Men in other countries have a different way of finding a woman for a serious relationship. In China it is common to use matchmaking websites, or introductions through friends, in a way "being set up" to date. However, a lot of the long lasting relationships amongst foreigners I've known happened naturally and with time. Usually they were co-workers or shared common interests, thus leading them to having natural points of conversations and meetings. Really consider what's important to your life and values, and try to meet someone in that circle. If you meet a foreign guy at a bar or somewhere random, and he's too friendly with you or too anxious without getting to know you first, I would be a little concerned that he's just looking for a Chinese girl. You don't want a guy looking for a Chinese girl, or a girl with your hair cut, or your clothing style, you want a guy who's looking for you.