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Q: why so many foreigners think it's easy to get a chinese girlfriend?

some foreign friends recently told me that Chinese girls only love handsome guys and money.

i mean, come on! 

yeah, some girls ........well, you know........

but, if you find a nightclub girlfriend, dude, no need to complain, ok

it's not easy to get a good girlfriend, i mean, not only in china, all the world

dude, think about it

please do not say Chinese girls what what what

we still have a lot of good girls in china,ok.

6 years 2 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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OK ...

"Why do so many foreigners think it's easy to get a Chinese girlfriend?"

Probably because it's easy to get a Chinese girlfriend.

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I agree with China. As a British male here in Guangzhou I've found it is quite easy to get a Chinese girlfriend. The key issue for me is getting a girlfriend that is worth keeping (& from here side gettign a boyfriend that is worth keeping!).

 

I've dated 3 Chinese ladies for relatively long periods of time in the 4 years I've lived here. First one I stupidly broke up with as I wasn't ready to commit, 2nd one was too young for me and I was stupid (& lustful enough) to keep up the relationship with her for too long. 3rd one is the love of my life and we get married in 3 weeks! Smile

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Is it me or does the op sound like a chinese dude dude dude dude. Once you have figured out the landscape it is easy to find a girlfriend. I do not mean a pay to play girl or a bar girl. Many chinese women are fed up with chinese guys for good reason. Chinese guys treat women like property and offer no satisfaction.

If you want a good gf first start seeing women as people and your equal. Do not try to control her. Do not try to buy her. Do not make a fuss about her past.
Next you must make yourself into a good man (women do not like boys) being a man does not mean earn a lot of money.
Allow room to express herself sexually . Ask her what you can do to meet her needs without judging her or looking down on het.

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"please do not say Chinese girls what what what

we still have a lot of good girls in china,ok."

 

It is difficult to understand you. Are you saying Chinese girls who date foreigners are bad girls?

Or do you not understand  English enough to know what "It is easy to find a girlfriend" means?"

 

The real question you are asking is, why can't you find a girlfriend.

If you hate women, look down on women or are judgmental towards women  you will be hard pressed to find a woman willing to put up with you. That has nothing to do with nationality, many westerners come from countries where we were taught to respect women. When we travel to countries like India and China (places that encourage foul attitudes towards women), women gravitate towards us because we treat them better. 

I have talked to many students about this and for some reason males here are incapable of viewing females as equals. My words just go over their heads. Even in class I hear, "girls are disabled", "girls can't ....." and they are too stupid to notice the reactions of the female students. 

You want a girlfriend, be different. 

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No long answer necessary. Samara is 100% correct. 

 

I can get a girlfriend in China easier than I can find a good beer. I am NOT kidding. 

 

It is easier for foreigners to get girlfriends than for foreigners to find deodorant. 

 

I AM NOT KIDDING! 

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There are simply more women in China than there are people, animals, birds, monkeys etc in my country. I find Chinese women very friendly and easy to talk with. That same woman in my country wouldn't say hello to my monkey.

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This is a genuine case of cultural difference.

 

Western guys don't have the pressure to get married. They are expected to have fun. But Chinese guys have a rigid life plan they are expected to follow.

 

Chinese girls are the victims of  the above mentioned life plans, but some fight back and want to have fun before they are summoned to the alter by their parents.

 

To be honest, the OP would probably not want to marry a Chinese woman who dates westerners...... probably " too strong" for him wink.

 

 

 

 

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I've been in only a few nightclubs in China and always left, the music is always way too loud, loud enough to cause brain damage, this explains club girls.

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On a side note, OP, I take it you are probably practicing English by watching movies/series. This is a forum, your audience is not expecting subtitles, no need to go oral, and please avoid stuff like "Dude, I mean, come on, etc...". Doesn't make you look more nothing but like Chinese trying too hard.

 

Now, 'bout your question. Everything been answered already.

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If the OP wants a serious answer, I think theres a couple reasons for this...

 

The first is just supply and demand. It's NOT that every chinese girl just wants to date a foreigner, even if they are losers by western standards, it's that there IS a significant population of girls who both speak decent english and like foreign guys. And that population is a lot bigger than the number of foreign guys in China. So for that girl, you see a single foreign guy and you just go up to them and say "Oh, you're so handsome!" or something like that to make it clear that you are interested. Yeah probably most Chinese girls aren't interested in dating your average foreigner here...but the ones that are very aggressive about it. 

 

The other is economics...it's not that every girl here is a gold digger but when life is so hard and poor here for your average person, it is a statistical truth that even the worst paid ESL teachers still have it MUCH MUCH better than a farmer, factorer or migrant. You don't have to be a gold digger to not want to be poor. 

 

I've never dated a chinese girl myself, but I see how the ones that are interested in foreigners go out of their way to make it clear they are available, whereas the Italian girl I would be interested in dating I would have to approach and chat up myself. If the stereotypical foreign "loser" that OP is probably imagining says he can get 'any girl in china' he's definitely wrong...for one thing unless he speaks flawless chinese that's 98% of the dating pool eliminated right there. Plus there are millions of Chinese guys with better prospects. It's just that there are enough girls who want a foreign boyfriend/speak good english that it seems like they can have anyone.

 

 

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Why it's easy? Well, thanks to you Chinese guys.

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My wife get many times the same question from different Chinese men :

 Why did you find foreigner ? why do not have some fellow countrymen ?

I never understand what she replied, but they do not asked back again...

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who knows dude .....

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It's because there in nothing anyone in China wants more than to leave China. The easiest way for girls to do that is to marry a foreigner and hope that will mean new passport. 

 

Oh, we are of course also generally more generous lovers, super rich and can do amazing party tricks like drink cold water. 

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Probably because it is.

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In China I feel like Alice In Wonderland... NOTHING is ever what it first appears to be!

 
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the answer is simple, because it is, nothing more!! hate it or love it, that's the naked truth

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I don't see chinese boys any romantic ..

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The hard part is getting rid of them.

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Charlie B,U R a stud

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It's simple..if you are white, you are in luck, and if you are yellow like me..get an ultra fast vpn and lotion ready... 

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ye.. I get it man.. I really do...

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