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Q: Why I went to fight with my mom everytime I go home?
I found everytime my mom and I would went to a fight when I went home everytime. Not physical fight.
Again this time she asked me to go make my 7 years old nephew to do homework on his weekend. I refused and told her that my little nephew had enough hard time and homework from Monday to Friday, he needed a break on his weekend. My mom got mad at me and blamed on me saying that I just didn't want to help the little boy. She even went to tell everyone in my family how bad I am for refusing to help homework.She kept this on the whole day, I got pissed with her being unreasonable.
When I got pissed, I called her physcho, I know my nanecalling to the mom was bad, but I said when I was too pissed.
My mom even insulted me for not having a government job and that I failed gaokao and got my college degree from self-taught education.She thinks my degree isn't a real degree as long as it is not a college from gaokao, she thinks only government job is a good job. I am just so annoyed with her shallowness and ignorant, I got completely pissed
I tried to pick up my bag to leave the house for going to a hotel, my Dad took me home.
What's wrong with my family?
My younger sister stood with my mom and criticized that I am wrong. She said thats not your child that I have no right to decide the way to educate him. Lol
My younger sister even told I never treat my newphew well. I know I'll fight with everyone of them, just a matter of time.
They said I didn't treat them well, I took days off to go back to see them, tickets aren't that cheap. I could enjoy a good weekend with those money.
I'm so annoyed that they always ask me to gift the little boy hundreds of rmb. My old sister is divorced, she's earning the low salar, I understand life is hard for her. I wound like to help her out a bit while I could earn much more.
My mom told me that I should gift some money to the little boy and my sister would take the money so that I'm actually helping my sister out. How do you think of this theory?
Some Chinese and westerners say child view money not in a way we adult see. So it is fine to gift child money, how do you say?
you come across as being very similar to your family members - it is often said that the apple does not fall far from the tree.
a lot of what you say about your mother and sister can be attribute to yourself and how you interact with others in all of your relationships - professional and personal.
you are 'sensitive' to your mothers words, yet are very quick to abuse and insult those around you in a similar manner - i only have to look at how you have trashed colleagues, clients, family and posters on this forum - even the posters who have given you excellent suggestions.
you called your mother a 'psycho' to her face - WHO DOES THAT and still expect to be treated well by her and by the rest of the family?
do you have zero self control?
you contribute as much toxicity to your family relationship as they do - your family's attitude to you does not come out of no-where - YOU contribute and are responsible as much as they are.
did you honestly think your father would not defend your mother?
a good manager would know how to diffuse and deal with this sort of toxic situation.
why do you expect sympathy and understanding on this forum when you show none to any other poster here?
you are an adult yet you keep posting variations of the same problems over and over.
the only common factor in all these 'problems' is you, and your inability to react in any other way or learn from previous experience.
you 'need respect'
what have you done to earn any respect?
you have shown no respect and therefore deserve none.
if you want to see any change in any of your relationships, you have to change things about yourself and how you react to and deal with others.
Otherwise you will continue in the toxic cycle of negative relationships and an unfulfilled life.
you have posted the same self-pitying self-absorbed posts for years and can't seem to understand what needs to change.
i would recommend professional help - you don;t want any from people here, you only seem to want validation.
Viki87:
Keep acting you know everything. You follow every post of mine to abuse me and that's all you have treated another female poster. You are the one has issue, you seem tried to trashed both spongebob and me to show off in front of all male here how wonderful you are. Why do you turn to be such a pathetic woman? All you do is to put other women down? Are you having problem of getting laid in China? So many asian beautiful women here, and make you lose market? lol I have found some western women turn to be very catty,you are just the type I'm talking about.
Blondie_:
Viki, your constant whining and self-absorption (is it an online form of ‘SaJiao’?), and Spongbob’s contradictory claims and assertions (Chinese one minute, then American, then Chinese again – is he/she an ABC?) would become wearing on even the most positive ‘Pollyanna’ poster. But then I just call out BS, male or female – (I am an equal opportunity de-bunker of unicorn droppings).
I don’t know everything, but I learn from life experiences not to make the same mistakes twice. If you actually bothered to read any of my earlier posts to yourself and Spongebob, you would see that they were quite supportive of both of you. But then this doesn’t fit into your ‘martyr‘ narrative does it, having people offer sound and practical advice and then acting on it in such a way that would make you happier and more fulfilled?
Viki, for unicorns sake. take a look at yourself and make a positive change in your relationships if you want any happiness in your life. Try posting on other people’s questions with helpful comments. Take an interest in things and people outside your life. You would be surprised how much you could change people’s opinions if you showed that you were not a one-dimensional self-absorbed whine-fest. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and moaning about your life online – this is not an attractive trait in anyone (man or woman).
Viki, could you PLEASE give links for emails that indicate that other posters think I am a ‘pretentious bitch’? Without evidence, you have no credibility as anything more than a one-dimensional poster.
Happy New Year
Viki87:
But then this doesn’t fit into your ‘martyr‘ narrative does it, having people offer sound and practical advice and then acting on it in such a way that would make you happier and more fulfilled?
That's the ridiculous part I have ever come across, sound and pratical advice? I have received so many shits from bitch likes you, calling me slut or whatever shit and then claimed yourself to be the kind angel who gave me advice? Watch out at what you just said, no one appreciate your dirty mouth. Have you ever post anything about your bad part? No, all I hear is you keep posting how good you are and how smart you would handle in my situation blah blah, you are selfish and annoying you know.
Of course many don't like you, why would I have to post their links online for proving that to you?
Again, we just do not like you. So stop following me around, just go mind your own business and stop pretending that you are fair mother god.
Villagers always insulted people like saying you are fat, go lose weight or you are too old, you should get married soon and your ass is too big and you should just cover it. Once I fight back, they are exactly just likes you saying that I do not take their sound and practical advice. Do you see the similarity between you and them? Blondie, they are you, you are them, look at yourself in the mirror.
Over the few years, I learnt to not insult people while giving advice. I have a friend who finished college but work in the retail shop as a sales, I think she could end up better in career, I didn't say the job is shitty , go change it. I tried to consider her feelings and not try to make her feel that I am criticizing her. I just asked what's your new year plan? I lead her to speak out and I will try to give advice in a comfortable way.
While you are giving advice, go consider people's feeling and out yourself in other's shoes before speaking out. Yiu act like a little girl to my understanding.
Adults should know the tones of communicating with people. No bad words calling while giving advices. You do not even understand human psychological
A child wants toys.
A toy is instant. Unwrap, surprise, instant joy.
Let kids enjoy their childhood.
Money is a crap gift to give a child.
Viki87:
I went back to home after with friends for couple of hours in the city.I brought some snack and toy the little guy likes from KFC. He's thirlled and told me how bad his mother act. lol I like the little guy His mother is crazy, why push him do homework everyday, he just started first grade 4 monthes ago, a child needs to rest and have fun. The little guy told me the school gave him a lot of homework. His mother would shout and beat him while he didn't want to do homework.awwwww
Viki87:
He's very very cute. Leave him alone for a while. I feel sad that he has to do homework everyday.
this the answers to this question should help you 
http://answers.echinacities.com/question/i-am-so-sick-chinese-money-culture
Happy New Year !
In every family someone takes the responsibility to run it. I did not hear you mention your Father doing it in your write up. So, I can surely say that it is your Mother that has felt the burden of running it. You are the next male/female member in line and I find that you are not in a secure(Government) job and find it difficult to help them with additional funds. This is indicated by you in your statement that you could have had a very nice weekend if you stayed behind on weekends and enjoyed the same alone.
I now sense the lack of a Fatherly figure for your nephew. Your Mom is trying to tell you that you should take over the role and tell the kid, to do his home work. What she is hoping is that you encourage him and NOW sit with him and show how and get him under your wing, so that he will always look upto you as some one that he can respect and ask for help in times of need. You can always substitute a lot of love for other things in life. Friendship is the best. Being related you can pour it out freely and the kid will look forward to seeing you every weekend. Can you do that? Just for me? If you can you will be TOPS in my books.
I see you love your family and your Dad now feels that your Mom is blaming all of the difficulties the Family is facing on you and when you find that she is taking out all of her frustrations on you and when you want to pack up and leave, your DAD steps in and holds you back. Because he feels that you are still needed, loved and still a part of the family and better days will come and you all will find things a lot different in the future when that happens. He also knows that you are not mature enough to step into his shoes.
Time is a great healer. You will also find it the same when you stay joined, united and as ONE and as a family and together. You all have seen good times and better days earlier on life. Your Dad can surely sense the same returning. Your Mom who runs the House does not see it happening immediately. Nor can she see it in her own way, of its returning that soon.
So, the expression of her frustrations upon you and in general has become the NORM of the day. She also needs to get a lift and some one should cheer her up so that the house will be a nice place to live, visit or return back to, and everyone must also make her feel wanted in all kinds of ways, by your kind thoughts, a small show of affection, a cheerful disposition and a hug or a peck on her cheeks, if it is the normal expression of affinity, that YOU can bestow upon the family. In short can you change your way of thinking to help the family feel that too and take it up to the next plateau. It does not have to be done with finances, but just by the show of affinity and love for your Family. If so, you have done that just by your thoughts and actions and NOW get my thank you's for the rest of your life for doing this with your time and efforts from here on.
Thank you for opening up to us here. I get an inward look into your culture and society and how it functions and now makes me a part of your community. It has brought me a little closer to your family. And when I get your response in the affirmative, It will touch my heart and I will feel a lot closer to you too.
A thank you from a stranger and a lot of loves to your nephew, your Mom and your Sister and to your understanding DAD too. You are the BEST, as always.
Regards.
Freddie.
ambivalentmace:
If your father let's your mother boss everyone around, then obviously your sister and yourself never had a good male role model, and this shows up in both of your histories with men, we know about your troubles and now she (your sister) does not have a man, Do you see a pattern here? Yes the nephew should have a woman run his life and not be a man so he too, can be a wimp, controlled by a woman, like your dad, sorry this is so obvious, I should not have to even type the words.
Tell them your in love with a Chinese handsome man in a low paying government job and trying to help him start a business and your too busy to come home for a couple of year. Two years later, tell them he left you for rich woman and now your all alone again. Make them treat you as a victim before they do the same thing to you. Give them the same shit they give you. Sadly, they will not change or learn anything from your honest communication with them, so play their game and win. As for Freddie's comments above, this might apply if China had real men who are good father figures, but this is a small minority, ask a man any chinese man what is his kids best friend at school's name is and look at the deer in the headlights dumb stare. Ask him what computer game or cartoon his kid likes watching. same response. Hell, most Chinese man can't even tell you the day they got married, I have had 3 wives and still know the dates i foolishly took a ball and chain. It's hard to forget voluntary self-imposed prison sentences.
Get married and have your own kids..then they have to give your kids money and attention..Its traditionally the woman's rite of passage...especially in China...maybe even a little revenge
dont go back home without your man, then the focus will be on him!
as freddie posted about the 'fatherly figure' for your nephew, yes that is needed.
Viki87:
Fatherly figure. What's the hell to do with me? I'm a lady. I hate her insulted my degree and my job. I failed gaokao and went to a private self-taught college without exam needed, I studied hard to pass more than 10 courses to get a degree. By the time, I was the only one got a college degree among all the students attended that college. I think the education system sucks even it is hard to get passed to get degree there. But my mom shouldn't insulted me saying that my college degree isn't real degree. I make 10000rmb as a international sales manager, it is not a secure job as governmental job can provide which it's true, maybe I'll get fired when the boss doesn't like me.It is a shitty company right. But I stayed there for saving up and taking some customer resources while I am not financially atrong. I'm planning for my future. I am not on a secure job, I may get fired or I may end up running a company successfully and make millions. Really no one knows.
I really think they have issues. How could a monther insult her daughter's degree and job? She can't even realize how bad she just did to me. All she told is that I'm not being gratiful for how hard for her to brought me up and paid my education. She thinks she can say whatever she can to me and I shouldn't be mad at her because she's my mother. She's completely insane to my understanding. I'm very sensitive to those insulting words to my degree.
She's the one can't hold a normal conversation, sometimes I'm sick of her words.
Now she kept saying that I'm not a gratiful person. Saying that I won't take care of her when she's old. All those crazy words.
It got me completely frustrated and sad, I'm hurt because my own mother insulted me. I ate nothing the whole day for being too sad and mad.
Everytime I went home,my mother and other family members would insult me or even kept saying my ass is fat and demanded me to change clothes so I won't embarrass them while walking with them.
I really found they are being weird and unreasonable,my two sisters are just exactly like my mother. I am tired of them.
Others would not go back to home for long time for being insulted like me,I swallowed again and again to visit them because I care about them and they were my only family. But everytime they can't be reasonable, why can't they just shut their mouth up and stop saying those nasty words to me just for a few days? I only go back to home to stay for a few days each time. Sometimes just 2 nights, only go home like 4 times a year while my two sisters all live together with my parents everyday. Why can't they be more throufhful and be more understanding? A family likes that made me very sad, it costes me about 400rmb for each visit trip. Plus extra spending on gifts sometimes. I'll need to cook more meal for saving the money for visiting them.
I think I'm extremely nice.
My sister especially my big sister is a very catty woman,she can't shut her mouth up for not comment on my look, she called me fat or fat ass nonstop while I visited home.
What's the problem of them? They made me feel very uncomfortable everytime I visit home.
Very hard to get along with family from a village. They can't realize the problem of their way of interact with me. I'm a grown up woman, I need respect. I assume they don't understand respect for family member.
My mother kept saying that it wasted her life to brought me up and she won't count on me to feed up and take care of her while she's old. She said since I don't like this home, I can go pack up my stuff and go back to Shanghai now.
My Dad also started to insult me by saying that he doesn't think that my degree is a college degree and said that my sister"s is a real college because she passed gaokao.
They told me never come back and they have two daughters still. I didn't eat anything the entire day and left this home.
I really don't want to leave as I made a long way to come back my home. But at that moment my dignity got hurted and I just left and took my bag to stay in a temple for couple of hours to decide where to go. Charging my phone in the temple now and still there and sad.
They kept hurting me everytime I went home. As long as I fight back their nasty words, I got blamed and all people know my parents would blame me too. You know village people, parents can say whatever to adult children and they are always right.
seansarto:
I’ve said it before: “Parents can be the cruelest fate for a child”...but it could be worse look at the little girl who was burned with scalding water..just a horrifying fate there...that doesn’take mental or emotional abuse any less abusive though
seansarto:
Viki..seriously...As long as you are single and unmarried you will be seen as the sibling with selfish money...If you are close to your nephew then you could set up a bank account and stash away a little money for him in that account every week..Then when you want to buy a gift or your family wants cash for him, you can withdraw out of that account without it affecting money you allocate for your own personal expenses, well-being and savings...If you don't have any meaningful relationship with your nephew..you can always consider that account for your own children when you have them.....The thing is spending your money on your sister families kids isn't going to help your future in the log run and most likely your mother and father and sisters will have no money to help them either if they are busy spending it all NOW on your nephew. CYA...Cover your ass
you come across as being very similar to your family members - it is often said that the apple does not fall far from the tree.
a lot of what you say about your mother and sister can be attribute to yourself and how you interact with others in all of your relationships - professional and personal.
you are 'sensitive' to your mothers words, yet are very quick to abuse and insult those around you in a similar manner - i only have to look at how you have trashed colleagues, clients, family and posters on this forum - even the posters who have given you excellent suggestions.
you called your mother a 'psycho' to her face - WHO DOES THAT and still expect to be treated well by her and by the rest of the family?
do you have zero self control?
you contribute as much toxicity to your family relationship as they do - your family's attitude to you does not come out of no-where - YOU contribute and are responsible as much as they are.
did you honestly think your father would not defend your mother?
a good manager would know how to diffuse and deal with this sort of toxic situation.
why do you expect sympathy and understanding on this forum when you show none to any other poster here?
you are an adult yet you keep posting variations of the same problems over and over.
the only common factor in all these 'problems' is you, and your inability to react in any other way or learn from previous experience.
you 'need respect'
what have you done to earn any respect?
you have shown no respect and therefore deserve none.
if you want to see any change in any of your relationships, you have to change things about yourself and how you react to and deal with others.
Otherwise you will continue in the toxic cycle of negative relationships and an unfulfilled life.
you have posted the same self-pitying self-absorbed posts for years and can't seem to understand what needs to change.
i would recommend professional help - you don;t want any from people here, you only seem to want validation.
Viki87:
Keep acting you know everything. You follow every post of mine to abuse me and that's all you have treated another female poster. You are the one has issue, you seem tried to trashed both spongebob and me to show off in front of all male here how wonderful you are. Why do you turn to be such a pathetic woman? All you do is to put other women down? Are you having problem of getting laid in China? So many asian beautiful women here, and make you lose market? lol I have found some western women turn to be very catty,you are just the type I'm talking about.
Blondie_:
Viki, your constant whining and self-absorption (is it an online form of ‘SaJiao’?), and Spongbob’s contradictory claims and assertions (Chinese one minute, then American, then Chinese again – is he/she an ABC?) would become wearing on even the most positive ‘Pollyanna’ poster. But then I just call out BS, male or female – (I am an equal opportunity de-bunker of unicorn droppings).
I don’t know everything, but I learn from life experiences not to make the same mistakes twice. If you actually bothered to read any of my earlier posts to yourself and Spongebob, you would see that they were quite supportive of both of you. But then this doesn’t fit into your ‘martyr‘ narrative does it, having people offer sound and practical advice and then acting on it in such a way that would make you happier and more fulfilled?
Viki, for unicorns sake. take a look at yourself and make a positive change in your relationships if you want any happiness in your life. Try posting on other people’s questions with helpful comments. Take an interest in things and people outside your life. You would be surprised how much you could change people’s opinions if you showed that you were not a one-dimensional self-absorbed whine-fest. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and moaning about your life online – this is not an attractive trait in anyone (man or woman).
Viki, could you PLEASE give links for emails that indicate that other posters think I am a ‘pretentious bitch’? Without evidence, you have no credibility as anything more than a one-dimensional poster.
Happy New Year
Viki87:
But then this doesn’t fit into your ‘martyr‘ narrative does it, having people offer sound and practical advice and then acting on it in such a way that would make you happier and more fulfilled?
That's the ridiculous part I have ever come across, sound and pratical advice? I have received so many shits from bitch likes you, calling me slut or whatever shit and then claimed yourself to be the kind angel who gave me advice? Watch out at what you just said, no one appreciate your dirty mouth. Have you ever post anything about your bad part? No, all I hear is you keep posting how good you are and how smart you would handle in my situation blah blah, you are selfish and annoying you know.
Of course many don't like you, why would I have to post their links online for proving that to you?
Again, we just do not like you. So stop following me around, just go mind your own business and stop pretending that you are fair mother god.
Villagers always insulted people like saying you are fat, go lose weight or you are too old, you should get married soon and your ass is too big and you should just cover it. Once I fight back, they are exactly just likes you saying that I do not take their sound and practical advice. Do you see the similarity between you and them? Blondie, they are you, you are them, look at yourself in the mirror.
Over the few years, I learnt to not insult people while giving advice. I have a friend who finished college but work in the retail shop as a sales, I think she could end up better in career, I didn't say the job is shitty , go change it. I tried to consider her feelings and not try to make her feel that I am criticizing her. I just asked what's your new year plan? I lead her to speak out and I will try to give advice in a comfortable way.
While you are giving advice, go consider people's feeling and out yourself in other's shoes before speaking out. Yiu act like a little girl to my understanding.
Adults should know the tones of communicating with people. No bad words calling while giving advices. You do not even understand human psychological
You should film this, stream it and make a fortune.
Blondie_:
i suppose watching live streams actually beats having a life of your own
Blondie_:
@mike, 
not at all, just at the zombies who have their faces stuck in their phones 24/7.
i witnessed more near misses when they try to cross the road.
And it was incredibly dull listening to people whose sole topic of conversation was some 'live stream' of a wanna-be idiot eating some unidentifiable 'thing' 
@ Blondie. You beat me to it, everything you have said is so right. Vicki cannot and will not see the problems lie within herself. The best example of this is her saying about not getting respect, she does not understand that respect is not given automatically, it has to be earned. So much of what she has said she is just as guilty as the rest of her family. She believes that because she has a degree and left the village for the city everyone should worship at her feet. I know girls like this in the city where I am, and I say girls rather than women because that is what they, and Vicki, are 30 year old children. She is an "international sales manager" and yet she cannot manage the smallest number of staff without alienating them. As far as international goes, when was the last time you travelled abroad on business for your boss and took your sales team with you bringing back orders? That is what an international sales manager does Vicki and you have never done that. I look forward to you coming back to this site when you are forty and still saying why can't I get a foreign boyfriend, why do my work colleagues not like me and how to set up my company after I have stolen all my boss's contacts. Look in the mirror Vicki, what you will see there is as good as it gets for you, just accept it and try to grow up.
Viki87:
You just follow me around for many years to try to put me down. Loser. Are you that perfect to judge around like you are God? As I can record, you have failed many marriages, lol. So now you are try to get Blondie to your bed? Meet her and maybe you'll find how ugly she is. Often the type of women like to put other women down has low confident on their physical look I always have my friends come to protect my feelings from my family, so I'm not even alone this time. I do not need to be pretentious online to show off how perfect I am. I am real and show my human parts. At the end I went back to home for old parents even not even received apologies. I'm a larger person in life. Not a pathetic person keep pretending online. You said I didn't treat collegue well, lol, just try to get rid of the trouble maker who doesn't even want to correct mistake is what a manager does. Which she finally gone. Buy a nice meal to the one got fired for not being competence showed my humanity. Am I perfect? I don't think so, I have the gut to say that I make mistake too. No managers are perfect, I have known both Chinese and western managers, most will carry personal emotion to the job, you think all managers are so damn angel? Let's get into real career world, smart one won't try to offend the manager. Never try to seek equality between your manager and yourself. I don't paint myself well, I definetely won't want to have someone who showed no respect work in my team. Of course I need to protect my career first, thats my human part, I'm not a damn angel. Also if I allow any sales to show no respect, the rest of sales will not fear you and you won't able to make them do the work. A real manager ever had many experiences leading team know this secret, lol. I assume most of you are not. Some claimed yourself running a business, but it doesn't make you really understand management. Most good managers make staff fear you, respect won't get them do the job. A manager doesn't need to be liked by everyone.
Vicki, firstly I have had one failed marriage which lasted 23 years. I have run my own company for 24 years, and still attract new clients by recommendation, I have no need to advertise. In the past I have worked as a floor manager for a retail store, managing twenty staff in different departments. Let us compare to you. You obviously find it very difficult to maintain any relationship whether or not it is family, personal or work. You have said many times over the years about starting your own business, but when did you actually do it. The closest you have ever come to it is to consider stealing your bosses clients. As we say about politicians do not listen to what they say, watch what they do. As far as we can see you have done nothing. True to form as soon as any one says anything you do not like you resort to calling people names, that is what little children do in the playground at school. You call me a loser, well I have news for you, I Do Not Give A Sh**. Until you change your self your life is going to continue the way it is. I look forward to hearing what your mama says when you tell her that the bad man on the internet said something nasty.
Viki87:
You keep going around to call me bad name, now you paint yourself as someone gave me advice. I do not take that shit.
Yeah, if what you say tells the story accurately, then your mom is a bitch. I've known people like that (thankfully not family members) that are unhappy in life and they continously project it. Belittling others seems to be the preferred mode. Easy to deal with in life- just tell them to go suck a donkey d*ck,,,,
but what to do when the culprit is your own mom?? I dunno. I guess just smile and take it, and look at her and tell her you are working to improve. One thing I wouldn't do is fight about it, that leads nowhere good for either of you. And yes, I understand the temptation is strong to tell her to go eat a hot turd sub w/ a side of diarrhea sauce.
Blondie_:
@ Diverdude,
while i don't doubt that there are many toxic family relationships in China, this poster has a history of fake posting (because she is 'bored') and overdramatizing so it lacks credibility for being an anyway reliable poster. in addition it is almost the same post she posted last year.
Last year when Viki went to the US most posters appeared surprised, indicating that they thought she had already been there in 2016 when she initially claimed that she had traveled there. Again, an unreliable poster.
In addition, most Chinese would not 'expose family ugliness', which is why domestic and sexual violence is under-reported in China.
Viki’s posts are both amusing and sad. Before I was in China, I never met so many ‘adults’ who consider childish name-calling and passive/aggressive behaviour as appropriate professional conduct and responses to logical arguments. It is her (amusing) responses that make me so grateful I don’t have to deal with a particular segment of Chinese ‘professionals’ any more. but I can’t help but feel sad for her that she is banging her head against a wall over and over, and not allow herself to learn about how great and fulfilling life is outside her personal bubble if she just managed to stop and reflect.
Any women i know would never post either their sexual exploits or bad-mouthing of their families online. Even close friends here at home would never be so indiscreet (or lacking in judgement) as to post such material on any forums. I did advise Viki within the last 12 months that this was not a good idea, as it makes her seem untrustworthy.
Viki claims to have some friends that she spoke to. I suggest for her sake that she confine her 'dirty laundry' to her off-line social group, as once something is posted online it is there forever.
Viki87:
Again, pretenious bitch.I have been going to western countries, I have seen women from diffrent countries. I have met some crazy catty western women. stop acting like you are perfect. I can post whatever I want online, mind your business and stop following me around. I do not need to try hard to please male online like you did. I just here to make conversation,who said that you can't tell private thing to strangers?
