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anonymous
Q: CAN i still trust my husband
we'v been got married and together for over 5years already ,he is foreigner and im chinese ,when we togehter he has nothing ,but i still be with him ,we had been through lot of hard time rogether but all worked out ,and im always there for him ,and i also know he is always for me ,will do anything for me ,but he cheated on me 2times before the marriage and couple days ago i found out he cheated me again with some chinese girl ,and she came to me found out my wechat added me and talk shit to me insul me like im the one having an affair with my husband ,she should be the one replace me ,ive gone crazy and slaped my husband face so hard and i wanna beat him the shit out ,i cant take off my anger and still cant now ,but he promised me to change and first thing he changed his phone number ,being good with me now ,but i know inside of me is broken ,but i still love him ,damn ,so i wanna take the revenge ,do the same thing that he did to hurted me and pretend to love him more thanbefore ,right now only this thing can makes me feel sort of fair ! im kinda of lost !
9 years 39 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Hey girl! Just watch "The Other Woman" http://www.movie4k.to//The-Other-Woman-watch-movie-5506871.html
Once a cheater, always... wait, what?? What a load of shit!
Humans like to complicate things.
They also need sufficient reason to do something - especially to change. Most people would rather die than to change (look at all the smokers in the world!!)
However, humans do change!
He just needs sufficient reason to change!
Does he want to change? What's in it for him? (humans are incredibly selfish creatures...marriage is a great example of that. So is having kids... sure, the world is over-populated and we need to do something about it - but not me!).
Quite clearly there is something that he feels he cannot get from you. It may be physical, it may be psychological - but there is something.
It may also be that he doesn't want to be married, and has found a way to end it (by making you the person to end it, because he doesn't want to have to do it himself).
It may be something else... we certainly don't know!!
That's his thing. And I'm pretty sure that, as much as he may not be honest with you, I'm pretty certain that he isn't being honest with himself!!
Q: if he had sex with a prostitute, would that make any difference? (reason I ask is - is the problem that he had sex with another woman, or ... that he 'attached' himself to another woman).
My 'advice'? Ignore the vows, ignore the 'marriage' stuff, ignore what he 'should' do - find out what IS. Then decide what to do from there.
