I really want to kill her or burn her house down? I am serious, please someone give me honest advice here. I found this website on my friends computer. You're all people versed with China. I am no stranger to China myself. Here is my story and I will try to keep it as short as I can. I had a Chinese gf for 3 years, she is from Foshan. In October 2011 due to some poor environmental affect while living in China (with that gf) I developed a severe intestinal disorder. I went home to get better medical treatment. In September 2012 I was in the hospital for about a week, then when I got out she called me, yelled at me for an hour. I tried to explain to her she couldn't find me because I had been in the hospital, but she wouldn't listen to me. So after maybe 20 minutes I got angry and said to her “would you rather hear that I was cheating on you? Is that what you want to hear?” She broke up with me on the spot and that was it. This girl at that time had already been with me for almost 3 years, so she knew what I was going through. I wouldn't have even got sick if not in China with her. It hurt so much that I get out of the hospital and she calls me to yell at me.

She and I kept in some contact afterwards, but just a little. If we talked I asked if there was another man, but she always said no. Once or twice she said she loved me. In November 2012 I came back to China. I was still sick, but there was a surgery I had moved from being done in my hometown of Chicago to Hong Kong. She was saying she loved me sometimes and honestly being sick, it feels good to have a loved one near you (I have little family at home). We met in Shenzhen, did all the things lovers do, then went back to Foshan together. A few days later I asked her to marry me, she said yes. So I told my family and friends the good news. A day later I found a nice apartment for us and signed a one year contract. We moved in, and then the next morning, she woke me up and broke up with me again. I was so upset, because she had just said she would marry me, I got the apartment, etc..

For the next week we didn't talk much. Finally I got her to meet me outside, she smiled and laughed in my face and told me she loved another man. They had gotten together almost the same time she broke up with me in September. So I asked “why be with me in China like gf and bf, why agree to marry me, why get the apartment?” She said her friends made some plan to be so nice to me for the first 7 days I was in China and then on the last day she was to leave me for the guy waiting for her. So she played me just like that. I tried to kill myself in that apartment, there was blood everywhere, and I never cleaned it. Another week later and she came back with the landlord and forced me out because... I let me then fiance sign the lease agreement.

About 10 days later I had my surgery in HK, while there in recovery I got an email from her blaming me for making her lose her job, that apartment, and causing her emotion stress because of our ordeal. She knew I was in the hospital at that time because I had told her best friend. So she chose that time to do that to me. I recovered, got healthy. In January I went back to the old apartment just.. I don't know why, I had some feeling inside me to go there one last time. When I was near the door.. I heard a man and woman inside. I was surprised to think it got re-leased so quickly, so I knocked... guess who answered the door? The girl. I later learned she never lost her job, obviously the apartment, etc..

Now the girl has sent me some emails and says they are getting married soon. More than that she explained that the reason she did all of that to me was because her parents don't like me. I always knew that, but it was never a hot button issue. She just said whatever she did was to satisfy her mom and dad. This is just a GD slap in the face to me. I never did the girl wrong, I never cheated.. I served her every wish when we were together. If you met me, I am a quite and easy going ginger from the USA. Now.. I feel like I can't do nothing about it all. I can't just go home, I can't just let this sh*t slide that she did me like that. I've tried to tell people what happened, but she has already told all my friends that she never did these things, but people all know I worshiped the ground she walked on.. so its a toss up. What can I do? I don't want to be violent.. this kind of thing, I think about it sometimes.. I KNOW I CAN'T LET HER GET AWAY WITH THIS..