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Q: how to get my ex chinese girlfriend back
hi there i was with a chinese girl one year on and off ,but i went back to my home country the first stage of the relationship 3 months then broke up then 3 months again. Then we were back toegether but after that 3 months i had to return to my home country due to unforseen circmustances. Afterwards we kept a long distance relationship for 4 months she begged me to come back to china we had a few arguements here and there during this time.Then i come back to china now she broke up with me and only wants friends i still love her i hope she can forgive me anychance of reviving the relationship and having her again we only argued about small issues mainly my fault any advice how to deal with this. I deeply still love her.
11 years 20 weeks ago in Relationships - China
ok, man .
first of all, i am sorry to hear this.
u have to understand why she broke up with u. according to the context u said, i guess the main reason u broke up is not abt some "small arguement". it may be because infinite times of long distances.
i dont understand why u kept going back to yr country during the period u guys dating. apperantly it is not good for any girls to keep relationship in this condition.
as far as my humble opinion goes, u can't fix this until u can finally make sure u r stable in China.
Xpat.John:
Does anyone else feel like this question was written and answered by the same person?
Xpat.John:
I may be wrong. But the writing style, punctuation and grammatical errors are almost identical between the question and your answer.
Fengming:
haha sorry for the errors i made. if u think this logically, nobody is that lame to ask and answer a question by himself. by writing style, the only thing we can get is both me and the guy who asked the question are not native speaker and also not goody-goody students. do u agree?
nevermind:
Yes. Xpat, you are correct. Nice try though Fengming. The fact that saying "who would be lame enough" should make you take a step back and question WHY you're doing it then. There's often a poster here who always posts questions in the same way "How to etc.." clearly it's a Chinese person as a native speaker wouldn't ask a question like that and it translates from the chinese grammar of question asking. Now, go away.
stan118:
my exact thought, sounds like the same person, wu mao 5.0 hhahaha just kidin
crimochina:
i agree whole heartedly. both are definitely written by the same chinese person. you are trying too hard to use slang.
Fengming:
oh my god......does anyone can explain why i exactly need to do that?
GuilinRaf:
Some people are lonely and chatting with themselves on web forums is one way of having the illusion of companionship.
Another is to sell their stuff, like "Mandarin Garden" would do. They ask a general anonymous questions and BANG! Instant, well thought answer form poster with only 1 or 2 or 3 previous posts extolling the virtues of their product, with links to the website, mobile phone numbers, etc.
Yet another may be that they want to "test out" an answer, and see if from the feedback they get it is the right one or not.
However, I would not go so far in this post to list the person as a "wumao".
nevermind:
"oh my god......does anyone can explain why i exactly need to do that?"
Uh, thanks for proving our point.
ok, man .
first of all, i am sorry to hear this.
u have to understand why she broke up with u. according to the context u said, i guess the main reason u broke up is not abt some "small arguement". it may be because infinite times of long distances.
i dont understand why u kept going back to yr country during the period u guys dating. apperantly it is not good for any girls to keep relationship in this condition.
as far as my humble opinion goes, u can't fix this until u can finally make sure u r stable in China.
Xpat.John:
Does anyone else feel like this question was written and answered by the same person?
Xpat.John:
I may be wrong. But the writing style, punctuation and grammatical errors are almost identical between the question and your answer.
Fengming:
haha sorry for the errors i made. if u think this logically, nobody is that lame to ask and answer a question by himself. by writing style, the only thing we can get is both me and the guy who asked the question are not native speaker and also not goody-goody students. do u agree?
nevermind:
Yes. Xpat, you are correct. Nice try though Fengming. The fact that saying "who would be lame enough" should make you take a step back and question WHY you're doing it then. There's often a poster here who always posts questions in the same way "How to etc.." clearly it's a Chinese person as a native speaker wouldn't ask a question like that and it translates from the chinese grammar of question asking. Now, go away.
stan118:
my exact thought, sounds like the same person, wu mao 5.0 hhahaha just kidin
crimochina:
i agree whole heartedly. both are definitely written by the same chinese person. you are trying too hard to use slang.
Fengming:
oh my god......does anyone can explain why i exactly need to do that?
GuilinRaf:
Some people are lonely and chatting with themselves on web forums is one way of having the illusion of companionship.
Another is to sell their stuff, like "Mandarin Garden" would do. They ask a general anonymous questions and BANG! Instant, well thought answer form poster with only 1 or 2 or 3 previous posts extolling the virtues of their product, with links to the website, mobile phone numbers, etc.
Yet another may be that they want to "test out" an answer, and see if from the feedback they get it is the right one or not.
However, I would not go so far in this post to list the person as a "wumao".
nevermind:
"oh my god......does anyone can explain why i exactly need to do that?"
Uh, thanks for proving our point.
If you are serious, just ignore her, if you bother her she will push farther away. Go out with other women. Either you will find someone else or she will come back to you if she wants. Just let it be.
Ex Chinese girlfriend means she is no longer Chinese not she is no longer your girlfriend. 
More accurately it should read Chinese, ex girlfriend.
post her number, we'll phone her and put in a good word.
Like others have said you must drop her, let her come back to you. Chinese girls like to be in control and when they see you begging like a puppy it makes their ego grow and grow and they will try and hurt you for longer because you hurt them a little, best thing to do is try other girls and let her know about it indirectly, she will get jealous and want you back.
I had a big argument with my wife once, up to the point of her saying I don't love you and regret marrying you, she wanted to divorce and I kept apologizing and telling her she does still love me, as soon I changed tactics and said ok, you want that you got it, I got in the car and drove off, within 5km she was on the phone asking me to come back and talk! After that everything was good and she even said sorry!
It's VERY different from dating western girls, you have to do things that might seem odd and that you think won't work but in the end it will work out!
Good luck!
Strawberry66:
Not every Chinese woman will be like your wife.Do not pretend to chase other women,it is dramatic.If my bf pretend he is chasing other women,I will believe in it and leave. I used to tell my ex that I was breaking up with him,he kept begging me and hugging me and kissing me,I finally smiled and we got back.Even though in the end he and me still broke up as he left China for quitting drug.My advice is just take more time and show that you are really sorry and you truly love her.
Buy her an iPhone 5. That will get you a week or two.
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