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Q: How many people did you invite to your wedding?
I work in a public high school and I am the only foreign English teacher in this town. So I am trying to figure out who to invite. There are 30 other Chinese English teachers, school administrators, PSB, FAO, relatives, friends … I don’t feel like having 100 + dinner guest, but I fear if I don’t they will think I am rude. I also want to stay working here for several years so I need to do things fairly normal.
I am very happy to be getting married for the first time, but also feel things like marriage should be kept small and special, I would actually like to keep it down to 10 - 20 people, but that just won’t be acceptable – I am guessing.
So how did the rest of you handle this issue? Did you care about your image ? My girlfriend seems fairly indifferent so at least that’s not going to be a problem
10 years 23 weeks ago in Relationships - China
i'm planning one now, and have thought about this issue as well. but, i live in a much bigger city so i don't think it will be an problem for me. in your town, i think just about everyone and their dog knows you. just curious, what's it like living in a town like that?
ou812:
Actually living in a small town is kind of a trip, but like everything it has it’s good and bad times. In general the people are really friendly, but the ones that are assholes are really good at being assholes so they can ruin a good day quickly. My town isn’t exactly small by the rest of the world’s standards just China’s (400,00 0+ people ) . I am the only native English speaker and the only foreign teacher. We have one KFC and that is it for “western” restaurants. You can’t even find butter in town. One real downside to it is that I work at the only place in town that can legally hire me, so if I need a new job I am going to have to bounce on down the road a bit. That being said, I can surely find another job much faster than they can find an American willing to come here and I have let them know that more than once.
We didn't have one. :( In-laws didn't approve, so... we fled. Now they want one... but... well, okay. When we go back.
Paulberger:
i would love for you to write and book about all the drama that happened to you in china...
Hulk:
I honestly got a kick out of most of it. The only really serious drama was the triads, passport theft, and, of course, the in-laws. The rest of it had me laughing my ass off at how stupid it was.
I posted here so others could laugh with me. The other stuff, well, more of a "heads up" as to what will happen if you don't back down.
15 people in Bulgaria (only relatives). About 300 in China but my mom-in-law organized it all.
So I had 2 weddings. 
You need to make sure ALL her family are invited and I would recommend inviting a few close friends/colleagues from work that you have daily/weekly contact with then invite the important people from your school such as the principal, chairman, etc PLUS don't forget anyone from the government that you know, they will be VERY important to your future and if you snub them they will not forget!
At the beginning we were thinking of having 2 wedding parties, the first in Italy and the second in China. I left it to my wife. After done with the one in Italy (47 people), she said she had enough, so was it.... 
First marriage -- 500 persons.
Second marriage, maybe 75 persons.
Third marriage, on a cruise ship. Only the ship's captain and bride and groom.
Fourth marriage, still thinking about the list.
I invited one, and i'm still paying the consequences.
