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Q: Would you do it?

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Long time Chinese GF has medical procedure...can't have intercourse for 2 months.

1 month in she offers to call a friend of a friend (girl) over to help me (ahem).

She says we can take care of business in the spare room while she watches TV.

I said are you FREAKIN NUTS???  You think this is OK?  I said I am happy with us doing the other things for now.  

She says no problem..only one time because I can't right now and you need it....better someone I know..

She is very serious and even told a friend about the idea and after the friend said WTF... she then preceded to justify the idea to her.

I said no but as I am a man I am still contemplating the offer.

 

Coolest GF ever or massive trap and eventual quagmire? 

 

So...would you do it?

7 years 8 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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she probably thinks she could lose you over her problem, if you take the offer, tell her nobody you both know, go to massage parlor and have her pick the girl. i would not take the offer though.

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I wouldn't do it. It's not worth it for many reasons. This is a slippery slope; you'll want to do it again, and again. Eventually, you'll get sick of her (your girlfriend) and go for someone else.

 

Do you love her? You can wait... if you won't, well... then you don't. My best advice is to just let a different friend do it -- your hand.

 

Like ambiavalentmace says, she's probably afraid you'll leave her. And actually, this is kind of making the stereotype worse... you know the stereotype that so many Chinese women are okay with their husbands sleeping around here and there? That crap's been drilled into them from this unfaithful society.

 

Not only that, if you accept, then it opens the door for her to justify an affair behind your back in the future. If you can show her that you're willing to wait for her, and be exclusive only to her, she'll be really touched.

 

Just wait!

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In the words of Admiral Akbar, "It's a trap!"

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WTF! One of those women who are ok with their husband having a second wife. She might love your money and status more than she loves you. 

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you're ina trap and she's no coolest girlfriend ever. Actually, the way she thinks about this it will be a reason for her to do it with someone else when less expected. It's the way her mind is set. You better look for another girl friend. Your suspicion is already your answer and as Hulk says, just have patience. Maybe she doesn't feel enough worthy of your love. You might want to show that you are ready for anything to prove the love for her. Although, if you love her you will never  consider such offer ever. It's a huge NO! Honestly that would have disappointed me so far that I would have broken with her soon or later. 

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hahahah, ive heard of girls turning a blind eye to their husband  sleeping around  but this is something else. i agree with hulk if you accept the offer she is more likely to give into temptation if an opportunity presents itself. dont go for it, are you an animal cant you wait,id say your looking for trouble if you are thinking about it

 

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I've been on a dry spell for 4 months, I'm sure you can hold it for another month.

 

Besides, it sounds a bit fishy, like it would be some kind of test of faith from her or something similar.

If I were you, I wouldn't do it.

Better regret not having sex once than regret disappointing your loved one.

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I would stay away from it.

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FTW???

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You're asking this question,  so apparently you're not serious about her.   The situation she is proposing is a recipe for disaster.

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you are taking the Rock Star thing a little to far if you went through with itsurprise

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Its a trap for sure!!! Wait it out and just chill, get an xbox or something for now. Then when shes feeling better, you'll be glad you waited. If you really love her, im sure you will make the right decision. wink

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Even if her thinking is honest and without intending a trap it still is. If you did it when she said it was ok, then she would assume you would do it behind her back at your will. And later down the road, maybe you have a little argument one day, and that weekend you stay out for one more beer with you friends, then BAMM, "where were you really, you were with a girl." and then no more sex for way longer than two months.

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I agree with most of the posters, do NOT do it. These things, even if meant well and in full good faith, have a way of bitting one in the ass.  Do like in junion high, and make renew your romance with your right or left hand.

Believe me, you will gain a LOT of "brownie points" in the future. No matter what you do, accept her offer or not, she is going to remember this for years to come.

Do the right thing and you will go up even more in her eyes.

Best of luck!

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Come on! You're playing truth or dare with us, so what's the dare?

 

But no, I'm old fashioned (or just plain old) one man one woman, no exceptions (for me).

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 Your girlfriend is nuts. No one has ever died because they had to abstain for a while.  Would you bring a guy to do her just because you couldn't due to your health condition. It's good to enjoy platonic relationship once in a while.

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Don't! It's a trap!

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Would be hard to say no, even though that is obviously the thing to do if you value your future relationship with your girl. It would be much safer if it was with a stranger, not her friend.

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Obviously if you love her then the answer is no. But I have a silly techical question... couldn't you just go to a KTV or massage place and not mention it? At worst she finds out that you did what she offered you in the first place. Disclaimer: prostitution is bad and eternal Hellfire and whatnot.

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I hate to bring this up. Do you wonder what goes on when you go home?

Think this will lead to a three way?

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Dude, you're living the dream! One you miss is one you never get back!

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Doesn't her hand and mouth still work?

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Doesn't her hand and mouth still work?

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trap, find a one-nighter on your own or tough it out. if you do it , it will come back to haunt you.

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That reminds me of the old  joke:

 

Wife: "I've been to the gynecologist and he says we can't have sex for two weeks!"

 

Husband: "What did the dentist say?"

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