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Q: Why so hard to date?
Why many want open relationship,both Chinese and foreigners,even girls cheat on their boyfriends.
Are they mentally retarded or something?
Why some of the men already have girlfriend, but still say he is single and keep dating other girls?
Where are the one-woman men,who are grown-ups, true MEN, who are smart and interesting, who know
life isn't only about sex, but much more than that, who are not boring perverts? Where are you?
If you exist out there, then write to me please,let me know there is someone like you,honest,true and respectful.
11 years 44 weeks ago in Relationships - China
I am a men and you insulted my integrity.
Don't judge people in general.
Plus you openly advertised yourself here...looking for someone?
then go next door at the dating place and try your luck there.
Adios
aimeeliu88:
you fully misunderstood.
definition of assholes means someone who cheat.
being slutty is your life, no one cares. but don't mess it up with people who don't have same belief.
if that is really you in the photo, send me a PM telling me which city you are in. You will meet a great guy if you're in my city
NotGuilty:
You are a really sad person.
Are you shooting testosterone daily or what?
I rather masturbate or call Chinese TV in Xi'an to sell me that silicon vagina.
TedDBayer:
what would you expect anyone on this site to say, puck off and quit boddering us?
aimeeliu88:
it is real me, i am in xiamen.
speech has its power.
again,my intention is to SEEK FOR AN ANSWER & POSITIVE SUPPORT.
that's what community means.
mattaya:
Crimo dude I feel for you...you really need to get a girlfriend and get laid. You ask everybody out on this site that shows you a little sign that they are desperate or if they are looking for a boyfriend.....I think you should cash in your points and really consider echina dating out!
What is up with all the questions about relationships, and men being assholes, and where to meet people, and people asking for dates, etc? Seriously, kitty cat, do something, don't be a pussy (sorry, I don't mean it, that was just too easy/tempting).
Seriously, there are forums and dating websites all over the place, why come to the one place where people can directly ask questions and get a quick answer about China?
I come here every day in the hopes to learn something about China, or at least see something funny. If I wanted to see women bitch about men I would just watch Sex in the city, or any local TV show or movie.
It's always something like "I just had a bad relationship, [gender] are all douchebags, I want someone true and honest, true love, relationships aren't about sex, blablabla".
You even created an account just for that. Jesus fucking Christ.
tmestep8:
Many questions about dating because China can be soul-crushingly lonely for foreigners. Especially those of us outside of tier-1 cities.
Mr_spoon:
Yeah but that's not even slightly related to China. She's just directly asking for a date, as if this were the place to do that.
TedDBayer:
I think one of the women is M, I noticed his posts went up in count last night and who was on line? Who would give the clown a thumbs up. They're trolls.
aimeeliu88:
mr. spoon,
you english is good, but understanding capability not.
you fully misunderstood.
if you are not here to support, stay out of my thread.
again my intention is SEEK FOR AN ANSWER & POSITIVE SUPPORT.
Mr_spoon:
Yes, yes, my mistake, this is obviously the BEST, one and only place to talk about this.
Oh hey, I was thinking of posting a thread about how DOTA2 is awesome, and ask if anyone out there wants to play a lil' round, what do you think? This is what this website is for, right?
Thakkudu:
Jesus fucking Christ ??? .. I thought Jesus and Christ is the same man... 
If you are meant to meet the one in your life, he will come for you. 
I'll find it hard to date guys as well, but it's alright. They are just not that into me. Life must go on. Enjoy it even being single.
danielmarino:
Actually there is this movie called "He's just not that into you" from 2009. It is a great way to opening the eyes and realize that sometimes it's just like that, no further explanation, no further research, must accept and move on as fast as possible.
aimeeliu88:
daniel:
u r right, moving on is right.
but cheating is not right, cheaters must be cursed and condemned.
it is like you were hurt by criminals, then you tell the court, don't put the criminals into jail, because they must have been mentally retarded. those who are mentally retarded must be given freedom. We should stay away from them, just let them harm others,LET THEM HARM OTHERS WHOM WE DON'T CARE. It is none of our business and beyond our power. BUT THE TRUTH IS NOT, IF EVERYONE TRY A LITTLE BIT TO SHOW DISGUST TO THOSE CHEATERS, THAT CAN CHANGE THE SITUATION.
BUTTERFLIES CAN MOVE THE WORLD.
WESTERN CULTURE IS EXTREMELY STRONG IN SEX EDUCATION, BUT WEAK IN LOVE EDUCATION.
aimeeliu88:
DON'T FORGET THERE ARE MANY WOMEN CHEATING ON MEN TOO.
This thread is not to curse men, but to seek an answer and support, condemn all cheaters, both male and female cheaters.
I am a one woman guy who understands that sex is not the only requirement of a solid relationship. However, I am already taken. :)
I AM ASKING FOR AN ANSWER, not insulting anyone if u r not asshole.
to all assholes:
wake up, open relationship is not a relationship, it is adultery, just sex partners, relationship means connection, about soul, not about body.
if u can sleep with someone and dump her any time, remember you have mothers and sisters too.women are human, not animals, even dogs and cats you can't dump them randomly.You can leave, but YOU MUST COMMUNICATE before you do this,STOP HARMING YOUR OWN SOUL AND OTHERS.
u want open relationship, go find a prostitute, pay. or a whore of same kind.OR GO BACK TO THE STONE AGES/JOIN TRIBES/SEX PARTIES WHERE ALL MEMBERS ARE ANIMALS STILL!
STOP BULLYING WOMEN/MEN OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE! STOP SAYING THEY ARE NOT OPEN-MINDED! STOP BEING SELFISH BULLSHIT!
Tapwater:
I don't want to be insulted with the label asshole, so can you tell me if I'm an asshole before I give you my opinion?
aimeeliu88:
tapwater: if you are a while trash.
or whatever trash,
better clean yourself up before speaking,
better put YOUR REAL PHOTO before you speak.
because it stinks. stinky fish if you are another one.
I think they would say anything to get away from you.
You sound like a real bitch. i don't think it is them it is you change your attitude
fish79:
Why do we always have to be subjected to these rants every time a Chinese girl gets popped and dropped by a foreigner. She chose badly, not our problem and nothing to do with foreigners as a whole. I recommend you keep your panties in place instead of dropping them for the first foreigner you do a language exchange with.
aimeeliu88:
that's why it is so hard to date for me.
don't expect to language exchange with me as my multi-language skills are much better than many foreigners.
when you steal, you blame the owner being not careful enough.
if you are not here to support, then keep out of my thread.
fish79:
Love this is neither a lonely hearts club or a dating site. This is an expat site to discus China related issues. Just because you are Chinese does not mean how your cherry got stolen is one of those issues.
aimeeliu88:
FISH79.
don't try to be absurd and racist here.
this site does not belong to any one or any nationality.
u want to argue, then go to a debate contest.
again my intention is to SEEK FOR AN ANSWER & SUPPORT.
aimeeliu88:
fish79,
everyone knows who u r. The shit will always stink. just like the gold will glitter.
u don't know who u r, haha, good, u r lost. u deserve it! if you read what you wrote. the most amusing things from an asshole.
U R ON WAR WITH ALL UPRIGHT MEN AND WOMEN!
bless u with abundent sex, no love, abundent disease, lies, let you get lost again and again in desires and die without noticing your regret, torture you in hell and tear your soul into pieces, many times, as many times as you did to others.
aimeeliu88:
fish79:
again THIS THREAD IS NOT AGAIST FOREIGNERS, intention is to SEEK AN ANSWER AND SUPPORT, CONDEMN ALL CHEATERS, male and female, chinese and foreigners.
YOU R CHANGING THE TOPIC TO GET YOUR OWN DESIRE LEGALISED. what an asshole and trash!
a gem in waste bin..
very true..
Tapwater:
It isn't just that... I think it is terrible that you ended up with someone who was a liar and a cheater. It isn't right and it isn't fair.
Sure, there are a lot of people who are "sharks" in bars. But even people who are well respected will lie and cheat. Society has an outward image that is different from what is inside. Sex is something people want, so they will do desperate things in order to get it, without regard for other people's feelings. It is like money, in this way.
I don't want to sound too critical, but you did come here for advice. This is just my advice to you, please don't be offended:
You are probably gullible. Most people I hear about in situations like yours simply don't ask questions when they should. If you never asked him if he had a girlfriend before you slept with him, then it isn't entirely his fault for misleading you.
But don't think I'm defending him. I'm not. In fact, he is certainly an "ASSHOLE". But if you don't learn to carefully investigate men before you get involved, you will certainly end up with another asshole.
Another thing: Why are you interested in dating a foreigner to begin with?
aimeeliu88:
TAPWATER:
don't pretend to be nice, no need, be straight forward. stupid is u.
of course i asked and investigated.
of course he is not necessarily foreigner, chinese men and women cheat too.
of course i am not into bars.
of course you get sex like get money by killing others. you r right, no need to tell a pig like u to become a dog.
tapwater: you r an innocent pig, just like the poisonous food producers telling the public when journalists interviewed him, "hey it is not my fault, i want to make money, add poisonous chemicals into food makes it sell good. IT IS YOU, THE CONSUMERS, WHO ARE STUPID AND GULLIBLE, I NEVER ASK MY CHILDRE TO EAT WHAT I PRODUCE". Tapwater: are you one of the children of such poisonous producer ? I M SURE YOU ARE HIS SON. hahaha
I have friends that are sex workers, you can't judge them either. Most are just nice women, some have real hard luck stories.
If men or women want many lovers that is for them to decide. If you want to have a loving monogamist relationship, then go out and find a nice guy and try treating him well. Keep him happy. Don't pick on him and be in bad moods.
aimeeliu88:
i did talk to my families and friends, even to church. they knew or experienced real cheating stories too, only asked me to pray as they do,pray for the god to educate the cheaters, stop ruining the dating environment. they are both chinese and foreigners. some classmates or colleagues/friends even called me from other countries telling me" SHIT HAPPENS" haha, well, ASSHOLES NOT EVERYONE IS, JUST HARD TO FIND SOMEONE WHO IS NOT, HARD TO FIND THE GEM. TROLL i wish i were, then i could haunt those cheaters, wake them up from the soul davastating game.
TedDBayer:
I know a girl with a worse story, wouldn't list it, pretty little thing. I feel sorry for her, we're friends. My experience in China may be a little warped. I rented an apartment and the streets around me have stores. The apartments around me are filled with store workers, KTV girls and parlour girls. I'm a night owl, go out for street food usually at night, guess who's around.
TedDBayer:
I gave you the best answer I could, i can't support you, I think there is a strong possibility you are a troll. If I need support, I go tallk to my friends. I have problems, I only talk about the little annoying ones here. You think you got problems?
You need to learn how to have discernment.
Everyone is always looking for the bigger better deal and even though it is mostly men that act this way women can be just as guilty.
If you are looking for true mutual unconditional love in China you will be searching for a long time...foreign or Chinese...but if you are willing to stick it out I wish you the best of luck.
If you really want a true monogamous man then your odds are 1000% percent better with a western man...IMO.
aimeeliu88:
thanks.
but one-woman man does not mean whole life long only one-woman.
STOP CHEATING on the nice man/woman when she/he has many sex partners.
If you come on to a site like this to ask for a date, and I reckon you do often, the reason you have an issue with men is that you come off as a total psycho. I'm sure you're not. I'm sure you're a nice girl, but I get the feeling you are too agressive in relationships.
aimeeliu88:
what is your intention?
someone posting 1770 posts accusing me for asking merely one question? ha if this is none of your business, then psycho and agressive you have been.
philbravery:
Dont worry about it
if he who posts to much can bombard us with crappy questions
you have the right to post what ever you like
and for the record keep looking your time will come
good luck
Hypnos:
I have to agree with nevermind. Aimee you need to relax... I can sympathize with your pain and frustration but you need to relax. You are letting this get over your common sense. I think you should seek some help to, first of all, get your ideas straight. Praying to God will not get you a boyfriend (only if you meet him in the church choir). And i mean that with full respect for your religious believes. Get your head together first. The more you want this GUY the more likely you'll not get him. It will come naturally and without this obsessive persistence. Just a curiosity to try to make you think about what i said, about help: Have you counted the times you say any word starting with "cheat"? It's getting to your head. I wish you all the best, from the bottom of my heart.
ambivalentmace:
dating is hard in every country but china has a strict dating culture in a race car crashing into an open culture world.
men by nature are visual and want to spread their seed
women by nature want security and children
i am a playboy with no children and no desire for marriage but i dont hide my desires or preferences. women can either take me or leave me, and im not lonely in china.
i personally think a good man that cheats is better than a bad man that doesnt,
i do wish you the best and if a man says he loves you, act like your sick and see if he brings flowers , soup or medicine, also notice how he makes his friends respect you by not cursing or being rude, if he does not do this , kick him to the curb
nevermind:
Sorry, but if I heard a guy using words like "desires" and "spread my seed" around my girl I'd be more likely to get angry with him than if he cursed.
aimeeliu88:
ambivalentrace: if u want multi-sex partners, it is your life.BE HONEST. but if u cheat girls u r one-woman man to get sex, u r an asshole and cursed.
aimeeliu88:
ambivalencerace: the tips of testing men sound like good ideas. but don't agree with you. honest men are the best, the best men are confident, not afraid to let the girls know who he is, himself.
The bad men cheats, they are cowards, living in illusions and shallows, they are not confident to show people their true selves. They are fake to themselves and others.
A confident man is the best, BEING YOURSELF IS THE BEST. cheating men are not men, they are cowards and dead.
aimeeliu88:
ambivalentmace: being a cheap man is your choice. god is fair to you, what u get is only sex, you never get something more.
no one admires you truely when she finds out u cheat(sounds like you do agree cheating is right, sounds like you have been cheating a lot, judging from what you typed). TO ALL CHEATERS: LOSERS,cheaters with disability to love,disability to be a boyfriend, disability to be a father, DISABILITY TO BE A MAN. you want to become a sex toy and cheat other's to be your sex toys, SICK! So are the women that cheat on their faithful boyfriends and husbands, they are cursed! WHAT GOES AROUND WILL COME AROUND. THE CHEATERS WILL END UP WITH DISEASES, OR MORAL DISASTERS SOONER OR LATER.YOUR SOULS ARE COLD AND DEAD.
aimeeliu88:
The cheaters will live in seperated worlds and no one understands them, as they listen to Satan and enjoy pleasures by harming others, their souls will be damaged and thrown into Satan's dead world. Let loneliness wrap them till they die. Curse on all ruthless cheaters.
UNLESS THEY REGRET AND COMPENSATE THEIR EVIL DEEDS WILL THEY SAVE THEIR SOULS.aimeeliu88:
THERE ARE 6 perverts in this thread, outnumbering 3 upright speakers.
Bill Gates created internet, now the CHEATERS MAKE UPRIGHT PEOPLE SILENT
by talking anonymously on line.
INTERNET IS ROTTED. The thieves show off on line, the owners fall silent and let their children read bullshit speeches uttered from the assholes.
GOD'S GOOD LESSON.
HugAPanda:
WOW.aimee... you are a bit too much. If I were a guy, I'd run.
And FYI, Bill Gates did NOT create the internet.
And Ambiv was being honest. He says he's a playboy. Get off your high horse and respect when a man IS being honest when you are bitching and whining they all aren't.
nevermind:
Thanks for proving my hypothesis that you're a psycho right, aimeee!
