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Q: Would it be accepted to be a lesbian english teacher in Beijing

I would like to know how accepted this is in china. In the uk I have many rights to marry etc and not to be discriminated against. If I moved to china would it be best not to reveal my sexuality if I plan to stay for a year or two? I am sure now it would affect my chances to get a job and if I would be dictionaries against. My gf has been a student in the uk for four years and has to move back to china and is going to now study in china. So I want to move. She thinks we will be fine no discrimination but im not sure this is true as she doesn't even want to tell her parents she's gay.

5 years 44 weeks ago in  Relationships - Beijing

 
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I had a classmate who is a lesbian and fell in love with her tutor once...

As a male Chinese,my point is lesbian is accepted by most young generation no matter they are male or female.But you'd better not to reveal that in public,I mean you can do everything you wanna do with her,but better not to do that in front of your workmates or boss which may take you into trouble.All in all,it's fine but there are still some people who would have prejudices.Don't talk about that in your work and live in the way you want to.

 

Speaking of parents' altitude,I'm sorry but the common facts I knew are not very optimistic.Good luck

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beijing would be fine, but some smaller cities for traveling while you are here could be a problem if you show off the lifestyle to the public,

frequent many foreign clubs in beijing and i have seen gay couples there that tell me they come there because they want be hassled about their preferences.

my comment is anecdotal , dont live in beijing but travel there often.
if your girlfriend is chinese from a strict traditional family, well, my sympathies for your future loss and broken heart, happens to a lot of people.

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I believe in keeping your personal life at home and focus on the work.

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as Ambivalence writes. You problem in moving to China is not the job but your relationship, specifically with your gfs family. Being gay translates into not having grandchildren, most certainly a dealbreaker. 

If the topic comes up in job situations, don't lie, but also don't tell. E.g. if you are asked if you have a boyfriend, then you could say "maybe not a boyfriend, but a very good friend" etc. What you and your partner does at home will not matter for your working skills (unless it becomes too rough)

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You are supposed to keep your sexual orientation out of the school you are teaching at.

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what's lesbian english?

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I've met a few gay women with Chinese partners over the years. Keep it discrete, and no problems. Well, no more than the rest of us.

 

It is more important that you have the right qualifications and visas.

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Yes nothing wrong with that. All you need to worry about is if you can pronounce the words properly and show up to work. 

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There are cookies, bookies and too many rookies for me to sit here trying to be a hooky! Looky Looky don't call me a wooky. Touchy Touchy Feely Feely Spicy Spicy Nicey Nicey & that's what the doctor Ordered!!

 
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How is anyone going to know, unless you tell them, or do something in public? And, given that so many Chinese girls hold hands in public anyway, I don't think anyone will really notice.

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When I first arrived in China I thought it was rife with lesbians- almost everywhere I went women were holding hands and hugging.

 

However when I mentioned this to one colleague of mine she looked disgusted and said, 'Almost no lesbians in China'.

 

She claimed all the girls were just being friendly.

 

I'm sure you and your partner would get put in the same 'friendly' boat by most people.

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Just a theory, but Jason Collins was the first openly gay athlete to announce that he was in fact gay, he's an NBA player and he's a free agent without a job still, doesn't that tell you something?

China still isn't ready for peaches to peaches and bananas going for a dive ok. Philippines is the only country where I saw it was a normal part of the society.

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Maybe best to just say we are good friends in china. I don't mind been in the friendly boat Wink

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Why do you have to make such a point about being a 'lesbian English teacher' anyway?

 

Who cares?

 

Are you the kind of extravert psycho that has to make a point about your sexuality?

 

Just do your job! Smile

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Just keep any public show of affection out of it and you'll be fine. Once you get to know you workmates then maybe you can tell them if they show openness but otherwise keep it indoors. I haven't been to Beijing but I heard there are some gay bars there so at least you can go out somewhere to feel comfortable. 

 

Good luck!

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So let me get this straight you are a single mom, and you are a lesbian and you don't have a degree, gay marriage is not acceptable in China and you want to come here and find a job? Oh my god this will never work.

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Whatever you do, don't tell ANYONE at your school. The Chinese teachers are just looking for a way to get you fired because they HATE you for making way more than they'll ever be able to make. They'll smile, and be friendly when required, but they will also sit apart from the foreign teachers and trash talk you all behind your backs. 

They'd love to hear that you're gay, so they can gossip to the parents and administration and get your ass fired. 

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Thanks for the replies even if they are mostly negative. Don't know what my gf was thinking saying in would be ok for us to be an open lesbian couple in china it's obviously not. Maybe theists four years of living as a student in the uk she has forgotten what they are like in china. I think it's terrible people are discriminated against for been gay.

It does seem a bit impossible me and my gf been together but we love each other a lot.

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I live in dalian. I see countless women holding hands with eachother. This is considered normal. In the USA they would be considered gay. Im not talking twelve year old. 20+ grown women arm in arm.

Also seen women making out with other women in club here

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I was going to ask how this turned out, but after reading the comments...  Was this question edited?  What was the original content?

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Your plan sounds doomed to fail and I would assume that your girlfriend knows this. Many Chinese people don't wish to be confrontational so perhaps by agreeing with your plan, that won't work, she is trying to tell you that your relationship has run its course.

In the case that you refuse to accept this, have you considered what school will be like for an English kid in a Chinese school? He will need to go to an international school which is quite expensive. How will an illegally working teacher afford this? Health care? Mum in detention for working illegally? Questions will be asked and visas checked especially for a single foreign mum with a kid in tow.

You really haven't thought this through very well.

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Have fun meeting her parents. They'll be thrilled to find out that their one and only daughter has decided to become a lesbian with a foreign woman - a foreign woman with a child no less. Chinese in-laws find it hard to accept well paid, hard-working, young and attractive male suitors as good enough for their daughters. However on God's good Earth did you ever think that this might possibly work?

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This thread is littered with fallen replies.........

However, all is not lost!

 

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If you wanted to teach english you would need to keep your sexual preference to yourself. Something you should really be doing anyway but if parents found out many would withdraw their kids from your classes. 

 

I have gay friends, I don t think china is oppressive towards homos, you just can't tell your workers about you sexuality, but still tell your friends, go to gay bars. Way more open minded than a lot of countries like Saudi or Russia. 

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OP must be "happily married" by now..this post is more than a year old

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