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Q: Do you think she's weird?

Things are like that,My husband wants to earn some cash in his spare time and I am ok with that.

So, he puts an ad online about teaching English.like 1 month ago,there's a girl found him and talked to husband on QQ,and decided to have some English lessones,she acted OK at that time. seveal days later ,she Invited My husband and I come to her house for Dinner and told husband she's living in a big house on her own.My husband and I were shocked by her inviting us come to her house for dinner,cause we never met in person and we don't know each other at all,what's more,she did not say that she needs an English lesson. so,we said thanks and told her that we prefer to meet in public.she keeps changing the time for the meeting many times which is kinda annoying like I need to work for my boss on the weekend even evenings as she's a personal assistant. when my husband is on QQ,she will just talk to husband once even cried in front of my husband online and asked husband some personal things,like how old is your wife,is your wife beautiful something like that.

Yesterday she asked my husband about my QQ number,husband asked me for permission and I said Yes,So she talked to me for a while yesterday when I was at work,that's fine,firstly she said hi to me ,then asked me how old I am,damn rude,and I didn't reply to her directly,just said,My pic's up,go and have a look,you would find out,then she said,Oh too bad,you are younger than me,she's 28 and single.

 

My husband thinks she's weird probably because she's lonely and I agree she's weird.but lonely no idea.

To be honest,It's kinda annoying that if someone (especially the one you don't know her or him well) asks you a lot of personal things each time and I am sure if my husband teaches her English in person,she would ask more,Some can answer but some you can not,too personal to answer.Now,husband let me decide whether we still want to meet her or not for English lessons.

 

Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

11 years 17 weeks ago in  Teaching & Learning - China

 
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sounds like you got some competition 

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Every girl that asked me a lot of personal questions was interested in more than just friendship.  Even when they knew I had a wife and kids, they still weren't shy about wanting a physical relationship.

 

If you really trust your husband, let him teach her.  If you rather not let him alone with an aggressive, single, lonely girl, then perhaps he shouldn't teach her.

Mr_spoon:

Even then, I'm pretty sure she doesn't want to learn English at all.

It's just an excuse. He shouldn't do it at all, who knows what that woman is planning to do.

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I think she sounds like trouble. Even if you trust your husband, he may be tempted. It's best just not to be tempted. If the woman wants English lessons, then that is all she should be interested in or get. I think she is invading your life and you don't like it, so act on how YOU feel.

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She is either married to an older richer man or is a mistress for an old rich man or divorced one...just a guess...could be something else. but not likely.

Be very careful...she is hunting for some pleasure.

Too many Chinese women are gaga over western married men.  I know some of them.

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I trust my husband completely,but I don't trust THAT WOMAN.

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Your husband is not the problem...it's her.

I have met women like this.

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As to the ton of questions asked, that is what  "lao wais" must deal with every single day, from complete strangers who insist on answers.

As to this lady, I strongly suggest you and your husband stay clear of her. She may be trouble even if your husband does nothing wrong.

Good thinking on not meeting her in her home.

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Simply delete and block her from all of your QQ's.  Secondly, most mobile phone in China these days have the ability to block numbers.  Block her number and any other numbers that she might use.  Do not deal with her under any circumstances and that means both you and your husband.  That is my take on this anyway.

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Thank you very much for all the advice, it's absolutely useful and we are going to delete her from all of our QQs and block her number as well. DEFINITELY GET RID OF HER NOW.

Thanks a lot again.smiley

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IF you don't need the extra cash then no don't do it.

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hehhe,maybe she may be a lesbian and likes you? probably,this happens many times.

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I think she is frustrated due to some of her personal reasons..

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Good decision, Maggie. I don't think any good could have come from that situation.

maggiegirly:

Hey MissA ,have not seen you in a while,Hope you are good.

I guess you are in OZ now? Enjoy your summer time.smiley

Husband is thinking about going back to OZ during Chinese new year, we will probably,not sure tho.

Yes ,you are right,now she's Completely gone.So good LOL

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Maggie...............Can i get her QQ?..........I might have some fun screwing her brains up..............Wahaha

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Don't  you already have a girlfriend? A POLICE girlfriend, whose family is well connected?

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I did not say i will sleep with her or cheat on my GF.....Just like what i said i would have some fun screwing up her brains

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Createach,Sorry ,I couldn't give you her QQ.

 and she's not a fun woman either..

 

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It's pretty normal here for personal questions to be asked just after you have met. You have to realize that they don't know it's rude to ask, you can just respond by saying it's a secret or something similar, they usually won't push you on it.

 

As for this girl being crazy, I don't think so. Like you said she probably is a little lonely or want's to meet some foreign friends. It's possible that she want's to be more than friends though and like others have said the fact she know's he's married doesn't mean a thing.

 

The best advice is to let your husband go (if you trust him to be able to refuse) and let him report back and make the decision whether to return or not. Probably best to have the class outside in a coffee shop for the first couple of meets, then see how it goes.

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It's pretty normal here for personal questions to be asked just after you have met. You have to realize that they don't know it's rude to ask, you can just respond by saying it's a secret or something similar, they usually won't push you on it.

 

As for this girl being crazy, I don't think so. Like you said she probably is a little lonely or want's to meet some foreign friends. It's possible that she want's to be more than friends though and like others have said the fact she know's he's married doesn't mean a thing.

 

The best advice is to let your husband go (if you trust him to be able to refuse) and let him report back and make the decision whether to return or not. Probably best to have the class outside in a coffee shop for the first couple of meets, then see how it goes.

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