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Q: How do you know when it is time to leave China?
I'm been having a lot of 'how long do you plan to stay?' conversations lately and listening to more a more people complain about China. Sorting of starting to feel myself get the way - the grumpy generalizations, the lack of patience with the things one found 'interesting and different' before. At what point do you say byebye? And what is the long lasting damage to your memories of China if you overstay?
When the day comes and you wake up feeling depressed, lonely and not going anywhere in your career and personal life, and all you do is complain and give off negative energy, then it is time to leave.
i complain about everything here since the day i came here. yet i only came here for my gf and still stay only cause of my gf. i earn here more than back home but seriously its not worth it.
still working on an exit strategy but its hard if my gf is too lazy to lern german for the phucking A1 test which is required to get the visa
in general its time to leave if you wake up and thing: i hate it here.
being lonely, have no friends, hate the job, hate the greedy mentality, the traffic, the food etc
definitly time to go
i always tell myself its not everything bad here. but for some reason i cant lie to myself all the time, yes its not all bad but things home were better.
I just tell myself: DEAL WITH IT! for now at least
I complained and was grumpy back in England, the only difference is now i'm learning to complain and be grumpy in Chinese. Most people here don't have the luxury of being able to decide to stay or not. If you wanna go, you should just go. You can always come back later. You can even go to the border and hop back and forth across it while giving the finger to the poor sod working there who dreams of being able to leave even once.
I've found that any time is a good time to leave China. I always enjoy leaving. But for some weird, sadistic reason I also enjoy coming back after a brief, yet needed, respite from here.
as soon as the wife is persuaded
dom87:
think i m stuck at 30%
cant get her to learn the freakin language for more then 30mins in half a year...
Scandinavian:
my hurdle is the co-dependant MIL, that puts her own needs ahead of everyone else.
Hulk:
Well, if you live in the EU, bring your MIL with you. Can't you do that?
We're actually working on getting the in-laws here, but we're going to need to buy them a separate house first. We don't want them bothering us all day. Now if I could just find a job since I almost completely exhausted my savings... oh well, still in college.
Scandinavian:
The MIL is a hurdle in her thinking China is the greatest place on earth. She would never want to leave. That being said, my country would not allow her permanent residence based on being my wifes mother. It's not very friendly in that sense. Also, if it was actually possible, and she wanted to, removing a person from her network and all her friends just to be close to us, seems not to be a favor to her.
According to description of above, "yesterday was already late".
When you feel like being smoking 2 box of cigarettes a day even if you don't smoke anymore.
When you stand on a street corner and conduct the car horns like an orchestra thinking: This is music to my ears!
I feel the same sometimes, I guess I've been cooped up here too long. The last time I left the mainland was almost 2 years ago. The only reason I stay is for the wife. She would be willing to live in another country but she has a good, stable job that pay's well and has good prospects, better than she could find elsewhere.
smoglife:
Yea I think having a break/holiday is key. I hadn't left for 18 months and was feeling it. But 3 weeks back home and now i remember why I'm here.
teggsnose:
I have to visit Hong Kong approx. every two months - it is my little luxury here.
hiddenjelly:
Yeah, my old visa was like that. Hong Kong every two months. But I only stayed for 1 day so it was pretty stressful going there and coming back all the same day, especially as the customs was in the old building which was slow and tiresome.
When you frown at all of the street food instead of salivating.
When going to work becomes an actual challenge.
When you avoid contact with fresh off the boat foreigners because you know being around you will kill their enthusiasm.
When you can't remember why you left home.
When you stop even trying to learn the language because understanding what people say about you only makes it worse.
When you consistently look down at the ground instead of straight ahead in order to avoid the eyes (this is a big thing in Shanghai)
When beer is the absolute best part of your day.
Yes.......I fear it is my time.
livingfree85:
Baiju is something that will always stick with me. Haven't had it in at least 2 years and I can still smell it somewhere in the back of my nasal cavity. You must be a strong mofo
Ain't leaving 
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I'd rather have this than an idiotic 9-5 job....and wow - 2 weeks off a year! (or one).
Screw that, I can even wear my PJs to the grocery store here LOL. 
Hulk:
I'm proud of you, manasyt. You're doing the right thing. For me, I kinda wish it was!
Nessquick:
While everyone do a 9-5 job, why the phuk I do 9-6 job ? 
