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Q: Adoption in China. Wtf. ?
About two months ago, one day while walking home, the wife notices the people in the second floor apartment has some small clothes hanging to dry. A quick conversation with "is it for their dog", "she has not looked pregnant" etc takes place. We have special interest in these people as their dog would be a perfect piece in the puzzle to carry our dogs genes onwards. So we often talk to them while the dogs are running on the grass.
A couple of days later we meet them with a stroller. The questions are answered. They have a little girl, she was adopted from a children hospital in Guangzhou that takes in abandoned babies (that would be girls)
I was impressed. Chinese people adopting a girl.
Now, some months later, I have met the couple out walking their dog, playing on the playground many many times. Just, I have not seen any baby. There has not been any baby clothes on their balcony for weeks.
So the question. Can people adopt children, just to offload them onto their parents? What the f*** is the point, I've always considered people who adopt more likely to desire having children, than e.g. those who become parents after drunken sex and clumsy use of contraceptives. If you adopt, but you don't want to take care of your child, you are not really helping the child are you?
10 years 44 weeks ago in Family & Kids - China
Offloading a baby onto your ageing parents is the normal Chinese method, so why would adopted children get special treatment?
You're right about the lack of responsibility though. Chinese girls buy tiny, fluffy, cute dogs, then a few months later - because the dogs get older and less cute - abandon them on the street. I think the novelty of having a baby wears off quickly too. Chinese people aren't good at contemplating reality, let alone reality in the future - it's too abstract.
All that said, I'd imagine the baby is better off with grandparents than in an unwanted baby ward.
This is a good thing. It's a much better life than the orphanage can provide them.
I've personally witnessed dozens of adoptions in China, and I am very happy with the way the government goes about doing it. Abandoned babies get better homes, and get a chance at life that they otherwise wouldn't have had.
I am, however, totally against the baby kidnapping trade. You will almost never see a baby boy being adopted unless he is disabled. If you see a non-disabled baby boy being adopted, human trafficking may have been involved. Unless the mother was completely destitute, or is farming babies to sell... ugh.
Sams, Hugger. I understand you, and agree that random grandparents are most likely going to be a lot better than the orphanage. But these people would never have adopted if they had a proper retirement plan. The kid is their old age meal ticket.
Hulk:
Theoretically, they already have a meal ticket in the form of their money. The Chinese government will not allow any adoption without serious, and I mean serious financial backup, etc. They very likely had to have their entire home investigated, all of their bank accounts (including the grandparents), along with a full background check on everyone living there.
Besides, this is Chinese culture. Chinese people offload the baby onto the grandparents for a while so they can work hard and make a lot of money for retirement. They are probably busy working too hard.
They will get the same love and care that pretty much every little emperor gets.
Scandinavian:
They live in a 2.5Million apartment (but then again, so do I, and I don't own shit in China) and they have a relatively new Camry. .
Samsara:
"The kid is their old age meal ticket."
Like most daughters in China. That is exactly what my girlfriend is to her mother.
