where there isn't a will, there's no way.

Viki87:

It is ridiculous that you are acting that you are more mature and smarter than me only because the way I see things are diffrent from you. There ain't just one way to deal things. Get even isn't bad. Not a lot of people will mess around with an aggressive person.

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iWolf:

Dear Vicki, perhaps you confuse assertive with aggressive. Nobody likes or wants to do business with an aggressive person. Consider it, it might explain a few things. Have you ever considered medication?

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Case in point: not all opinions are equal, not everyone's opinion should be validated with undeserved respect, and not all opinions are equally valid. Except on talk shows of course. Do you see this forum as reflective of real life or a talk show? Agree to disagree there, heh.

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I would recommend that you don't burn bridges in case you need them in the future, some one at that company may succeed and be in your way later, but, if you changed industries, and have no value benefit from them, revenge is best served cold, a year later when no one know your even around anymore.

 

I once had a boss make up some accusations to get me layed off for his friend to fill my job and exactly a year later, his wife got the photos of him cheating with the secretary placed in the front seat of her car. The poor fool lost half his money in a divorce and child support for years and still does not know 15 years later that I ruined his life.

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